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Yahoo
2 days ago
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Woman with Fertility Issues Says Her Grandma Ruined Her Gender Reveal — but Her Dad Says She's ‘Overreacting'
The woman, who shared her story on Reddit, said she had told her grandma that she wanted to share pregnancy news on her "own terms" after "multiple miscarriages"NEED TO KNOW A mom-to-be says her grandma revealed the gender of her baby to their church congregation — despite specifically being asked not to She also said that she has struggled with fertility issues in the past and wants to share news about her pregnancy on her "own terms' The woman — who shared her story on Reddit — said her dad is now defending her grandmother's behavior, and she's not sure who's in the wrongA mom-to-be is upset that her grandmother shared big personal news about her pregnancy — but her dad says she's being unreasonable. The woman shared her story on the popular Reddit forum 'Am I the A------,' a place where people can go to get advice on interpersonal issues. In her post, the Reddit user shared that she and her husband are both almost 30, and that they are about to have their first child in December 'after multiple miscarriages and adoptions falling through.' The woman said that she has only been telling very close friends and family details about the pregnancy 'in case I lose this baby as well.' However, she says that her grandmother keeps 'pestering' her to tell more people because she is 'so excited.' The woman went on to say that she and her husband recently found out the baby's gender, and that while they don't want to have a gender reveal party, she still wants to be able to tell people in her own time 'and on my own terms.' However, she said that her grandmother disregarded her wishes and 'told everyone' in their church — which she explained is in a small town community. 'Church members just began walking [up] to me saying congratulations on [my] baby's gender!' the original poster (OP) said, adding, 'My sister saw I was obviously distraught and told my grandma to stop telling people, which upset her.' The PEOPLE Puzzler crossword is here! How quickly can you solve it? Play now! 'Now, I feel I can no longer share information about my baby without [my grandmother] going behind my back and telling everyone every little detail,' the OP continued. 'My father says I am overreacting because 'this baby is all she has.' ' 'AITA [am I the a------] for not wanting her involved in my progress anymore?' the woman asked at the end of her post. The woman's fellow Reddit users were quick to assure her that she is not the unreasonable one in this scenario. 'It's not hers,' one person said, adding, 'She's not doing any of the work. She doesn't get a say. Tell her and [your] dad to kick rocks. NTA [not the a------].' Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Another person said, 'NTA. She can't be trusted to keep a secret. It doesn't matter if she's excited or not - it's your baby and not hers. Also, with a history of losses, that's a delicate subject and she needs to keep her mouth shut. Sorry, Dad, but you're wrong.' 'NTA for wanting to share your own news, but you need to stop telling granny info you don't want others to know yet,' added someone else. Read the original article on People Solve the daily Crossword
Washington Post
4 days ago
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- Washington Post
Miss Manners: Well-meant gift turns into food poisoning
Dear Miss Manners: My husband and I are good friends with a couple who were kind enough to cook us some delicious food. They brought back ingredients from their country of origin the last time they visited family there and made us a dish using a recipe from their grandma. They even went to the trouble of freezing the dish so they could give us a few containers of it the last time we all hung out.
Yahoo
14-07-2025
- General
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We Want To Know Your Deepest, Darkest Secret That You've Never Told Someone Before
While it's never a bad thing to keep a secret every now and then, sometimes there's a secret so dark, people need to get it off their chest to feel better. So, I'm curious: do you have a super dark secret you want — no need — to get off your chest? If so, what is it? Related: Perhaps, there's a certain secret you keep from your significant other because you know it would hurt their feelings. Related: Or maybe there's a unique way you've been making money on the side that you don't want anyone to know about. Finally, maybe you found out a dirty family secret, and there's no way you would tell your grandma about it because she would lose her mind. If you feel comfortable doing so, tell us your deepest, darkest secret either in the comments or anonymously in the Google Form below: Also in Community: Also in Community: Also in Community:
Yahoo
13-07-2025
- Business
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Dave Ramsey: What To Do If Someone Asks for Their Monetary Gift Back
Depending on the closeness of friends and family members, a financial gift can either come as a genuine support or it might come with invisible strings that prove to be more complicated than the money is worth. Only you can make that call. Find Out: Read Next: A young man called into finance expert Dave Ramsey's show, 'The Ramsey Show,' with a related problem: His grandmother had given him and his wife a gift of $9,000 to be used as they saw fit: for wedding planning, toward a home purchase or whatever they wanted, saying that she did not expect the money back. Over time, however, Grandma started fishing for personal financial information, such as how they were doing financially, which made the caller nervous. Soon, Grandma now not only wanted her money back, she wanted it back with interest, to the tune of around $12,000. With a household income, after taxes, of around $70,000, $12,000 is a lot of money for the caller and his wife to pay back. Here's what Dave Ramsey recommended they do (and what lessons can you take away from this story). Ramsey took the side of the caller, saying, 'You do not morally owe her a dime.' He suggested