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Daily Mail
14-05-2025
- General
- Daily Mail
I'm a professional decluttering expert... here's how excess junk may be RUINING your relationship
A decluttering expert has revealed how a buildup of stuff in your home may be ruining your relationship... and what you can do to fix it. Between dresser drawers that can barely shut, overflowing closets, and boxes filled with who-knows-what, people have become accustomed to living with mess in their abodes. But according to Lesley Spellman - co-founder of The Declutter Hub and co-author of the new book Reset Your Home: Unpack Your Emotions and Your Clutter, Step by Step alongside Ingrid Jansen - that chaos may be doing more harm than you think. In fact, Lesley told that clutter in your physical space can slowly creep into your relationship, creating tension and frustration, and igniting what seems like a constant battleground. She cited research that shows one in six adults has considered breaking up with someone because of how messy they are. The study across 2,000 adults in a relationship revealed that 47 percent argue on a weekly basis about clutter in their home - with 23 percent admitting their partner's approach to tidiness has put a strain on their relationship. 'For many couples and families, disagreements about cleanliness and disorganization are a constant source of friction,' Lesley explained. 'One partner is likely to feel overwhelmed and it often spills into resentment if they constantly feel like they are the only one who ever thinks about tidying up. 'What starts with minor arguments about shoes in the hallway or dishes in the sink can snowball into shouting matches and even tears.' Lesley - who, along with Ingrid, has helped thousands regain control of their homes - explained that a messy environment increases stress, makes it harder to relax, and even affects sleep quality. Over time, that stress can bubble over and can pervade interactions, making couples more irritable, less patient, and more likely to argue. According to the expert, one of the most common 'sources of tension' between a couple when it comes to clutter is a 'differing' stance on tidiness and 'volume of stuff.' 'What feels like a reasonable amount of belongings to one person may feel like complete chaos to another,' she noted. 'These different levels of tolerance often reflect longstanding clutter personality traits or past experiences, making them especially tricky to work through and resolve.' So what can you do to fix it if you feel clutter may be casting a dark shadow over your romance? Well, Lesley dished, 'The key to this and indeed to most conflicts is communication and compromise. 'Talk it through, discuss the elephant in the room, be open and honest. Acknowledge each other's preferences but discuss how all involved need to be mindful of the others' levels of tolerance. 'Understanding that your partner isn't trying to be unnecessarily difficult - they simply have a different threshold for mess - can be the first step towards a solution that works for both parties.' Lesley explained that eliminating clutter may feel daunting, but it can actually be a transformative experience that ultimately strengthens your relationship if you do it together. She pointed out that when couples work together to sort through belongings, they're forced to make joint decisions, negotiate priorities, and express opinions. 'For example, deciding whether to keep or donate a sentimental item opens up interesting conversations about happy times,' she continued. 'These discussions can bring couples closer by revealing the stories behind the stuff - and creating a closer bond.' Lesley noted that a home that feels 'peaceful and organized' usually leads to a 'calmer mind,' making it 'easier to relax, connect, and enjoy leisure time with your partner.' 'You're not constantly distracted by visual noise or reminded of tasks that still need to be done,' she added. Lesley (seen with Ingrid) said eliminating clutter may feel daunting, but it can actually be a transformative experience that ultimately strengthens your relationship if you do it together 'Instead, your home is a lovely place to be that you both want to be in and can feel proud of.' 'Decluttering isn't just about stuff, instead it's about your emotional connection to your stuff and discussing and understanding your partner's rationale for keeping what you perceive as clutter paves the way for positive conversations and outcomes.' In the end, she reminded readers that decluttering can 'make room for happiness, peace and calm,' creating a space where your relationship can thrive. 'Decluttering can feel daunting, but using it as something that can help build and strengthen your relationship can really shift your perspective,' she concluded. 'Set shared goals, assign different tasks based on your individual strengths, energy levels and celebrate the milestones together. 'Whether it's clearing out the garage or finally organizing the kitchen, every small victory is a step toward a more harmonious home - and a stronger relationship. You did it together!'
