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3 days ago
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- The Review Geek
Pump Up the Healthy Love – K-drama Episode 12 Recap, Review & Ending Explained
Episode 12 Episode 12 of Pump Up the Healthy Love begins with Mi-ran and Hyeon-joong dating in secret with lots of giggles and hand-holding involved. However, the three gym regulars soon reveal that everyone already knows they are dating. The two officially make their relationship public. However, things aren't as rosy as they seem. The gym soon experiences a leak in the ceiling. The plumber tells them that they will have to redo the pipes and the ceiling if they want to keep functioning. Of course, the landlord refuses to help. The first thing to go is a brand new piece of equipment that Hyeon-joong endearingly called Mi-cheon. A woman agrees to buy the machine but while they are moving it, Hyeon-joong ends up injured. He lands up in the hospital with a fractured rib and sprained wrists. Soon, the gym loses electricity as well. Hyeon-joong is worried about losing the place he calls home but Mi-ran assures him that he isn't alone, and together, they can work things out. But she ends up in a conundrum when she goes to work the next day — her boss tells her she has been accepted for the Hawaii program! If she goes, she will have to spend a year there. She goes home and seeks advice from Ji-ran and Dan, who say that leaving someone while they are struggling is tantamount to betrayal. Later, she visits the hospital but Hyeon-joong isn't there. She finds him at the gym instead. He's worried and leans on her for support. As a result, Mi-ran is ready to tell her boss that she can't go to Hawaii. However, this leads to a fight between her and Ye-jin, her colleague. Ye-jin is jealous of the opportunity but she tells Mi-ran to value it since she worked hard to get it. Everyone overhears the argument, including Joon-seok. He takes Mi-ran aside and speaks to her. He points out that she's making a decision for a man again. He then pulls a wig off his head to reveal a scantily clad scalp. He says this was the real reason for him not sleeping with Mi-ran, he was afraid of showing her this side of him. She realises that her body was never the problem. She admits that she's spent all this time wanting the love of other people but she didn't love herself. She runs over to see Hyeon-joong and tells him that despite all her misgivings, she wants to go to Hawaii. He supports her decision and tells her to chase her dreams. He, in fact, berates her for not telling him before. Hyeon-joong then tells Rosa and Alex that since the gym is close to shutting down, Roy has offered to hire Rosa and Alex. The 24-hour health club then officially closes. The members pack their things and say goodbyes. Although Hyeon-joong promises to open a new gym in six months. Rosa then tells Roy she can't work with him because she has feelings for him. He tells her he's opening a new branch and will work there. She will be the director at the original branch. She's delighted and takes up the offer. The gym staff and members have one last party aka a workout session at the gym. Afterwards, Director Dong gives Hyeon-joong a visit. He thanks Hyeon-joong for protecting the gym all this time. He's now off to Venice and tells Hyeon-joong to visit. At work, everyone bids Mi-ran goodbye. Ye-jin even gives her all her research from her honeymoon in Hawaii. We then shift to the airport. Hyeon-joong gives Mi-ran a letter with a workout schedule and after one last hug, she leaves. One year later, Rosa and Alex are flourishing at Roy's gym. They haven't heard from Hyeon-joong in a while. Dan and Ji-ran are singing their original song when Dan proposes to her. Mi-ran then calls Ji-ran and tells her to pick her up from the airport next week. Ji-ran asks about Hyeon-joong but Mi-ran just puts the phone down. Even the three gym regulars wonder where he is and what he's up to. When they leave the restaurant they're eating at, Hyeon-joong appears in front of them. He takes them to his new gym which turns out to be on the roof of a building. Roy, Rosa and Alex arrive as well. Hyeon-joong says he spent a year studying his customers. He worked at an office and even spent time doing housework to understand why exercise is difficult for his members. He's cheering his members on to exercise more than ever when they are interrupted by someone — it's Mi-ran! Everyone welcomes her and she and Hyeon-joong share a warm reunion. Pump Up the Healthy Love Episode 12 ends with a photo shoot with all the gym members and a voiceover from Hyeon-joong about taking care of our bodies. The Episode Review Like most of the show, Pump Up the Healthy Love Episode 12 is sweet and wholesome. The finale throws obstacles in the path of our characters but also sees them overcome and persevere. The final episode nicely traces Mi-ran's journey from someone who constantly prioritised her partners to someone who puts herself first. The reveal about Joon-seok feels like mixed messaging again but the show has never truly committed to a strong theme/message; it's more about its individual characters. Hyeon-joong's struggles with the gym are poignant as well and it's also amusing that he goes from a basement gym to a rooftop one. In the end, most loose ends are wrapped up, the gym kicks off again, and all of our characters are together and happy. There are a few questions left behind, though. Will Rosa and Alex keep working with Roy? Will Hyeon-joong find new trainers? Also, what about his bodybuilding? Does he not want to return to it? Of course, it would have been nice to learn more about Mi-ran's time in Hawaii and also how she and Hyeon-joong dealt with long distance. The drama around Hyeon-joong's disappearance adds some unnecessary suspense and is a bit unrealistic that he stayed out of touch with everyone. Nevertheless, the reveal that he's been studying his members' lives is a wholesome one. As expected, Mi-ran and Hyeon-joong's romance is all sorts of adorable and all the exercise references actually give it a pretty unique flavour. It's criminal that we only got this for one episode! Still, all in all, this one was a lovely, heartfelt finale. Previous Episode Expect A Full Season Write-Up When This Season Concludes!
