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‘Everyone is dealing with something': Jonathon Maron doesn't leave out anything in book Mental As Anyone
When entertainment journalist Jonathon Moran decided to write a book about his experience with mental health, it didn't occur to him to leave anything out.
I don't remember when I was introduced to Mr Moran, or J-Mo as everyone calls him, but I knew before I met him that I wanted to be his friend.
Not just because I'm a long-term fan of his work, but because in a sea of beige and neutrals, J-Mo will be seen strutting around the News Corp offices in everything from camo to sparkles to track pants.
If you don't see him coming, you'll definitely hear him because he has no issues projecting his voice while lovingly calling most people 'babe' usually followed-up by a disarming one-liner.
He is also a lovely friend. I can remember once he said something in passing that hurt my feelings. Not only did he apologise, but he also rang me that night to check on me again.
J-Mo is incredibly sweet but some of that sweetness stems from a lifetime of not feeling good enough.
It was his own mental health journey, which is still very much a journey, that made him want to write Mental as Anyone.
It is part memoir and part mental health toolkit, which he wrote alongside psychologist Dr Jodie Lowinger.
The seasoned entertainment journalist puts it all out on the table, from the sexual abuse he experienced to his battle with depression or the fact he estimates he has slept with over 1000 men.
It is unflinchingly honest, but speaking to J-Mo said that the process was ultimately liberating.
'Obviously, the sexual abuse was really difficult to reflect on because it forced me to relive it in ways I've kind of avoided despite the fact I've had lots of therapy. The only times I've relieved that is within nightmares,' he told me.
'It was so vivid in my mind.'
That wasn't a deterrent though because J-Mo was deadset on being honest and the only stuff
that he didn't put in his book - was trauma that involved other people.
When telling his own, he realised he didn't want to incidentally out anyone else's issues.
'There were a couple of things I didn't include to protect their feelings,' he said.
Besides that, he was happy to air it all.
'People think I'm this bubbly and happy life of the party, but anyone that really knows me knows I have a dark underbelly … and a belly,' he joked.
'If you really know me …. you know.'
The journalist said that 'everyone is dealing with something' and this book is all about not hiding from it and embracing it.
He said he knows some of his honesty goes against the 'harden up blokey' Australian culture, but that is something he's proud of.
'I refuse to play that game and I refuse for that to dictate what I will or won't do. The mental health conversation has really stalled at are you okay? We need to take it further,' he said.
There are also a lot of fun moments in the book, such as conversations about him meeting Madonna, juicy celebrity encounters, and the times he has even slept with big celebs.
'Mate, I've slept with many people; some of them were famous, and some of them weren't. It didn't really matter! It wasn't about them; it was about me being desperate to show that I had value,' he said.
J-Mo may not want to linger on it, but he will admit that there was more than just one.
'A handful only a handful. Let's say five,' he said.
Famous sexual encounters aside, J-Mo has now found real happiness with his long-term partner Alex.
'Sex for me until I met my partner was just an exchange. It wasn't something valued,' he said.
'The minute I met my partner Alex I knew he was the one.'
The only clincher was that it took Alex a moment to catch-up.
'It him a lot longer than it took me. I knew it immediately because it was a slow burn and we weren't rushing anything,' he said.
J-Mo said that despite knowing immediately that Alex was 'the one,' that doesn't mean relationships are easy, and that Alex makes him feel great all the time.
'Sometimes (he makes me feel) like s**t when he hasn't done the dishes but he makes me feel complete,' he said.
Ultimately, the whole point of the book, much like J-Mo's comments about his relationship with Alex, is to point out that nothing is perfect.
Mental As Anyone doesn't just show how far he has come in his mental health journey but rather how far he still has to go.
'I feel I'm very much a working progress. The book isn't saying I'm all aces, it is saying we're all works in progress,' J-Mo said.
