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Couple Feels 'Taken For Granted' When Family Member Won't Reimburse Flights to Babysit Nephew
A man on Reddit is seeking advice after he and his partner feel "taken for granted" over a favor they'd agreed to
The couple agreed to fly to babysit a nephew while the parents went on vacation, but were later told they wouldn't be reimbursed for the flights
Now they feel awkward that they even askedA man is seeking support from the Reddit community after a family favor turned unexpectedly awkward. He and his partner had agreed to fly out and watch his partner's nephew for a week while his parents traveled internationally.
'We wouldn't be making this trip if it weren't for babysitting,' the poster explains in his post, highlighting that the trip was solely for the purpose of helping out family. The couple, currently in 'saving mode,' hadn't planned on traveling and assumed the parents would offer to cover their flights.
Instead, the arrangement quickly became complicated when the topic of reimbursement came up. 'So we assumed (maybe incorrectly) that the parents would offer to cover our flights, since we're using our PTO and giving up a week to help them out,' he writes.
When his partner raised the issue with her sister, the response was less than enthusiastic. The sister replied that she 'wished she'd known sooner' and explained that they were broke after paying for their own vacation.
This left the couple feeling uneasy about the situation and questioning whether their request was out of line. 'Now there's this underlying tension, like we were out of line for even asking,' the poster admits.
He clarified that all communication about the matter had been between his partner and his partner's sister, though he was supporting his partner throughout. 'I've stayed out of the conversation myself—this has all been between my partner and her sister—but I'm supporting her, and we're both starting to feel taken for granted,' he writes.
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The couple emphasized that their request wasn't about profiting from the arrangement. 'It's not about trying to make money off the situation,' he says, but adds that it was hard not to feel 'a little used' when they were doing such a big favor and expected to pay their own way.
Now, the couple is left feeling awkward and questioning whether their request was unreasonable, or if they were simply being taken for granted by family.
Since sharing their post, many Reddit users suggested that they shouldn't have agreed if communication wasn't completely clear.
'Lesson learned: don't agree with anything before it's clear what the conditions are,' writes one user. Another one suggests, 'If you are still going to fly out to babysit make sure that you're clear that they need to go grocery shopping before they leave so the fridge and cupboards are stocked for the week.'
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