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The Sun
a day ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I'm 30 but already have FIVE wives to cater to my every need – it's not enough though so I'm on the hunt for number six
A MAN with multiple 'wives' has revealed he is thinking about bringing in a sixth partner. Jame Barrett has five women catering to his every need - Cameron, 29, Jessica, 31, Reta, 28, Gabby, 30, and 30-year-old Diana. 8 8 8 But the 30-year-old, who practices polyamory, has now revealed that applications are open for a sixth significant other. Jame claims it isn't about 'having more sex' as he's allowed to sleep with who he likes. Instead, it would 'need to make sense for everyone' and help the family overall. 'I'm looking for my sixth wife to have a good personality and be someone who complements me and my other wives,' Jame, a recording artist, told What's The Jam. 'All my women compliment me. 'I'm outspoken and outgoing, whereas my women are more reserved and shy. 'But they keep me grounded and are super supportive of me.' Polyamory is a relationship style that involves romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners, with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Jame has been with Cameron and Jessica for 13 years, Reta for eight years, Gabby for seven and Diana for four. An Instagram post revealing his intentions to find a sixth partner gathered 227,000 views. I have five wives and 11 children - it's the only way I can stay faithful but still fulfill my desire for variety And Jame, who has 75,400 Instagram followers, claims that some of his wives are open to the idea. He said: 'Some are helping me search, but they are a mixed bag. 'One has said yes, another has said no, and the others are on the fence. 'I wouldn't force my wives to accept a sixth, it has to be unanimous. I'm already allowed to mess around with girls outside of my marriage Jame Barrett 'It will be a very big deal for us.' Jame and his wives, known as The Barretts, also shared a video of themselves looking at applications. In the clip, the women can be seen tapping through applications on a computer, while nodding and shaking their heads. Jame stands behind them, waving his arms around. The post was captioned: 'If you want to be a Barrett, you have to vibe with us and him.' It has since gained over 1,200 likes and hundreds of comments. 8 8 8 One person said: 'Would you be okay with your daughter being a 6th wife to a man?' A second added: 'All y'all are beautiful.' [sic] Whilst a third commented: 'It only makes sense she has to vibe with you all. Good luck on your search.' Someone else wrote: 'At this point, he's lustful and does things for selfish reasons. This is crazy.' And another said: 'Let's go.' For Jame and his wives, who live in Los Angeles, California, this is all about building a family that works. He added: 'A sixth person would be my cap. 'I'm already allowed to mess around with girls outside of my marriage. 'So getting a sixth wife is not about having more sex or having someone new, it would need to make sense for everyone, like how would she help our family. 'Not just me, all of us.' 8 8 By Emma Kenny, a TV presenter and psychologist Raucous Role Play: If your partner enjoys dressing up for fun, it shows creativity and a desire to keep things exciting. However, it might signal that he struggles with responsibility. Multi-Partner Fantasies: Craving variety doesn't always mean he wants to cheat. However, it could indicate deeper feelings of unfulfillment. Power & Control: A little dominance is normal, but if it's always about control, it may hide insecurities. Adventure: Men seeking thrills may push boundaries, so be sure your comfort zone is respected. Passion: If he's romantic, he's emotionally tuned in—though occasionally avoiding tough conversations. Flexibility: Openness to new experiences is great, but constant novelty-seeking could mean avoiding emotional connection. Red Flag: If control is his ultimate fantasy, it may signal a deeper struggle with power dynamics.
Free Malaysia Today
3 days ago
- General
- Free Malaysia Today
Woman nabbed for intimidating, sharing nude photos of hubby and 2nd wife
Melaka Tengah police chief Christopher Patit confirmed the arrest of the woman. (Facebook pic) PETALING JAYA : Police have arrested a woman in a polyamorous marriage who allegedly threatened and shared nude photos of her husband's second wife. According to Berita Harian, the Melaka magistrates' court allowed the police to remand the suspect for four days to assist in their investigation. The woman's lawyer, Sheikh Ikhzan Sheikh Salleh, had opposed the remand order, arguing that this was merely a domestic case. The case is being investigated under Section 507 of the Penal Code for criminal intimidation, and Section 509 for outraging a person's modesty. A source said the 53-year-old woman was arrested at KLIA last night after returning from a holiday in Austria. She was wanted by police after the second wife – a 47-year-old teacher in Selangor – lodged a police report. The source said the victim was informed by her father that the suspect – a mother of four – had sent him photos of her (the second wife) and her husband in the nude. 'Fearing that the nude photos would be spread and having been harassed by the suspect, the complainant filed a police report on March 27,' the source said. Melaka Tengah police chief Christopher Patit confirmed the arrest, but declined to disclose details of the case.