Daily Mail
13-05-2025
- General
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE I'm a professional decluttering expert, here's how you can eliminate mess from your home for good
A professional declutter has shared vital tips to eliminating the mess from your home - for good. Between dresser drawers than can barely shut, overflowing closets, and boxes filled with who-knows-what, people have become accustomed to living with mess in their homes. But according to Lesley Spellman and Ingrid Jansen - founders of The Declutter Hub and co-authors of the new book Reset Your Home: Unpack Your Emotions and Your Clutter, Step by Step - that chaos may be doing more harm than you think. Thankfully, Lesley spoke exclusively with about the simple steps that you can take to rid the disarray from your abode once and for all. Take some time to understand why you held on to something for so long Lesley - who, along with Ingrid, has helped thousands regain control of their homes - explained to that the first step to decluttering is to try to 'understand why you kept something' for so long. 'Decluttering is about emotions first, stuff second,' she dished. 'Until you understand the reason you're holding onto something, you'll keep repeating the cycle. 'This is not about chucking stuff into a binbag willy-nilly. The key to decluttering is understanding what made you buy something, why it's still sitting there unused six months later and how to avoid making the same mistake again. Then, and only then, can the bin bag come out.' Face the fact that if you haven't used an item you bought years ago by now, you probably never will Lesley explained that often times, clutter builds up when people buy or get gifted something and fail to use it. Then, because they feel guilty about wasting money on it, they refuse to get rid of it. Think about it - have you ever looked at a cooking gadget that you never opened and told yourself, 'I should keep that because one day I might need it?' But according to Leslie, if you haven't used it by now, you probably never will. 'We hold on to things because of the guilt we feel about spending a lot of money on a gadget we have never used,' she said. 'That juicing recipe book we've never opened but aspire to, that dinner service we inherited that just doesn't work but we feel overly sentimental about. 'Guilt, aspiration and sentimentality are the emotions that make us hold on to things that become clutter and stop us from easily being able to find and access the things we need on a day to day basis.' Be prepared to confront your past impulse purchases Lesley pointed out that many people also build up clutter around their homes because they buy things without thinking, and don't want to face their 'impulse' purchases later on. 'Retail therapy is a very real thing as we succumb to that feeling of wanting a treat after a hectic week,' she said. 'Make-up, toiletries, perfume - they are the perfect pick-me-up but when you get home and the dopamine hit has worn off, we often find we have another three or five or 10 of the very same thing also bought in haste. 'Spending time gathering like with like and confronting yourself with past purchases can be enlightening and means that the results of your decluttering will be more impactful long-term.' She pointed out that beauty products are 'designed' to be used up quickly, so if it's been years and it's still mostly full, you should ask yourself, 'Will it ever be used?' Try to get rid of emotional connections you have with clothes that don't fit anymore Lesley added that many people tend to keep clothes long after they either no longer fit or aren't in style anymore because of an 'emotional connection' they may have with the clothing items. Of course it's hard to let go of a shirt that was once your favorite, or a pair of jeans that have a sweet memory tied to them. But the expert explained that your closet should be filled with 'opportunity' rather than feelings from the past. 'Your emotional connection to your clothes is deep seated and it can take some soul searching to let them go,' she said. 'We owe it to ourselves to open our wardrobes in the morning and see opportunity rather than wading through things that don't fit to find things that do. 'Having clothes in your wardrobe that don't fit is common. More often than not they hang around for many years before realism kicks in and you can admit that the likelihood of wearing them again is slim. 