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The Sun
10 hours ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
How my ‘perfect' beauty regime exposed my ex as a cheating rat – what his other woman did is totally unforgivable
AN influencer has shared the peculiar way she found out her love rat ex was cheating – by the other woman using her skincare cream. Wanessa Moura has a strict morning beauty routine and often likes to share tips and tricks with her 1.3m Instagram followers. 6 6 6 Her products are all carefully organised in her bathroom. This attention to detail helped her identify that one of her former boyfriends was a two-timer. When returning from a work trip, the 31-year-old noticed that one of her face creams was running low and her carefully arranged products had been 'messed' with. 'I'm obsessed with organisation,' Wanessa, who has even launched her own skincare range, told NeedToKnow. 'I know exactly how much is left of each cream, where every bottle goes, what's sealed, what's half-used. 'When I saw one of the jars with a loose cap and a different texture, I knew someone had touched it. 'And it wasn't me.' Wanessa claims she had given her ex a key to her place, but knew he wasn't the 'vain' type, so it was highly unlikely that he had touched the cream. She said, 'Someone had messed with my products, and I knew something was wrong. 'He [my ex] would never know how to use that stuff on his own. 'He was the rough type, you know? The kind who thought anything beyond soap was nonsense, and who wouldn't even wear sunscreen or moisturiser. 'He took pride in never putting anything on his face. 'That's why, when I noticed my products had been used correctly, I got suspicious right away. 'My ex wouldn't even know how to open the jar, let alone apply the under-eye cream properly.' Unable to let the incident go, Wanessa, who hails from Brazil, confronted her ex. When pressed for answers, he confessed. Wanessa added: ' He cheated on me, and the mistress left with glowing skin. It's absurd! 'The relationship ended right then and there, of course. 'But to this day, I'm furious. 'Being cheated on is already bad enough. 6 6 'But using my expensive products without permission? 'That, to me, is unforgivable.' This isn't the only beauty-related incident that the influencer has dealt with. Last year, she claimed that another one of her exes was so vain that she would spend more time getting ready than she did. At the time, Wanessa said: 'He started spending absurd amounts on beauty products and even using mine. 'Facial care is important, and I love that men take care of themselves, but when he starts spending more on aesthetics than I do, something is wrong.' Four red flags your partner is cheating Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating. They start to take their phone everywhere with them In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something. Aaron says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful." "You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something." They start telling you less about their day When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you. "If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag." "Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron. Their libido changes Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron. Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before." They become negative towards you Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify. "To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
The Sun
7 days ago
- Health
- The Sun
I've been having steamy affair with married man for four years – but he won't leave wife and kids for me
DEAR DEIDRE: HAVING a passionate affair isn't all it's cracked up to be and I'm not proud I've been sneaking around with a married man for four years. It was never my intention to develop a long-term relationship and I haven't told a soul about us. Even though realistically he is the one cheating — after all, I'm strictly speaking a single woman — I still carry a lot of shame and I feel so bad for his wife and children. I first met my lover at work. He is 36 and I am 31. I had gone through a bad break-up and I found myself confiding in him. We'd fancied each other for ages. It all kicked off with some gentle email flirting. Then, after a couple of weeks, we began finding quiet spots to have sex at work. It seemed the most natural thing in the world even though it was risky. That is what made it exciting. I didn't think I would let myself fall in love with him, but of course then I did. He's adamant that he will never leave his wife and two kids for me and yet assumes he will always have me in his life. I am torn between my heart and what my brain tells me to do, which is to cut him off. It has been almost two weeks now since I last saw him and slept with him. He is the one who always initiates the meet-ups, never me. