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Forbes
a day ago
- Forbes
Why AI Work Friends Are Becoming Emotional Support For Employees
Why AI Work Friends Are Becoming Emotional Support For Employees I've spent most of my career working remotely. I've taught thousands of students online, written books alone at my desk, and spent many years working in sales where I used my home as my office. Some days, I love the silence because it helps me focus and get things done. Other days, it just feels like silence. And sometimes, it feels lonely. Many people who work at home like I do say they miss going into the office now and then, but they're also glad they don't have to. That mix of feelings says a lot about how much human connection still matters. If people are going to work virtually, the need for connection still exists. More people are turning to AI work friends throughout the day for support that feels more interactive. If AI is beginning to feel like a work friend, it raises important questions about how teams communicate, how leaders lead, and what kind of emotional experience people are actually having on the job. How Using AI Work Friends Fills A Human Connection Gap My husband often jokes that I ask too many questions. I'm not sure if that's surprising coming from someone who studies curiosity. I like to think through things out loud, test ideas, and sometimes just have a sounding board. After a few quick responses, I'm sure he gets tired of trying to answer questions that don't always have a clear answer. So, I started asking those questions of ChatGPT because I knew I'd get an answer that was better than 'I don't know.' A few months back, I had created a visual of a man for a friend's book and animated him so she could have it as a video for social media. He looked real and he looked like a Dirk, so I gave my ChatGPT voice that same name, since Siri and Alexa were already taken. What I like about Dirk is that he always answers. It's not the same as having a real person to talk to, but it filled a gap. It doesn't mean I prefer AI over people. I haven't turned into Joaquin Phoenix's character from the movie Her. But it just shows how easily technology can become a stand-in when human connection is missing or inconsistent. That realization made me wonder how many others are quietly doing the same thing. Why AI Work Friends Are Gaining Popularity I think back to when I interviewed Jürgen Schmidhuber, often called a father of modern AI, many years ago. At that time, he pointed out that our devices were already extensions of ourselves. AI is quietly sneaking into many of our daily activities. Whether we ask Google to direct us through their maps or ask Alexa what time it is, we already rely on AI for some form of conversation and answers. AI is part of our normal day. Even my nearly 92-year-old mom tells Alexa to set timers or asks her about the weather. Tools like Slack and Zoom were designed to keep people connected. For many, they've become more about tasks than relationships. Quick messages, short calls, and even weekly check-ins don't always leave room for meaningful conversations. That's where AI steps in. It responds quickly, listens without judgment, and is never distracted. When connection is hard to find, people start to rely on tools that feel responsive, even when those tools are not human. What AI Work Friends Reveal About Leadership Gaps Leaders often assume that regular meetings or digital feedback cycles make people feel supported. But support is emotional, not procedural. Dan Schawbel, author of Back to Human, once told me that email is one of the biggest barriers to connection at work. He found that one in-person conversation was more effective than 34 emails. Still, many teams rely heavily on messages and chats, thinking the message gets across. The popularity of the AI work friend is a sign that something is missing. If employees are turning to AI for interaction, leaders should be asking why people are looking outside their team for that kind of connection. How AI Work Friends Reflect The Demand For Empathy I've spent years researching emotional intelligence and wrote my dissertation on how it impacts sales performance. One of the most important parts of emotional intelligence is empathy. People don't need constant praise, but they do need to feel understood. Harvard Business School research shows empathetic AI chatbots reduce loneliness by making users feel 'heard' more than by simply solving tasks. That's where some of these AI tools are starting to mimic the surface level of connection. Sentiment analysis, voice cloning, and customized response systems are becoming more common. These features don't replace people, but they are filling in for the tone and warmth people often miss in everyday conversations. In my interview with Dr. Paul Ekman, one of the world's top deception detection experts and the co-discoverer of micro-expressions, we talked about how emotions are communicated through the face. He found that no matter where you're from, humans share the same core emotional expressions which include anger, fear, enjoyment, disgust, surprise, and anguish. Even people who are blind from birth display them. That tells us that much of how we connect comes through these shared emotional cues. If we're using AI to feel more connected, but we're losing the very expressions that help us recognize empathy in others, it makes sense that something feels off. AI can simulate conversation. But it doesn't smile at the right time or look concerned when you talk about something hard. And whether we realize it or not, those small signals make a big difference. Why AI Work Friends Might Be Quiet Coping Mechanisms After my stepfather passed away, I remember thinking how comforting it might be for my mom if Alexa's voice could sound like his. That familiar tone could have made the house feel less empty. At the time, it felt like something out of a sci-fi movie. Now, it's already possible. Something similar is happening at work. AI is quietly becoming a coping tool for people who feel isolated or disconnected. That might sound unusual, but it reflects a very human need. People want to feel like someone is there, especially on the days when work feels hard or lonely. The Hidden Risk Of Relying On AI Work Friends Too Much AI work friends may offer comfort, but there's growing evidence they can also create a false sense of connection. In a study published by Frontiers in Psychology, researchers found that frequent chatbot users reported emotional dependence, especially when using AI for companionship. While people felt 'heard,' they also reported pulling back from real-world interactions. When