14-06-2025
EXCLUSIVE I'm a wedding expert - here's what's not worth splashing out for your big day (and what you should splurge on!)
Couples are splashing out as much as £20,000 on average for their weddings - but one expert has warned that the splurge is not always worth it.
Nearlyweds hoping to curate the happiest days of their lives will likely be more tempted to spend more in hopes of an unforgettable experience.
And with everything from videographers, to live painters and trendy photobooths on offer for nuptials these days, it's perhaps no wonder that the bride and groom to be may find themselves enticed.
However, Zoe Burke, editor of bridal outlet cautioned against getting caught up in the euphoria of photographers, customised napkins, and bougie decor.
Speaking to MailOnline, she explained that there are some things where an extra penny makes a difference - but in other instances, it's much more sensible to save the cash...
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Save the dates
'Honestly, I've never paid much attention to save the dates.' Zoe admitted. 'If it's a loved one's wedding, I will most likely already know the date (even if it's only the month and year) and will plan my life accordingly.
'If it's a more minor friend or colleague, I'm not going to skip my dream holiday if it clashes with their wedding.'
She assured that if you are anxious about guest availability, or want to give people a heads up for a wedding in a busy time period or abroad, a handy solution is a wedding website.
'It's much easier to access repeatedly (instead of a piece of card),' Zoe added. 'And you can update it in real time.'
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The best photographer and videographer you can afford
Zoe says that these are, in her opinion, the most important spend on your wedding day.
'It's your main keepsake from the wedding,' she added. 'You need a photographer you gel with and like, as they'll be around you more than anyone else on your wedding day, and you need to make sure you love their work.
'It used to be pretty common to skip the videographer, but I'd caution against this.
'Your day will go in such a blur, you'll be so grateful you can watch it back. Even if you just have one for the ceremony and the speeches - those are bits you're going to want to remember forever.'
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Enormous guest lists
'Unless you're incredibly popular and you have loads of friends and you adore them all - bail on the pressure to invite everyone,' Zoe advised.
'The average wedding guest costs couples over £260 - think about whether you'd realistically be comfortable spending that much money on each of your guests.'
She advised not to invite 'colleagues, distant cousins and cantankerous great aunts'.
'Keep your guest list lean with the people you really want to celebrate with,' she added. 'You'll save money and you'll have a better time as you won't feel resentful when you spot Great Aunt Gladys filling her bag up with bread rolls.'
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Zoe said that she believes it's well worth it to invest in something that will get everyone up and on the dancefloor.
'Whether it's a DJ, a band, a singer, roaming musicians - find a wedding entertainer that suits your style and brings the vibe,' she urged.
'Spotify playlists just don't cut it for your wedding - a professional entertainer knows how to build the atmosphere in the room and elevate a party.'
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Evening guests
'Similar to the above - if you don't want them at the full day, do you really need them at your wedding at all?' Zoe questioned.
'I say this as someone who has been an evening guest - it's a bit annoying, especially when you have to travel and pay for accommodation, for what is essentially an evening out.
'It's also annoying when you arrive and everyone is already really tipsy and you feel out of the loop. Do away with it, save your B-list guests the faff and save yourself the money.'
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A celebrant
'I love a celebrant-led wedding,' the expert admitted. 'I get that it's not convenient or practical for everyone, especially in England or Wales where you'd then need to pay again to legalise your wedding, but even taking the time to add personal vows into your wedding ceremony makes all the difference.'
She advised not to rush through the wedding ceremony - as it's 'the most important part'.
'Take the time - and honestly, that is all you need to invest here - in making sure your ceremony reflects the two of you and celebrates your love,' Zoe added. 'It's so special.'
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Oversized wedding cakes
'Now, don't get me wrong - I LOVE a wedding cake. But smaller wedding cakes look so chic and they often contain ample servings,' the pro explained.
'You don't need a slice of cake for every guest, as most guests don't eat it after they've had their meal and hit the evening snacks.'
She added that you don't need to worry about having 'four tiers to serve 80 people'.
'But if you love the look of tall cakes, speak to your cake maker about dummy tiers - or even cool perspex tiers you can fill with flowers to go in between layers of your cake,' Zoe continued.
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Catering
A dry chicken breast no longer cuts it. Make sure your wedding catering reflects you - choose wine from the country you got engaged in, serve food that pays tribute to your cultures.
'This is where I really lean into the idea of smaller guest lists,' Zoe said. 'Especially if it allows you to invest more in catering.
'Serve a meal you love that means something to you - after all, it's one of the most significant meals you'll ever eat.'
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Traditional wedding favours
'It kind of pains me to say this, as I do personally love a favour. But if you're looking to save money on your wedding, skip giving each guest a favour that you've bought,' the expert warned.
'We're seeing a rising wedding trend right now of couples writing personalised notes to their guests - it doesn't cost a thing, and it means so much more than a chocolate truffle.
'If you don't have the energy to do that, instead invest in some interactive entertainment, such as a live wedding illustrator or a magician (they've had a glow up!) and you'll likely spend less, but your guests will get more out of it.'
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The right venue
Your setting is everything - look for a venue that meets all your needs - they're out there.
Zoe advised: 'Whether you want a late license, glamping, a romantic, intimate vibe - you name it, the right venue exists.