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships He will sometimes drive an hour to spend a night at the weekend with me. I never go to see him. I know he is a love rat and nothing will ever change. DEIDRE SAYS: You are right. After all this time he is not going to make the break, especially when he has the best of both worlds. It is now time to be kind to yourself. Explain that casual relationships are not your style and you are moving on. It will be tough, but you are worth more than staying in a one-sided, no-strings relationship. You deserve better and my support pack Your Lover Not Free explains more about how to handle this sort of situation. Be polite and professional with him at work but avoid being alone with him. There are plenty of men your age who are free to love you and give you all the things that you want. My support pack Finding The Right Partner explains more and should be helpful for you. TRAPPED AND ALONE IN A LOVELESS MARRIAGE DEAR DEIDRE: THE reality of retirement is so different from what I imagined. I hoped my husband and I would spend time together, but he prefers to sit in his bedroom on the computer. Weekends are the worst. He makes his coffee, does his own washing and prepares his own food. He will spend every minute in his bedroom until he goes to the gym on Monday morning. My husband's 67 and I'm 63. We have been married for 40 years but in the last decade we have lived separate lives. He told me my snoring was keeping him awake so I moved into our single room. I have explained how lonely I am and would like to have a chat and a coffee together, but it always ends up in arguments. There is no support from him and I don't have any other choice but to stay as financially he has all the money. I took early retirement due to ill health. I feel trapped and don't see the point of going on. DEIDRE SAYS: This is a miserable way to live but it sounds as if he is not going to change. He may be mirroring his parents' relationship, so his behaviour does not seem abnormal to him. Pick a moment to talk to him about how you are feeling. He is actually being abusive. Withholding money is a form of abuse. My support pack Abusive Partner explains more. HOW CAN I CATCH MY THIEF FRIEND? DEAR DEIDRE: MY best friend has been stealing money from me. I'm a woman of 51 and I've known my mate since we were in primary school. She's 52. She moved to Spain with her family for a while but she'd always meet me when she came home to visit her parents. She contacted me two years ago saying that she was divorcing her husband. He has a drinking problem. Her parents need her as they are getting on, so she's sold up in Spain and bought a flat near me but she's struggling to pay her bills and I regularly bail her out. I realised that I'd be taking money out of the ATM for incidental things – paying my dog walker, for example – but when I'd go to pay him, the notes would be missing. I've come to realise that the money disappears when my friend has been to my house. Do I confront her or say nothing and keep on bailing her out? DEIDRE SAYS: If she's taking money from you, this is a huge betrayal of trust so why shouldn't she be held to account? You need some evidence, though. Rather than going in, all guns blazing, tell her that you've noticed money going missing and you don't understand it and be clear that you're feeling the pinch of having money go missing. Watch her closely and if she takes money you may casually leave around, you can tell her she's hurt you and from now on, there's no more bailing out. I'M WORRIED BY HER LOW MOOD DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER dropping out of school, my daughter has now dropped out of college. It has got to the stage where she won't leave the house. I know she is suffering from depression and anxiety but rarely wants to talk. She is being assessed by the local young people's mental health team to see if she is autistic. I think she needs medication, but they won't prescribe anything. Every day she seems to get worse. I am her 48-year-old dad. I worry because she used to be very happy and outgoing, so I am not sure what has changed. I tried to suggest she talk to a counsellor, but she doesn't want to go. She's just 17. Having done some research online I also suggested she try 'journaling', mindfulness or yoga but that fell on deaf ears. She just shuts herself in her room, listening to music or watching Netflix. She is eating and she says she is sleeping but I am at the end of my tether. I work full-time and I am not always here to keep an eye on her. Neither is her mum. I am trying to keep calm and have talked to my wife, family and friends about how I am feeling as it is so isolating, not knowing what more I can do to help. DEIDRE SAYS: This must be a huge worry for you. It isn't unusual for a young person to feel depressed but with help and therapy, your daughter has every chance of recovering. Find support through (0808 802 5544), who can give you more advice about mental health services for young people. Juggling work and being a parent can feel overwhelming, but it is important to look after yourself. Your mental health is just as important, so it is a positive that you are talking to your family and friends for their support too.
