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10-05-2025
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Dear Abby: My fiancée treats me like her special needs child
DEAR ABBY: I'm engaged to a delightful woman from a foreign country. She's a divorcee, and her 19-year-old son is doing well in college. She essentially raised him herself. Because of some spectrum disorder and ADHD symptoms, her son was apparently a handful. I am healthy, have multiple advanced degrees (including an M.D. and a Ph.D.), and have enjoyed a successful and lucrative career. I have raised six happy, healthy and independent children. I've worked very hard and have a substantial bankroll. My concern is that she tends to treat me like she might treat her son. She asks me (repeatedly) if I'm cold and suggests that I wear more clothes. She asks me if I'm hungry, thirty or tired, and if I should exercise. I don't think she does it maliciously. I think she genuinely cares for me and is expressing her love with these matronly concerns. I have suggested repeatedly that she doesn't need to provide advice on clothing, hunger, etc. — that I'm an adult and have successfully figured out those things for a very long time. She has much less money than I do, and I help to support her. But I cannot continue to tolerate her maternalistic attitude. I have told her several times that I need a lover, not a mother, but it doesn't seem to penetrate. How can I get this woman whom I love to treat me as an adult and not to question my mature decisions? — NOBODY'S CHILD IN NEW YORK DEAR NOBODY'S CHILD: Your fiancée may not be trying to infantilize you. Many, if not most, women who love the men in their lives fuss over them. Because her efforts are not pleasing and are having a negative effect, you are going to have to be more direct in your message, and by that, I mean tell her it is such a turnoff for you that you are considering ending the relationship. Stating it just that way may help the message to penetrate. And if it doesn't, then you aren't the man for her. DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with my partner for 10 years. While the first two years were good, things have slowly deteriorated. For example, we used to go to movies and dinner at least one day a weekend. Now we don't do anything unless he wants to play cards. I'm getting bored with cards all the time. I feel like I'm wasting my life sitting at home with him. There's no excitement. And to top it off, when we do go places, we invariably end up taking my car, and I must pay for the gas and wear and tear. It's getting old. Any advice? — FED UP IN MISSOURI DEAR FED UP: You appear to be the passive partner in this relationship. If you would like to change the balance of power, assert yourself. Because you find playing cards so often boring, and he isn't up for going to a show or out for dinner, go with a girlfriend. I wish you had mentioned why you provide all the transportation, because changing that pattern should be as easy as saying, 'No, I prefer we use YOUR car this time.' Remember, nothing will change unless you change. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
Yahoo
10-05-2025
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Sheriff warns of gunman loose in Thurston County, WA
The Brief Thurston County Sheriff's Deputies are searching for 27-year-old Damien Madison, accused of shooting at a deputy with an AR-15 during a high-speed chase, and possibly hiding on local properties. Madison, a prolific burglar with a long criminal record, escaped and left his 20-year-old fiancé behind, who faces charges related to the incident; her bail is set at $50,000. Authorities warn Madison may still be armed and urge the public to call 911 if he is spotted. OLYMPIA, Wash. - Thurston County Sheriff's Deputies are warning the community that a dangerous man is on the loose and could be hiding out on their property. Investigators are looking for 27-year-old Damien Madison, who is accused of shooting an AR-15 at a Thurston County deputy during a high-speed chase Thursday night. "There's a decent chance he's already stolen a car and left the area. He's also a prolific burglar, so there's a decent chance that he is in someone's shed, barn, house, maybe not occupied," said Thurston County Sheriff Derek Sanders. "Again, that's one of our biggest concerns right now." The other side Investigators said Madison bailed on the car and escaped, leaving his 20-year-old fiancée behind. She appeared in front of a judge on Friday. She faces charges of attempting to elude a pursuing police vehicle and rendering criminal assistance in the first degree. Court officials said the suspect has no criminal record. The judge set her bail at $50,000. FOX 13 Seattle is not naming the 20-year-old suspect or showing her face because she has not officially been charged. According to her Facebook, Thursday was Madison's birthday. In a post, the 20-year-old accused getaway driver wrote: "Happy 27th birthday babe! (your getting old). I hope you have an amazing day, I am glad I get to make these amazing memories with you n more to come." What they're saying The sheriff of Thurston County told FOX 13 Seattle that Madison should already be in jail. "I actually specifically stated that if the judges don't start taking this seriously, that someone is going to get hurt or killed, and here we are, shooting at the police. So, maybe they'll take it more seriously this time, but I'm not confident," said Sanders. Madison has a long criminal rap sheet, including convictions for stealing guns, cars, and for assault. He has three open cases in Thurston County. Investigators recovered the AR-15, but also reported that Madison had a shotgun on him. Deputies believe he still might have a gun. If you see him, call 911. The Source Information in this story comes from original reporting by FOX 13 Seattle reporter AJ Janavel, with information from the Thurston County Sheriff's Office. New area code coming to Seattle area in June. What to know WA's first In-N-Out gets closer to opening date VIDEO: Dramatic arrest of WA mother carrying toddler, stolen gun Pro-Palestinian protesters cause $1M in damage at UW, 34 arrested Health experts say 'harmless' symptoms could be signs of blood disease 2 WA brothers arrested after high-speed pursuit on I-90 Video shows shackled inmate escape custody at Sea-Tac, board light rail To get the best local news, weather and sports in Seattle for free, sign up for the daily FOX Seattle Newsletter. Download the free FOX LOCAL app for mobile in the Apple App Store or Google Play Store for live Seattle news, top stories, weather updates and more local and national news.
