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The Age
6 days ago
- General
- The Age
I thought dating my uni tutor made me special. For him, it was a pattern
In 2016, at the end of semester, I sent my university tutor a message on Facebook. Sporting a crush, I was eager to see if my feelings were reciprocated. He soon responded, agreed to meet up with me, and we quickly proceeded to date. At the time, it didn't feel particularly sordid, given there were only a handful of years between us in age. Two years into our relationship, a report examining staff sexual misconduct at UK universities was published, showing that of the 1839 students surveyed, about 80 per cent were uncomfortable with relationships between staff and students. Four months later, Universities Australia released a statement on the issue, declaring relationships between academic supervisors and students are never OK. Neither of us acknowledged the report during our relationship. By then, the dust felt as though it had settled, and I had made a concerted effort to avoid being his student again, namely by changing my major (a decision I later came to regret). It wasn't until 2020 that University College London became one of the first universities in the world to introduce a formal ban on romantic and sexual relationships between staff and their students. Even today, there are no formal statewide or federal bans across Australian universities. In the academic world, this is famously a grey area: somewhere between a conflict of interest and sexual harassment. While many universities require staff to declare any anticipated or existing close personal relationship with a current student, this implies that they're not off limits. Such clear standards would have made for smoother sailing once I discovered my ex-partner had engaged in relationships with other women over the years who were, like me, once his students. Dr Renee Hamilton, former policy director at Universities Australia, describes this as essentially a 'no harm, no foul' approach that allows institutions wipe their hands clean of any mess that falls outside obvious violations such as assault of a student, or a sequence of tangibly coercive behaviours. While it's likely this reluctance to get involved stems from institutions not wanting to meddle in the personal lives of adults, as Hamilton notes: 'This perspective does not capture the inherent power imbalance [between staff and students]. A conflict of interest is one thing, but I believe somebody who is involved in a romantic relationship with their student is [engaging in] academic misconduct.' It's 30 years since the publication of Helen Garner's controversial book, The First Stone – a scathing dissection of the sexual chokehold young female students seemingly have over male superiors – and tensions between staff and students endure. Garner's interrogation of staff-student relationships was biting, particularly given her finger was levelled at young women, rather than the men attracted to them. Many people were – and remain – outraged by her views on the topic. Loading The overwhelming majority of staff-student relationships occur between male superiors and female students. This is something I discovered throughout my own research, as did Amia Srinivasan, a scholar and author of The Right to Sex. In one paper on the topic, she refers to consensual professor-student sex as a 'patriarchal failure', given the over-representation of female students and male superiors where there are clear divides in age, authority and life experience. And while institutions aren't necessarily defending the right to such relationships any more, their commitment to ignoring their impact on female students remains. When a young woman crosses over from being a student to an academic's romantic partner, she is no longer safeguarded by the usual distance between teachers and students. If she's 'lucky', their relationship might last, and prove that she was the one to change him; an exception to the rule. If unlucky, she will likely be a nameless blip in his career.
Sydney Morning Herald
6 days ago
- General
- Sydney Morning Herald
I thought dating my uni tutor made me special. For him, it was a pattern
In 2016, at the end of semester, I sent my university tutor a message on Facebook. Sporting a crush, I was eager to see if my feelings were reciprocated. He soon responded, agreed to meet up with me, and we quickly proceeded to date. At the time, it didn't feel particularly sordid, given there were only a handful of years between us in age. Two years into our relationship, a report examining staff sexual misconduct at UK universities was published, showing that of the 1839 students surveyed, about 80 per cent were uncomfortable with relationships between staff and students. Four months later, Universities Australia released a statement on the issue, declaring relationships between academic supervisors and students are never OK. Neither of us acknowledged the report during our relationship. By then, the dust felt as though it had settled, and I had made a concerted effort to avoid being his student again, namely by changing my major (a decision I later came to regret). It wasn't until 2020 that University College London became one of the first universities in the world to introduce a formal ban on romantic and sexual relationships between staff and their students. Even today, there are no formal statewide or federal bans across Australian universities. In the academic world, this is famously a grey area: somewhere between a conflict of interest and sexual harassment. While many universities require staff to declare any anticipated or existing close personal relationship with a current student, this implies that they're not off limits. Such clear standards would have made for smoother sailing once I discovered my ex-partner had engaged in relationships with other women over the years who were, like me, once his students. Dr Renee Hamilton, former policy director at Universities Australia, describes this as essentially a 'no harm, no foul' approach that allows institutions wipe their hands clean of any mess that falls outside obvious violations such as assault of a student, or a sequence of tangibly coercive behaviours. While it's likely this reluctance to get involved stems from institutions not wanting to meddle in the personal lives of adults, as Hamilton notes: 'This perspective does not capture the inherent power imbalance [between staff and students]. A conflict of interest is one thing, but I believe somebody who is involved in a romantic relationship with their student is [engaging in] academic misconduct.' It's 30 years since the publication of Helen Garner's controversial book, The First Stone – a scathing dissection of the sexual chokehold young female students seemingly have over male superiors – and tensions between staff and students endure. Garner's interrogation of staff-student relationships was biting, particularly given her finger was levelled at young women, rather than the men attracted to them. Many people were – and remain – outraged by her views on the topic. Loading The overwhelming majority of staff-student relationships occur between male superiors and female students. This is something I discovered throughout my own research, as did Amia Srinivasan, a scholar and author of The Right to Sex. In one paper on the topic, she refers to consensual professor-student sex as a 'patriarchal failure', given the over-representation of female students and male superiors where there are clear divides in age, authority and life experience. And while institutions aren't necessarily defending the right to such relationships any more, their commitment to ignoring their impact on female students remains. When a young woman crosses over from being a student to an academic's romantic partner, she is no longer safeguarded by the usual distance between teachers and students. If she's 'lucky', their relationship might last, and prove that she was the one to change him; an exception to the rule. If unlucky, she will likely be a nameless blip in his career.