'Let's not perpetuate that guilty negative feeling by keeping things that don't fit and see decluttering as a way to reconnect with items that are serving us well for our current lifestyle.' Be aware of clutter blindness - especially with sentimental items like photographs or momentos Lesley pointed out that often, people develop 'clutter blindness' in their homes, which means they don't even see things that really shouldn't be there anymore. This is especially common with sentimental items like old photographs or momentos, which once meant a lot to you. 'Because you are in these rooms every day, you may have become clutter blind,' she warned. 'You are seeing these things so often that you no longer identify them as clutter' 'Because you are in these rooms every day, you may have become clutter blind,' she warned. 'You are seeing these things so often that you no longer identify them as potential clutter. 'What can really help you is to take a photo or video of your room. That allows you to look at things with a fresh pair of eyes and really home in on the things that no longer enhance your space.' Break the process down into chunks so it doesn't feel as overwhelming Lesley recommended breaking the process up by room so it doesn't feel as overwhelming. 'Every item you find requires a decision to be made so don't underestimate how tiring that can be,' she said. 'The best way to tackle your decluttering is by breaking it down into small manageable chunks. 'Don't aim to do your whole house in one weekend, otherwise there's every chance you'll get fed up and abandon the project completely before you're done.' She added that you can also separate at the process into three different steps: decluttering, organizing and cleaning. 'All three of those things are completely different,' she dished. In the end, Lesley noted that 'decluttering and organizing your home takes time and energy,' and is never an easy feat. But she hopes that following her tips can make the process go smoother. And she reminded readers that it will be so worth it once it's done. 'There's nothing quite so satisfying as seeing your unwanted items get a second life via goodwill,' she concluded. 'And always remember less stuff means less to clean. Best of luck!'
Daily Mail
01-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Helen Flanagan looks dejected as she holds her head in her hands during train journey - after admitting she's lost her £3.5m fortune and struggles to afford a cab
Helen Flanagan looked dejected while posing for her latest Instagram post on Wednesday - after admitting she's lost her £3.5million-a-year fortune and struggles to afford a cab. The former Coronation Street actress, 34 - who shares three children with footballer ex Scott Sinclair - was seen with head in hands as she sat on a train. Captioning the post, in which she wore a fluffy pink coat over a green top, accessorised with a pair squared glasses, she wrote: 'Treated myself to some Miu Miu glasses for my tired dry eyes.' Helen's latest post comes after she admitted her financial circumstances were so dire that she sometimes struggled to afford basic taxi fares. Another photo saw her sporting a green T-shirt and a watch with a silver and gold chain as she rested a hand on her face. She also posted a cute snap of herself alongside daughter Delilah, six, one of her three children with Sinclair. A short clip saw the TV personality cutting a stylish figure in a red and pink robe with a reddy-pink hat as she let her blonde tresses loose for a trip to Aintree races. In another snap, Helen and boyfriend Robbie Talbot, 45, put on their best pouts while in a pub, as she wore a pink cardigan over a black-and-white checked blouse and he sported a grey quarter-zip sweater over a white t-shirt. She was also spotted having a laugh with makeup artist Carla Lawson Jones in a photo which saw her don a knitted pink sweater and baby blue scrunchie. And one fun picture saw some pals sharing an embrace at a party. The April update comes after she shocked fans earlier this month by announcing that she has been forced to put her eight-bedroom £1m Lancashire 'forever home' up for sale as she can no longer afford its upkeep. Speaking candidly on The Declutter Hub podcast this month, Helen explained: 'It actually makes me sad that I'm going to be leaving soon because I actually put so much effort into it. 'When we moved I put like a lot of my savings into doing the house up and making it look really beautiful. 'But it's a big house. It's an eight-bedroom house, which is obviously really hard to keep on top of.' She said of the future move: 'We are selling the house now which will be nice to have a change. Because I was with Scott for so long I was used to moving house a lot (because he is a footballer) so it's normal for me. 'I could now never stay in one place for too long I don't think. I like a change, I love it.' She added: 'It makes me sad that I am going to be leaving this house soon because I have put so much effort into it. I put loads of my savings into making it look really beautiful. It's eight bedrooms which is hard to keep on top of - it's a lot. 