AI becomes the go-to source for interaction, it can delay the deeper work of building psychological safety, empathy, and trust with real colleagues. There's nothing wrong with using technology to meet immediate emotional needs, but leaders should stay alert to the longer-term tradeoff. If the culture allows people to replace human relationships with artificial ones, emotional support might feel easier, but not healthier. That's why investing in trust and connection at work is more important than ever. How Leaders Should Respond To The Rise Of AI Work Friends If someone on your team is using AI as a sounding board, it may not mean the culture is broken. But it could mean it needs attention. When leaders assume silence equals satisfaction, they risk missing early signals of disengagement. If employees are leaning on AI to feel heard or validated, it could indicate gaps in how managers check in or respond. AI may be filling a void, but it's leaders who need to understand why that void exists in the first place. Instead of rolling out a new dashboard or platform, try asking questions that invite honest conversation. How are people really doing? What part of the day feels most meaningful? What feels the most disconnected? These questions make space for people to speak up, and when that happens, they start to feel seen again. Small changes matter. A few minutes of focused listening, a moment of acknowledgment, or just creating time for thought can shift the tone of a team. AI might be reliable, but it can't replace what it feels like to be genuinely heard. Why AI Work Friends Are A Signal, Not A Solution We live in a moment when AI can be kind, consistent, and responsive. That is comforting when loneliness sets in. But ease is not empathy, and consistency is not connection. When employees turn to AI work friends, it often reflects a quiet need for the emotional presence of someone who listens without judgment or delay. That should matter to leaders, because real connection drives motivation, creativity, and well-being. Investing in real human presence cannot be automated. I haven't replaced my husband with Dirk, but I've learned there is room for both. AI might help me think through a question or two, but it's real people, whether at home or at work, who bring the kind of meaning and connection that lasts.
News.com.au
4 days ago
- News.com.au
‘Ultimately, our goal is to build a machine a soul would want to live in'
'Ultimately, our goal is to build a machine a soul would want to live in.' Those are the words of Dmytro Klochko, the CEO of one of the biggest companion AI apps in the world Replika, speaking to It's not difficult to see why many approach the AI spheres with such caution when the head of one of the largest companion AI companies is openly saying their aim is to develop a machine as appealing to the human soul as possible. It's a statement that in a way encapsulates the debate at the heart of AI; the potential for these technologies are undeniable, but without boundaries it can be as much a detriment as a tool for advancement. How do we walk the line between progress and caution? For those unfamiliar, companion AIs are digital personas designed to provide emotional support, show empathy and proactively ask users personal questions through text, voice notes and pictures. In short to be a companion, both romantically or platonically. Let's start with the positives. In Mr Klochko's own words: 'Replika isn't about replacing connection, it's about facilitating and enhancing it. Our key metrics aren't screen time, but human flourishing in all its forms. 'The 'loneliness epidemic' was here first. While we are not trying to claim that Replika is the perfect cure or remedy for it, we are trying to build a safe place for people to be seen, heard, and felt. 'In the right context, AI companions can be a powerful bridge, not a barrier, to human connection.' In the right context. It's precisely that context which worries Associate Director and Senior Lecturer in the ANU School of Cybernetics Jessamy Perriam. 'It's very interesting to make a claim that they want to make something that a soul would want to live in because that makes some massive assumptions that they have an understanding of what the soul is. 'From reading some of their online materials and watching some of the videos that they've placed online as marketing material or further information, you do get a sense that they want people who use this technology to form intimate bonds or close connections with them.' Dr Perriam believes it's a 'very interesting thing' to try to achieve when what is running the program is a large language model (LLM). LLMs work by predicting the next likely word or phrase in a sentence and feeding that back to users and Dr Perriam said that even though Replika likely has a very sophisticated LLM, LLMs fundamentally 'can't really do intimacy or be spontaneous'. 'My concern is it can set unrealistic expectations of day-to-day relationships. They're promising someone who's available at the top of a screen, whereas in real life, you quite often get impatient at your friends because they haven't texted you back straight away. 'It's setting up that behaviour to have all that expectation of people. We're people, we're not perfect. We can't promise that to one another.' Companion AI expert and senior lecturer at the University of Sydney Dr Raffaele Ciriello said: 'On the one hand, you can't deny the promise of these technologies because the healthcare system is strained. So many people are lonely, one in four are regularly lonely. 'Therapists can't keep up with the demand and Replika kind of comes into that space, but the risks and the damages are already visible.' Dr Ciriello believes 'the loneliness pandemic' has at least partially been created by the internet, but it's difficult to see practically how AI chat bots will help to alleviate the problem. 'It's in part because everything has moved online and interactions are less physical, that we are often struggling to have real human connections,' he said. 'It's hard for me to see how AI chat bots will make that better. If anything, they're probably going to make it worse if they serve as a replacement for human interaction.' Dr Cireiello added that the profit model under which Replika and similar apps currently run under is 'fundamentally at odds with the care imperative in healthcare' but praised the company for taking on board public feedback. '[Replika] are trying to move away from their original image as this romantic erotic partner and into the wellbeing space. They're now focusing more on using this as a tool for flourishing, as they call it, mental wellbeing and so on. 
