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Brits reveal the BIZARRE things they're really thinking about while having sex
When it comes to sex, most people like to think their partner is focused on them.
But the truth could be far more awkward, according to a new study.
A poll of 2,000 Brits reveals two-thirds say their mind has wondered during the throes of passion.
And while some intrusive thoughts are expected – such as work stress or household chores – some sway more towards the outrageous.
Results revealed that 17 per cent – nearly one in five – of people whose minds wandered during sex said they thought about an ex.
Meanwhile 13 per cent thought about a celebrity, 12 per cent thought about a friend and nine per cent thought about a work colleague.
The study also revealed that six per cent thought about their partner's best friend while in the bedroom.
And – in what could make the next family gathering a bit uncomfortable - four per cent said their mind even wandered to their partner's sibling.
While men are more than twice as likely to think about a colleague, celebrity or their partner's sibling during sex, women are far more likely to be distracted by real-life stressors such as money, work or the weekly food shop
The survey, carried out by Asda Online Doctor, found men are more than twice as likely to think about a colleague, celebrity or their partner's sibling than women.
Meanwhile women are far more likely to be distracted by real-life stressors such as money, work or the weekly food shop.
Manchester topped the list of cities where people think about sport during sex, while Londoners were the most likely to admit to thinking about an ex.
Further analysis went on to reveal that, despite Britain's growing openness around sex, the reality inside UK bedrooms tells a different story.
The poll showed that 41 per cent of British adults have lied to a partner about their sexual satisfaction.
Technology also appears to be adding new obstacles to intimacy – with around one in 10 Brits confessing to have checked their phone during sex.
Meanwhile, 9 per cent of men said they have used AI for sex advice rather than speaking to a partner.
Crystal Wyllie, a doctor with a particular interest in reproductive, sexual and women's health at Asda Online Doctor said: 'Sometimes we feel the need to lie about our pleasure or sexual experience so that we don't feel judged.
'But while it's a normal response, getting into the habit of being dishonest about our sexual habits can create emotional distance with a partner and make insecurities even worse.
'Open communication is key for a happy, healthy sexual relationship, so being honest about how we're feeling is a great first step.'
A recent survey carried out by the Australian National University found there are four key types of lovers.
These ranged from 'mild', who have sex twice a week on average, and 'libidinous' lovers who have sex up to 10 times per week.
WHAT TACTICS DO PEOPLE USE TO STOP THEMSELVES CHEATING?
Researchers at the University of New Brunswick asked 362 heterosexual adults how they had staved off temptations to cheat while in a relationship.
1. 'Relationship enhancement'
Seventy-five per cent of the study's respondents, who were aged between 19 and 63, selected 'relationship enhancement' as their primary tactic.
This ploy included things like taking their partner on a date, making an extra effort with their appearance around them, or having more sex with them.
2. 'Proactive avoidance'
The second most-popular was 'proactive avoidance', which involved maintaining distance from the temptation.
As well as physically avoiding the temptation, people also avoided getting close in conversation with that person.
3. 'Derogation of the temptation'
The third and final tactic used by people was 'derogation of the temptation', which involved feelings of guilt, and thinking about the tempting person in a negative light.
Participants reported flirting less when they applied the final, 'derogation of the temptation' strategy.
But none of the strategies had an effect on the levels of romantic infidelity, sexual infidelity, and whether the relationship survived.