'When we move I will struggle to downsize - I don't want to not sounds down to earth. Bu it will feel weird. It will be more manageable for me. 'I don't know where I want to live next. I've always wanted to live in London but there is such a price difference there. But it would be amazing for work and I do want a change. It's been a heavy few years for me so it will be a lovely fresh change.' She revealed that her 'lovely boyfriend' is from Liverpool and has two kids so 'that is a consideration too' for the move, adding: 'But the decision will come to me I'm sure.' During the podcast chat she also reminisced on living in the house she is now selling and all the memories that have come along with it. She said: 'The house I'm in at the moment I've been here for four years. That's a big deal as when I was with Scott we moved house so many times and I don't actually know how many houses I lived in - Swansea, London, Scotland, Cheshire, everywhere. Helen started dating former Manchester City footballer Scott in 2009 while the winger was playing for Wigan Athletic in the north-west, but they are believed to have split in 2022 Adored by millions for her long-running role in Coronation Street, Helen (pictured, left, aged nine, and, right, in 2011) once appeared to have it all 'We were renting and then to move into this home it was so nice to have that family home and obviously it didn't go how I wanted it to go but it's still been nice to have the family home. 'He bought me the house that I'm in now as a surprise. It was very sweet. We moved back to the area that I'm from and it was so sweet. But Charlie was about three months old at this point and I was struggling post-natally so it was tough timing.' Helen revealed in court earlier this year that she was 'really struggling financially' before being banned from driving for six months after being caught speeding twice in 16 days. She begged not to lose her licence due to her being a 'full-time mother' and would be unable to afford taxis to get her kids to school. Helen claimed her boyfriend Robbie was driving her £66,000 Audi Q7 when it was caught speeding. However, she was charged with two counts of failing to give information relating to the identification of a driver. Helen said: 'My job really is being a mum at home. Their dad works away. It's really difficult at the moment now for me to be earning money. I earn money on social media but it kind of varies what I earn. 'I think there might be a perception maybe that I would easily be able to afford a driver but that's quite far from the case. I've got enough money in my account to pay off my tax and my VAT and basically that's about it.' In 2018 Scott got down on one knee and proposed to Helen with an extravagant diamond ring while the pair enjoyed a family holiday at Disneyland Paris. But if she felt her engagement meant her dreams were all coming true, the opposite was perhaps true. The marriage never actually took place. And the postponement of her celebrity wedding to Scott in 2020 was the first obvious crack in their previously high-rolling lifestyle. They paid £840,000 in cash for their 'forever home' near Bolton, Greater Manchester in 2021 - and later spent tens of thousands more improving the house she is now being forced to sell. Sadly, their relationship broke down about a year later, with the couple announcing their separation in June 2022. Helen blamed her mental health problems, and Scott's inability to deal with them, for the break-up of their family, but she continued to work but sporadically as she juggled her role as a single mother with media work. Her last big payday was two years ago when she was paid an estimated £300,000 to return to the I'm A Celebrity jungle, this time in South Africa, for just two weeks. She appeared on Celebrities Go Dating the following year. But her profile is now much lower, her earning opportunities fewer - and she is now doing less prestigious work: Helen has been signed up by lingerie firm Ann Summers who pay her to post sponsored Instagram posts to her 1.1 million followers. Her new boyfriend, former non-league footballer Robbie, is not believed to be wealthy. The actress's company HJF Darling Ltd published accounts for the year to the end of August 2024 of £135,387, leaving after tax a balance of £75,615. In Helen's case, she has been very candid: in January she told a court she had 'lost basically all my money'. And indeed it's believed she has been earning less than £100,000 a year in recent years - barely 20 per cent of what she once commanded in fees.