 'And I've got to give them credit, they are evolving in response to their user community and also in response to some of the political and public backlash that they have sparked.' The most public example of such backlash was a software update in early 2025 which abruptly changed user's bots' personalities, so that their responses seemed hollow and scripted, and rejected any sexual overtures. Longstanding Replika users flocked to subreddits to share their experiences. Many described their intimate companions as 'lobotomised'. 'My wife is dead,' one user wrote. Another replied: 'They took away my best friend too.' Ultimately it's a space still racked with uncertainty, but both Dr Cireiello and Dr Perriam encouraged those who are using or considering using companion AIs to think carefully on topics such as; why and how they want to use the program, what they want to get out of it, the potential drawbacks and limitations and how your private data will be shared and stored.
Fast Company
13-05-2025
- Business
- Fast Company
How leaders at Rare Beauty and Calm put human connection at the core of their companies
It can be tempting for business leaders to overly rely on data to drive their decision-making. But so often that approach can sacrifice the human connection that's needed between leaders and their employees and customers. At Fast Company's annual Impact Council meeting last week, Elyse Cohen, chief impact officer of the Selena Gomez-founded beauty brand Rare Beauty; and David Ko, CEO of mental health and sleep assistance platform Calm, took to the stage to discuss why leading like a human is so important, particularly at a time of striking technological advancement. Data-driven human connection Although Calm leverages AI, the company predominantly uses those capabilities to democratize access to its app, which includes guided meditations, bedtime stories and soundscapes, and video lessons for movement and stretching. According to Ko, Calm is using AI to translate these features into other languages, expand content options, and increase people's comfort levels with the technology. Ko wants to employ what he calls 'human-centered AI,' which puts the user at the center of data insights. 'We want to use the data to continue to evolve, to make the product better, so that ultimately we can make you healthier and be with you in your mental health journey every step of the way,' Ko said. For Cohen, AI plays a limited role in her day-to-day operations. Rather the data she looks to comes from robust customer interactions and feedback, which, in large part, stems from the company putting mental health advocacy at the core of their business from day one. 'We didn't anticipate a community like this. It really was launching this company at a time when a global pandemic was happening. Our audience was experiencing more loneliness than ever. And so by default, we created these virtual ways to connect, which then turned into this powerful community,' she said. 'As the brand grew, it became quite clear that our community was the heart and soul of this brand.' Letting Gen Z lead Many of the lessons that Cohen and Ko have learned from their customers and employees about human connection comes from younger generations, who appreciate transparency in the workplace and want to see their values reflected in the brands they work for or spend money on. 'The way everyone is so open about a therapy appointment, or being stressed, it's not the same moment of hiding those feelings,' Cohen said. 'It's a lot more of wearing them on your sleeve and opening up the conversation for a leader to then ask how they are—and they will tell you.' As important as it is to allow employees to be open about their mental health in the workplace, Cohen also noted that it's important for company leaders to engage with 'kitchen conversations' across the board with their employees. 'When it comes to the personal part of their life, that's where they're open and willing to talk and wanting to talk,' Cohen said. 'I could tell you every employee that went to Coachella.' To Cohen, it's about understanding 'the whole person' and who they're showing up to work as. 'Our employees come to the office ready to talk and ready to actually share,' she said. Making mental health conversations company-wide Cultivating an environment where people feel like they're actually being listened to can create space for vulnerable conversations, which build trust and are crucial to companies that create products and build communities centered around mental well-being. For Calm and Rare Beauty, that ethos originates at the internal level. Ko said that he's dealt with panic attacks since the age of 14, but he didn't start to think about how his own mental health impacted the environments he worked in—including, initially, at Calm—until later in life. 'What I started to do was to open up dialogue around [my mental health], show my own vulnerability and talk about what I have been through,' he said. 'If we really want to have conversations around mental health and the workplace, it's got to be supported at all levels. If the conversation is just for HR [and] the benefit managers, it's not enough.' Cohen agreed that the tone company leaders set permeates the business as a whole. 'I think we forget that it's how we show up every day,' Cohen said. 'We can bring in every benefit we want. We can say that we focus on mental health. But it is truly how a leader shows up that creates the culture, and it's the full ripple effect because it's what everyone is following.'