Forbes
16-05-2025
- General
- Forbes
3 Ways To Uproot Entitlement From Your Relationship, By A Psychologist
Caring should be voluntary, not owed. If you find yourself keeping score, these three mindset shifts ... More will help you step into a healthier love. In the process of choosing a partner or deciding if what you're getting in a relationship is truly what you deserve, it's natural to reflect on your needs and expectations. Knowing your worth helps you recognize red flags and avoid 'settling for less.' But there's a fine line between having healthy standards and feeling entitled to someone else's time, energy or emotional labor without considering their perspective or capacity. To be clear, wanting a partner who respects you and makes you feel valued is not entitlement. The trouble begins when those wants quietly shift into assumptions, like believing that because you're a good partner, the other person should act a certain way, or that effort should always be equal and immediate. Relationships aren't transactional. Sometimes, feeling that you're owed something just because of what you bring to the table can block genuine connection and growth. This is exactly what 'entitlement' in relationships can look like. It can usually be disguised as fairness or reciprocity and may not seem harmful at first. But over time, it creates a dynamic where love and care become conditions rather than choices. You might find yourself thinking, 'If I'm doing all this, why aren't they matching it?' or 'They should know how I feel without me having to say it.' It's important to recognize entitlement in your relationships, whether it's something you're experiencing or noticing in your partner. Here are three ways you can actively work to disrupt this pattern in your relationship. Sometimes, entitlement in relationships stems from a deep-rooted focus on getting one's needs met, often at the expense of mutual understanding. Shifting toward a more caring, collaborative mindset starts with recognizing that relationships thrive when both partners feel seen and supported. Rather than approaching your partner with a sense of emotional, physical or material expectation, it helps to ask, 'Am I expecting too much? Are my needs the only ones being prioritized here?' A 2023 study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that individuals who endorsed self-transcendence values like benevolence (care for close others) and universalism (concern for the broader good) tended to report higher-quality romantic relationships. This is largely because these values promote pro-relational attitudes, which are mindsets that prioritize the well-being of both the relationship and the partners involved. People with pro-relational attitudes tend to demonstrate more empathy, actively nurture the relationship and approach conflicts with a focus on collaboration rather than personal gain. While it's important to acknowledge when things may not be going well in a relationship, take a step back to assess if your expectations are coming from a place of entitlement. Rather than solely focusing on what's lacking, try to understand if your needs are rooted in a desire for fairness and mutual respect rather than a sense of being owed something. Balancing this awareness with gratitude can help cultivate a healthier, more cooperative relationship dynamic. In relationships, it's common to fall into the trap of a 'Quid pro quo' mentality where you expect every action should be reciprocated. This mindset operates on the assumption that for every emotional, physical or material effort you make, there should be an equal response from your partner. However, relationships based on this transactional approach often lead to disappointment and resentment when expectations aren't met. Instead of looking at your relationship like a balance sheet where every favor must be accounted for, consider shifting toward a more unconditional mindset. Research on competitive behavior in young couples highlights the negative impact of this mindset. Researchers found that individuals with lower self-esteem were more likely to engage in competitive behaviors within their romantic relationships. This competition, driven by a need to prove one's value, often manifests as one-upmanship, whether it's in achieving goals, receiving affection or managing household tasks. However, this behavior tends to lead to conflict rather than strengthening the relationship, as it creates a divide instead of inviting collaboration. Breaking free from this mentality requires more than just shifting your mindset. You need to begin embracing the joy of giving without the pressure of receiving. Try to focus on moments of pure selflessness in your relationship. For example, surprise your partner with something meaningful to them without any expectation of getting something in return. This doesn't mean never expecting anything from them — the goal is to cultivate a sense of fulfillment that doesn't rely on reciprocity and to reinforce the unconditional nature of your bond. In a relationship, it's easy to fall into the belief that your partner should always know how to comfort you or perhaps that they're somehow responsible for making you feel better. This subtle sense of entitlement can show up as frustration or disappointment when they don't respond the way you expect. You may even find yourself thinking, 'If I'm upset, you should fix it.' But your partner isn't a mind-reader or an emotional problem-solver. They're human, and sometimes they won't have the right answer or energy to help. Instead of depending on them to constantly carry your emotional weight, focus on building your emotional steadiness. This allows your partner's support to feel like a natural expression of care, given without any underlying pressure. A 2024 study reveals that individuals who regulate their emotions better are more likely to have positive relationships. For example, those who can manage their emotions tend to communicate more effectively, leading to healthier expressions of feelings within the relationship. Additionally, emotional regulation encourages empathy and support, both of which contribute positively to relationship satisfaction. On the other hand, difficulties in emotional regulation can lead to conflicts, misunderstandings and dissatisfaction. So, it's crucial to focus on building emotional resilience for both your well-being and your partner's. Start by processing your emotions independently, finding ways to soothe and regulate yourself. This self-awareness will help you communicate better and stay calm when challenges arise. When you do need support, approach your partner with openness rather than expectation. Remember, it's okay to lean on each other, but it's essential to also cultivate the ability to comfort and steady yourself. This balanced approach enhances intimacy and long-term relationship satisfaction. To truly break the cycle of entitlement in relationships, it's crucial to shift your focus from what you feel you're owed to what you can offer. This means moving beyond the idea of love as a transaction and embracing it as a choice that both partners willingly make. Instead of assuming your partner should meet every need or fulfill specific roles, focus on contributing to the relationship without expecting a direct exchange. True connection thrives when both partners bring their whole selves to the relationship, free from a sense of obligation or entitlement. Is your relationship mindset rooted in connection or entitlement? Take this science-backed test to find out: Sense Of Relational Entitlement Scale