Daily Mail
28-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Helen Flanagan insists 'it doesn't matter about spending lots of money' on her children - after 'broke' actress was forced to sell her £1million home
Helen Flanagan has insisted it 'doesn't matter about spending lots of money' on making memories with her children amid her money woes. The Coronation Street actress recently revealed she is being forced to sell her £1million home after being left 'broke'. She has also reportedly asked Corrie bosses if she could return to the soap that made her a star. Last week, Helen - who often jets away on plush holidays - admitted that she's not interested in splashing the cash on 'fancy' things anymore. And after admitting she's 'broke', Helen ditched the lavish holidays for a low-key trip to Scotland with her daughter Matilda, nine, during the Easter holidays. She wrote: 'I loved the Easter holidays. 'The first week the children went to their daddies which they loved I usually like a break but I didn't enjoy it this time my PMDD was really kicking in and I just had lots of life stress to deal with x 'I loved the second week as me and Delilah went to Scotland together and I loved the bonding time with her x she's so cute x 'I didn't feel guilty on Matilda as I've done so many things with Matilda like Paris and New York on her own and I'm constantly with Charlie x 'What I have learnt though is it doesn't matter about taking them somewhere fancy and spending lots of money but what does matter is just spending time with your children and that time were they just feel really loved x 'I love a UK staycay so give me page a follow @helenshols (#AD)' It comes after the soap star admitted that she will struggle to downsize from her eight-bedroom £1million Lancashire house - as she is forced to sell the home after being left 'broke' following her split from ex-fiancé Scott Sinclair. Helen bought the lavish property in Bolton with footballer Scott shortly before their split in 2022, but after being left 'broke' by the break-up she has confirmed she will be soon be moving to a smaller house. Speaking on The Declutter Hub podcast with Ingrid Jansen and Lesley Spellman this week, she insisted she was 'down to earth' but that moving would be hard. And after admitting she's 'broke', Helen ditched the lavish holidays for a low-key trip to Scotland with her daughter Matilda during the Easter holidays She also revealed that despite the house already being on the market she doesn't know where she will move to next - admitting London might be too expensive. Helen co-parents kids Matilda, Delilah, six, and Charlie, four, with ex Scott but is now in a relationship with new boyfriend Robbie Talbot who lives in Liverpool, where his two children are based. She said of the future move: 'We are selling the house now which will be nice to have a change. Because I was with Scott for so long I was used to moving house a lot (because he is a footballer) so it's normal for me. 'I could now never stay in one place for too long I don't think. I like a change, I love it.' She added: 'It makes me sad that I am going to be leaving this house soon because I have put so much effort into it. I put loads of my savings into making it look really beautiful. It's eight bedrooms which is hard to keep on top of - it's a lot. 'When we move I will struggle to downsize - I don't want to not sounds down to earth. Bu it will feel weird. It will be more manageable for me. 'I don't know where I want to live next. I've always wanted to live in London but there is such a price difference there. But it would be amazing for work and I do want a change. It's been a heavy few years for me so it will be a lovely fresh change.' She added that her 'lovely boyfriend' is from Liverpool and has two kids so 'that is a consideration too' for the move, adding: 'But the decision will come to me I'm sure.' It comes after the soap star admitted that she will struggle to downsize from her eight-bedroom £1million Lancashire house - as she is forced to sell the home after being left 'broke' following her split from ex-fiancé Scott Sinclair (pictured) During the podcast chat she also reminisced on living in the house she is now selling and all the memories that have come along with it. She said: 'The house I'm in at the moment I've been here for four years. That's a big deal as when I was with Scott we moved house so many times and I don't actually know how many houses I lived in - Swansea, London, Scotland, Cheshire, everywhere. 'We were renting and then to move into this home it was so nice to have that family home and obviously it didn't go how I wanted it to go but it's still been nice to have the family home. 'He bought me the house that I'm in now as a surprise. It was very sweet. We moved back to the area that I'm from and it was so sweet. But Charlie was about three months old at this point and I was struggling post-natally so it was tough timing.' Helen revealed in court earlier this year that she was 'really struggling financially' before being banned from driving for six months after being caught speeding twice in 16 days. She begged not to lose her licence due to her being a 'full-time mother' and would be unable to afford taxis to get her kids to school. Helen claimed her boyfriend Robbie was driving her £66,000 Audi Q7 when it was caught speeding. However, she was charged with two counts of failing to give information relating to the identification of a driver. Helen said: 'My job really is being a mum at home. Their dad works away. It's really difficult at the moment now for me to be earning money. I earn money on social media but it kind of varies what I earn. 'I think there might be a perception maybe that I would easily be able to afford a driver but that's quite far from the case. I've got enough money in my account to pay off my tax and my VAT and basically that's about it.' The luxurious house that Helen has put on the market, which she described as her 'forever home', boasts a huge walk-in wardrobe, a Harry-Potter playroom, and plush furniture in the living room. She previously teased a glimpse of the wizarding themed room adorned with themed motifs, a broom over the door and even a starry night sky scattered with letters from Hogwarts. Elsewhere, Helen has shared a look at her expansive kitchen, with the bright, white space perfect for family dinners. The kitchen and living room area is finished with grey wood floors, with the kitchen boasting plenty of cupboard space.
