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Yahoo
21 hours ago
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- Yahoo
"He Wasn't Going To Tell Me That I Had CANCER": People Are Sharing The Most Out-Of-Pocket Things Their Doctors Have Ever Said To Them, And I'm Actually SPEECHLESS
All careers have their bad apples. However, a bad apple in the medical field can often be the worst, as a negative experience with a doctor can impact someone's life for years to come. And unfortunately, some medical professionals simply don't care how they speak to their patients... That's why when TikTok user @docta_pacman asked, "I'm bored. What's the most unhinged thing a doctor has said to you?" Over 20,000 people of all ages took to the comments to share their experiences with doctors who acted downright RUDE. From not believing patients to hiding cancer diagnoses — here are 21 of their most shocking stories: If a doctor has ever said anything unhinged to you, feel free to tell us about it using this anonymous form! 1."When I was 12, I was diagnosed with Lupus. It attacked my brain, and I had to relearn how to do everything. I lost my memory and had tremors in my entire body. I also couldn't walk; it was Cerebellar ataxia." "After a year, the doctors were still stumped, so they asked my mom to leave the room and told me, 'You can quit the act and start acting right.'" —alexusrenee0731 2."My mother and I are nearly identical. We also go to the same once, while I was getting a pap smear, he said, 'You really do look like your mom.'" —witchybimbo 3."While my doctor ran my yearly physical, we chatted about my upcoming wedding. He said, 'Well, we may need to take another look at your thyroid and see if you need medication because nobody wants a fat bride!' I was 5'6" and 125 lbs at the time." —kmphotographyjax 4."In my case, it was what my surgeon DIDN'T say: After surgery, I found out from a different doctor that my appendix was cancerous. When I brought it up to my surgeon at the follow-up, he said, 'Who told you?' He wasn't going to tell me that I had CANCER." —froehlich11 5."My first neurologist told me to 'Come back when you have a real problem.' I have MS and was completely numb from the waist down." — 6."My doctor said the reason the hypermobility in my ankles was so bad was because I wore a certain brand of tennis shoes, which were 'made for Japanese people,' and I have big American feet, so I need to wear another brand." —3mily._.626 7."I get ear infections constantly because my ears retain water; it's been happening since I was a kid, and I was supposed to get corrective surgery, but never did." "Well, recently I've gained a lot of weight, so at my last doctor's appointment, she checked my ears and said that I get ear infections because I 'am so fat my ears are deformed.'" —fictionalshitpost 8."I had a doctor who took me into his personal office, sat me down in his chair, started rubbing my shoulders, and told me, 'Maybe you just need a real man in your life.' —mistydarby2 9."When I suddenly started having seizures with no prior history, I went to my doctor. He said that I just wanted to make his day 'more interesting' and that 'as a woman,' I'm overly anxious." "Then, as I was leaving, he told me to bring my husband the next time." — 10."I had a planned C-section with my youngest child, so I asked the doctor to tie my tubes while he was already in there. He said that doctors aren't able to do that." "I told him that my mom had it done when I was born, and I knew the technology existed. He asked, 'What if your baby dies?' I told him I wasn't interested in a replacement baby. Then he tried to use COVID to scare me out of it." —dizzylizzie82 11."When I was 13, my doctor told me that if my periods were so bad, I should just get pregnant." —fermata1138 12."The first time I saw one doctor, he walked in and told me I needed to get a mole removed on my lip. I asked, 'Is it bad?' He responded with, 'No, it just takes away from your face because it's the first thing people see.'" —mims_2009 13."I have a hereditary blood disorder from my dad's side, and I sadly passed it to three of my children. In my defense, they didn't study the disease or perform genetic testing for it until 2009, and my youngest was born in 2002, so I didn't know the odds of passing it along." "Once, when I was in the ER with my son for an issue related to the disorder, the doctor said, 'The funny thing about hereditary issues is that they would die out if the people who had them stopped breeding.'" —2019nini1 14."My OB told my husband, 'I put an extra stitch in there for ya,' and smiled while I was lying there with him between my legs after just giving birth to my son (who the nurse actually delivered)." —angelcopeland02 15."A doctor told me, 'If you stayed home and didn't have your kid in daycare, she wouldn't be sick.'" "The next day, my 14-month-old was rushed by ambulance to the hospital and underwent emergency surgery to correct a missed genetic defect that caused breathing difficulties." —jbellz 16."My dentist asked me if my 'boyfriend' liked to tug on my nose ring like a ranch hand would do to a cow. I told him, 'No,' that my husband treats me with respect." "He responded, 'Checks weird girls always get married young and pop out babies left and right, just like a cow.'" —elenamedwards 17."I was losing weight rapidly and vomiting everything I tried to eat or drink, so I went to the doctor, who asked me, 'Are you sure you're not bulimic? A lot of young women are.' I had a total bowel obstruction due to undiagnosed Crohn's