that the caller could just as easily take Grandma to task by reminding her that she had patently called the money a gift and was now reneging on that agreement. He told the caller he would be within his rights not to pay her back. However, Ramsey said he suspected the likely result of doing so was that Grandma would become 'Mt. Vesuvius, because she likes to pull people's strings, and when they don't dance at the end of her string, she has a little fit.' The caller agreed this was likely, given Grandma's history of doing similar things to his parents. Ramsey suggested that a person in this position has to make a choice between keeping the peace and doing what feels 'right' to them, which might include maintaining peace in family or being able to literally go home for the holidays. Learn More: Assuming correctly that the caller did not want to handle emotional upheaval or family drama, Ramsey suggested another alternative, a more practical, if disappointing, choice: to pay Grandma back, even though that wasn't the original agreement. Even within this scenario he urged the caller to think through his options that included making a payment plan and staying tethered to a manipulative relative for a long stretch of time, paying off only exactly the amount 'gifted,' or paying off the total 'plus interest' as Grandma now claimed they owed. The choice was the caller's. If the caller opted to pay Grandma back, Ramsey recommended getting the money paid off as quickly as possible — saving it in an account until it was all there — and making a clean break. However, he did warn that Grandma's manipulations might not stop there. If they paid the extra interest she was now 'charging,' he suggested she might suddenly find a way to keep asking for more. Sometimes, a hard boundary is necessary. It was up to the caller to decide. To recap, Ramsey's suggestions for your choices in a situation where a gift has been given and then rescinded include: Tell the person sorry, you're keeping what was given freely and deal with the fallout. Pay the person back either all at once or set up a payment plan, but only the amount given and not a penny more. Pay back the full amount with interest to keep a complicated relationship from getting worse. If any of these options don't appeal, or don't apply, you can also: Look into mediation with a neutral third party to try to reach a peaceful resolution. Speak with a financial therapist to work out complicated emotions before making a decision. Seek legal advice if the person threatens court action. Write a formal letter clarifying the original terms of the gift and your intended course of action. Get documentation in writing to prevent future misunderstandings if you choose to repay. Establish a firm boundary and step back from communication for a period of time. Consult a consumer protection attorney if harassment or manipulation continues. No matter what option you choose, get it in writing and have it witnessed and notarized. Additionally, it's probably a good time to lean into very clear communication and get everything in writing when it comes to financial gifts. More From GOBankingRates 3 Luxury SUVs That Will Have Massive Price Drops in Summer 2025 The 10 Most Reliable SUVs of 2025 The 5 Car Brands Named the Least Reliable of 2025 This article originally appeared on Dave Ramsey: What To Do If Someone Asks for Their Monetary Gift Back Sign in to access your portfolio
Yahoo
05-07-2025
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New Mom Is Frustrated with Mother-in-Law for Being 'Impossible to Please'
A new mom says her mother-in-law is getting on her last nerve In a post on Reddit, the woman writes that her husband's mom wants to see her new baby, but also refuses to actually visit The woman writes that she's now struggling to balance the whims of her mother-in-law with the anxiety of her husbandA woman says her mother-in-law is "impossible to please" — so much so that she isn't satisfied with anything concerning her new grandchild. In a post published on Reddit, the woman writes that she just gave birth two months ago to her mother-in-law's "first grandbaby" and yet she is making the birth "about her." "This week she's called husband to say she's going to have to take care of the baby soon if she's going to watch them occasionally while I'm at work. (We're not desperate for the help btw, she volunteered to babysit some)," she writes. While the woman writes that her mother-in-law was acting passive-aggressive and could have just called and asked to visit, she responded by saying she was more than welcome. But when the couple called to nail down a visit, the mother-in-law responded, 'Actually I'm too busy this week, maybe next week.' "For context she's been OBSESSED with becoming a grandma, tried to make a nursery in her house, had a grandma shower, and literally cried when my husband told her no one but us would be holding our baby the day of my c-section," she continues. She adds: "I'm starting to think maybe she's more selfish and/or manipulative than I presumed? It's definitely a different vibe than we had before any babies entered the picture." "She complains, but doesn't want to visit. Makes ridiculous requests, like that we travel to visit with a 1 month old, and gets annoyed when we say no. But she's obsessed with being a grandma and talks about it to all her friends," she writes. The woman adds that she's now struggling to balance the whims of her mother-in-law with the anxiety of her husband. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Other Reddit users are weighing in on the situation in the comments section, with one advising the poster, "If mil is impossible to please, stop trying to please her. It's not your task to please her." Adds another, seemingly from experience: "She's absolutely fishing for control and drama, classic 'grandma victim' move. Obsessed with the idea of being a grandma but not actually willing to do the work or respect boundaries. Your husband's anxiety just makes her puppet strings easier to pull. You're right to check yourself and not bend over backward for her circus. Keep your guard up, she's definitely trying to drive a wedge." Read the original article on People