Daily Mail
23-04-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE Helen Flanagan reveals Easter weekend disaster after boozy night out and shares secret crush on one of the Celebrity Big Brother finalists
Helen Flanagan has admitted her Easter weekend went less than perfectly after she went out and drank too much during a boozy night out on Saturday. The Coronation Street actress, 34, who was attending a party hosted by Vanessa Feltz 's daughter Saskia, admitted she took it too far over the bank holiday weekend. The soap star joked that after a few too many alcoholic drinks during her night out she couldn't cope with her kids asking where their Easter eggs were the next day. Helen revealed it was her turn to have the children she shares with her ex Scott Sinclair over the weekend. The couple share daughters Matilda, nine, and Delilah, seven, and four-year-old son Charlie. Speaking to Lizzie Cundy at the party, Helen said: 'I did have a great Easter with the kids, it was so nice because usually they are at their dad's. So it was my turn to have them over Easter. 'But Lizzie honestly I went out on the Saturday night and I did get too drunk, I had the worst hangover. So I woke up and they're all going "mummy where is the Easter bunny?" and I was dying.' Helen also weighed in on rumours she is due to return to Coronation Street and revealed a secret crush on one of her former castmates. She said: 'I've heard this rumour all of the time, it's never been confirmed - I'd absolutely love to go back. I really want to get back into acting, that what I want to do.' When asked if she has been watching Jack in Celebrity Big Brother, Helen said: 'Yes! I love Jack, I used to have such a crush on him when I was younger because we used to tutor together. But Jack's so funny and he's such a lovely guy.' Helen also hit back at any claims that viewers weren't seeing 'the real him', as she added: 'No he's being himself, they are seeing the real him.' Jack is one of six finalists competing for the Big Brother crown on Friday alongside JoJo Siwa, Chris Hughes, Donna Preston, Danny Beard and Chesney Hawkes. Helen's comments come after it was revealed he's been forced to put her £1million 'forever family home' on the market. She bought the eight-bedroom property in Bolton, Greater Manchester, with ex-fiancé Scott shortly before their split in 2022, but after being left 'broke' by the break up she has confirmed she will be soon be downsizing. Helen said the move would be bittersweet after ploughing her savings into the property's renovation as well as having to get used to living in a much smaller home. The soap star joked that after a few too many alcoholic drinks during her night out she couldn't cope with her kids asking where there Easter eggs were the next day Speaking candidly on The Declutter Hub podcast, Helen explained: 'It actually makes me sad that I'm going to be leaving soon because I actually put so much effort into it. When we moved I put like a lot of my savings into doing the house up and making it look really beautiful. 'But it's a big house. It's an eight-bedroom house, which is obviously really hard to keep on top of.' Helen, who is now in a relationship with construction worker Robbie Talbot, 45, admitted she is going to struggle downsizing. She added: 'Obviously, I'll get used to it, I'm sure. But it will feel weird to downsize everything because I'm going to have to get rid of so much more because all my beautiful furniture that I bought, it's designed for this house.' Helen revealed in court earlier this year that she was 'really struggling financially' before being banned from driving for six months after being caught speeding twice in 16 days. She begged not to lose her licence due to her being a 'full-time mother' and would be unable to afford taxis to get her kids to school. Helen claimed her boyfriend Robbie was driving her £66,000 Audi Q7 when it was caught speeding. However, she was charged with two counts of failing to give information relating to the identification of a driver. Helen said: 'My job really is being a mum at home. Their dad works away. It's really difficult at the moment now for me to be earning money. I earn money on social media but it kind of varies what I earn. 