Disease." —beatlesandlove 18."When I was seven years old, a doctor looked me in the eyes and said, 'Your mom is going to either be dead in a few years or a vegetable.' She had a B12 deficiency, not a terminal illness… — 19."I have a heart defect and have had four heart attacks, with the first being when I was 29. Last week, I went for a routine checkup and the cardiologist said, without even looking up from his chart, that I had three areas of weakness on my heart and the next one would be my last. Then he turned around and walked away." —janetteschafer 20."I was in the doctor's office, crying because of my diminished quality of life due to my chronic illness, and feeling like I'm a bad mom. He looked at me and said, 'Do you know the daily death rate? You should just feel happy you're alive.'" —taylortader 21."I'm deaf and vision-impaired. I also don't have a thyroid and deal with a shoulder injury, yet the same doctor has told me three times that a breast reduction would make all of my problems go away." —ashleykimball21 Which one of these experiences shocked you the most? Has a doctor ever said anything cringey or cruel to you? Tell us in the comments, or if you prefer to answer anonymously, you can use the form below! Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
The Independent
19-06-2025
- Health
- The Independent
Anger over ‘light touch' sanction for doctor who had sexual relationship with teenage patient
A vulnerable patient has hit out at the 'light touch' punishment given to a doctor who had an inappropriate sexual relationship with her while she was a teenager. Dr Cian Hughes met the girl in hospital in 2011 after observing her surgical procedure at Bristol Children's Hospital when she was aged just 13 and went on to start a sexual relationship with her four years later. Dr Hughes, a 23-year-old fourth-year medical student at the University of Bristol when the pair met, was last week suspended for misconduct. But the Medical Practitioners Tribunal Service did not strike him off, despite pleas from the General Medical Council. The victim, patient A, has now hit out at the sanction and accused the panel of denying her a voice after she was not allowed to give oral evidence. She told The Independent: 'The penalty feels very light touch for the impact he's had and the things he has done to me. My confidence in the medical profession is pretty much non-existent. 'I think [the sanction] is too lax. This case isn't just about me and him. There's nothing you can do to undo what he did and what happened. The reason I followed through with this for the last five years has been about making sure that other doctors don't do it to other patients.' The woman, who suffers from PTSD, added that her physical disability was not highlighted by the tribunal panel as an aggravating factor, but she believes it should have been. '[This], along with the age gap, my mental health at the time, the way we met, how much I trusted him and my naivety around relationships contributed to a very unhealthy power imbalance,' she claimed. 'The long-term consequences of his actions for me are potentially going to be lifelong.' During the MPTS hearing, thousands of messages between Dr Hughes and the young woman were presented, as well as a written statement. Dr Hughes's defence said the relationship between the medic and Patient A was 'a very loving relationship'. Patient A, meanwhile, said he was 'a very capable and kind mannered medical professional' but claimed 'behind the bedroom door, he was a different person' which she said was not displayed in the text messages. Patient A told The Independent she was clear to the MPTS that she could and wanted to give evidence, but was denied this. According to MPTS rules, victims of doctors facing sexual misconduct claims are not always called to give oral evidence unless the panel or the doctor ask for them to be. Witnesses are only called to give live evidence where their evidence is disputed by a party of required by the tribunal. She added: 'I came away feeling more traumatised, especially since I had always said I wanted to give oral evidence. '[The MPTS's] process is victim-hostile. This process doesn't allow me to have a voice or even be treated as a victim by the MPTS.' In its determination of the sanction, the MPTS tribunal said that Dr Hughes' misconduct 'was serious and warranted a significant response to mark its gravity.' However, in determining that suspension was more appropriate than being banned from the profession, it highlighted mitigating factors including the medic's admissions, apology and 'well-developed insight, remediation and remorse'. It said it accepted Dr Hughes's lawyer's submissions that this was a 'nuanced' case and 'distinguished from other cases of sexual misconduct where erasure was required.' The panel also said that although Dr Hughes had 'abused his professional position' and started an 'improper relationship with a vulnerable patient', it was found that he did not exploit her vulnerability. In submissions, the GMC argued Dr Hughes had shown a 'blatant disregard' for the guidance around inappropriate relationships. However, the MPTS panel accepted the doctor's argument that he had 'persuaded himself' that the guidance 'permitted the relationship.' During the hearing, it was revealed the medic is also facing undertakings by the Irish Medical Council. The IMC would not confirm any details of the complaint; however, conditions listed on its register say: 'Dr Hughes is subject to an undertaking that he will, inter alia, not afford any treatment