'I think there might be a perception maybe that I would easily be able to afford a driver but that's quite far from the case. I've got enough money in my account to pay off my tax and my VAT and basically that's about it.' The luxurious house that Helen has put on the market, which she described as her 'forever home', boasts a huge walk-in wardrobe, a Harry-Potter playroom, and plush furniture in the living room. Helen said: 'I think I'm going to struggle because obviously I will be downsizing so much' but admitted that she didn't want her worries not to make her seem 'down to earth' She previously teased a glimpse of the wizarding themed room adorned with themed motifs, a broom over the door and even a starry night sky scattered with letters from Hogwarts. Elsewhere, Helen has shared a look at her expansive kitchen, with the bright, white space perfect for family dinners. The kitchen and living room area is finished with grey wood floors, with the kitchen boasting plenty of cupboard space. It comes after the soap star - best known for her role as Rosie Webster in Corrie - admitted she is no longer living with boyfriend Robbie after he briefly moved into the home. She also lifted the lid on her split from ex-fiancé Scott as she revealed the truth about the breakdown of their relationship, following their split after 13 years together. While her romance with Robbie is going from strength to strength, Helen revealed he moved out because it wasn't helpful for her children who 'miss' their dad. She told The Sun: 'I'd asked him to stay for a while, because I often get quite scared in the house on my own and feel safer with a man there. 'But Matilda is very sensitive and a proper daddy's girl, and she struggles with not seeing Scott as often as she'd like. I always think about how she feels when she misses her dad, and having my boyfriend there maybe doesn't help her.' Helen confessed: 'It will feel weird to downsize everything because I'm going to have to get rid of so much more because all my beautiful furniture that I bought, it's designed for this house' Helen chatted to TV personality Lizzie Cundy at the event On her failed romance with ex Scott, Helen revealed she was the one to call time on their relationship. She said they 'were always quietly breaking up and then getting back together' until one day she called it quits for good. Helen said: 'In the end, it was me who decided [to break up]. I'll always be sad it didn't work out, and we still have love for each other, but we're happier apart.' Helen previously revealed that her friends tried to put her on a 'man ban' after she split from Scott. Looking back at the time of her split from Scott, Helen told The Sun's Fabulous Magazine: 'A lot of my friends were trying to put me on a man ban, which obviously didn't work! 'I was hurting from the break up and I've always just wanted to be loved so I started dating.' Helen previously admitted that the former couple 'don't like each other at all' despite them 'caring deeply' for each other. Speaking to Charlotte Dawson on her Naughty Corner podcast , Helen said: 'I still love him very much, I care about him deeply, but we don't like each other. 'We don't like each other at all, we don't get on. I do know that Scott - he'd never admit it - cares about me too and he does love me. 'But I'm so done, I could never have another relationship again where we would always be bickering. I haven't got another argument in me. 'As women we try and do anything we can to make it work with the father of your children and I did. But I think for me if I was in a relationship with someone else it would have to be easy because I haven't got the energy in me again, I've done all that with the father of my kids.' Helen went onto say co-parenting is 'hilarious' as she revealed the pair try and avoid each other so they don't 'argue' in front of their kids. She continued: 'I've been a single mum for two years now. Co-parenting is hilarious, we were together for 13 years. 'The last time I saw him, I thought it was quite funny, I was taking the p*** out of him because he had a bucket hat on. I think he was trying not to laugh. 'He lives in Bath and I live in North Manchester so its about five hours and we meet in Birmingham to exchange things and the kids. 'He's throwing things in my boot and I just started taking the mickey out of his bucket hat to lighten the mood. 'We just try and not be in the same house together because the children are the priority and I want a good environment for them and I don't want them to see us arguing.'