to certain patient groups except under specified conditions.' Rebecca Cox, co-founder of campaign group Surviving in Scrubs, which has campaigned against sexual assault within the NHS, said the group was 'dismayed' to see 'another weak sanction' from the MPTS. She added: 'Sadly, this fits with a trend of sanction decisions that do not reflect the severity of the case or distress caused to victims. The MPTS repeatedly fail victims of sexual misconduct and violence.' Dr Cox said the lack of opportunity for victims to voice their testimony is an issue that has been raised many times. Professor Carrie Newlands, consultant surgeon, co-lead for the working party on sexual misconduct in surgery at the Faculty of Health and Medical Sciences, said: 'This is yet another case of misconduct by a doctor against someone vulnerable with a significant power imbalance, and where despite the GMC recommending erasure, the MPTS have again given a lesser sanction.' She said the suspension of a doctor for such 'egregious behaviour' is incompatible with the GMC's zero tolerance approach to sexual misconduct and incompatible with MPTS guidance, which states more serious action, such as being struck off, is likely to be appropriate in sexual misconduct cases. In 2020, Patient A made a report to the police; however, in April 2021, the investigation was closed with no further no further. Reacting to the tribunal's suspension, a spokesperson for the GMC said it would consider whether there are grounds for appeal against the MPTS decision, but said the 12-month suspension was still a 'significant sanction for Dr Hughes.' Dr Hughes was approached for comment through his lawyers.
ABC News
10-06-2025
- Health
- ABC News
Doctor banned for sexual relationship and inadequate care provided to vulnerable patient
A "selfish, cruel and calculated" GP has been banned from practising for four years for having sex with a vulnerable, mentally-unwell patient who he also "dangerously" prescribed high-risk medication. South Australian doctor Indren Moodley's registration as a medical practitioner was suspended in late 2021 over allegations he "comprehensively breached the boundaries of the doctor-patient relationship". The Medical Board of Australia referred a complaint about the then-doctor on three grounds, alleging professional misconduct to the South Australian Civil and Administrative Tribunal, which has cancelled his registration until February 2029. In its ruling, published this month but delivered in February, the tribunal found Mr Moodley preyed on the "serious and complex" vulnerabilities of the young adult female patient, who was more than two decades younger than him. "We are satisfied that the respondent used the position of trust he had developed with the patient to exploit those vulnerabilities and to manipulate her, essentially in a calculated campaign to groom her to satisfy his own needs," the tribunal found. The ruling noted the then-doctor obtained the patient's mobile phone number from her medical records three weeks after she first saw him, and they exchanged 909 text messages involving "inappropriate, personal, non-clinical and sexual" content over 12 days. The tribunal noted Mr Moodley had invited the patient to his home and offered her alcohol despite knowing she had recently attended an alcohol detox program. He also had sexual intercourse with her. "It is particularly egregious that, despite the respondent's knowledge of the patient's alcohol addiction and her recent discharge from hospital for alcohol detoxification, he supplied and encouraged the patient to drink wine on the occasion they had sexual intercourse," the tribunal found. It also noted the then-doctor's care of the patient was inadequate as he failed to take a detailed medical history, a mental health referral lacked necessary details and he prescribed "high-risk" benzodiazepines inappropriately, including while she was in hospital under the care of other medical practitioners. "The respondent took advantage of the patient's multiple vulnerabilities and abused the power imbalance between them for his personal sexual satisfaction," the tribunal's ruling states. "His conduct was seriously unethical, predatory and cruel. "As her treating practitioner, the respondent was well aware of her vulnerabilities." The ruling also published an excerpt of a statement from the patient, in which she said Mr Moodley's conduct had "a big impact" on her, including causing sleeping problems and a distrust of men. "I am absolutely hurt and feel used and manipulated by a person who knew my physical and mental illnesses," she said in the statement. The tribunal noted no complaints had been previously made about Mr Moodley, but there was a "limit to the positive weight we can place on this given our findings as to the selfish, cruel and calculated campaign the respondent engaged in to satisfy his needs to the patient's serious detriment". It also noted he had admitted the grounds of complaint made against him and had shown insight and remorse. In the ruling, the tribunal said a "strong sanction" against Mr Moodley was necessary to protect the public, and acknowledged he had struggled with his mental health, professional and personal embarrassment and unemployment since his suspension in 2021. The tribunal reprimanded the doctor, cancelled his registration and banned him from providing any health service or applying for registration for four years from the date of the ruling on February 10, 2025. He was also banned from using the title "doctor" or "Dr" while unregistered.