The Sun
28-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
TV star, 56, says she's juggling string of secret hunks & ending ‘one guy' romances after Carol Vorderman sex confession
LIZZIE Cundy has opened up about her vibrant love life, revealing she's currently juggling several secret romances and has no intention of settling down with just one man anymore. TV star Lizzie, 56, who was married to footballer Jason Cundy, 55, until 2012, spoke candidly in the newly-released BBC documentary, Sex After Celebrity. 7 7 And it comes two years after Carol Vorderman, 64, stunned fans with her own polyamorous sex confession on live TV. Over the years, Lizzie has been linked to a number of high-profile men, including her ex-husband Jason, with whom she shares two sons, as well as rugby ace Danny Cipriani, 39, and nightclub boss Jeremy Gordeno, 59. Appearing in the film, former WAG Lizzie told viewers how she's keeping her love life spicy. She said: 'Dating is great now. I am loving dating. I do a long-distance relationship, which is fantastic.' Lizzie went on to spill the sexy secrets of juggling multiple men, sending 'little naughty pics' to keep the flames burning. She teased: 'So, you know, you can send little naughty pics and you just keep it fresh. They're not there all the time, getting on your nerves.' Lizzie admitted she's now enjoying the best of all worlds with a number of companions who each bring something different to her life. She said: 'You know, guys are good for different things. I used to have one guy and I'd think, 'Oh, if only he was a little bit more fun and wanted to go out at night.' 'So I've got guys, you know, one likes football, one likes going out for dinner, one makes me laugh, one's good in bed, you know. Got it all! "I'm free, I love it, and I've never been happier.' Lizzie Cundy in new feud with Carol Vorderman as she delivers cheeky swipe Earlier in the show, Lizzie recalled a horrific ordeal when an ex attempted to film a sex tape without her consent. She said: "I'm more aware, now I'm a celebrity, of how I am, I suppose, in bed. 'I remember dating a guy and he kept using his phone. I was like, 'What are you doing?' And then I thought, 'He's filming me. He's going to make a sex tape!' "And I'm more wary and watching, rather than more relaxed. But I'm a free girl." During a discussion with glamour model Danielle Lloyd and former politician Lembit Opik, she explained being forced to shut down a similar attempt on a date. 7 7 7 Lizzie said: 'I've actually been on a date where, sitting there, and I've seen him push his phone. "And I've thought, 'I think he's recording me.' So I just said, 'Yeah, is your phone on? Are you recording?' "And he just went, 'Yeah.'" Lizzie's revelations come after Carol's own headline-making confession in 2023. The Countdown legend admitted to having five men in her life - with no exclusive commitments, allowing everyone to move on freely. However, Carol recently revealed she had since dropped two of those relationships. She told The Times with a shrug: "Life's moved on, it's free-spirited. There's no ownership but it works. "I haven't had many relationships but I've had a couple of bad ones — they're a gamble." She continued: "I love being single. I couldn't think of anything worse than being with a full-time partner. "Most women, even happily married ones, would say if something happened to their partner they'd feel the same. They to me say, 'Yay! Good for you!'" What is polyamory? Polyamory is the practice of having romantic relationships with more than one person at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of all parties. It can refer to relationships where one person has multiple partners or spouses, or where all parties are in a relationship with each other, for example in a throuple. According to You Gov, 6.8% of people in the UK have been in a polyamorous relationship. 7
Yahoo
25-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
You May Be In A 'Tolyamorous' Relationship Without Ever Having Discussed It
By now, you've likely heard of polyamory — the interest in or practice of engaging in more than one romantic relationship at a time with the consent of all parties — that has captured the cultural conversation of late. But you may not be familiar with the term 'tolyamory,' a different relationship structure that is prevalent but seldom spoken about. Tolyamory is a term coined by sex and relationship columnist and podcaster Dan Savage. It's a portmanteau, combining the words tolerate and polyamory, and refers to a relationship dynamic in which one or both partners puts up with — or tolerates — the other's outside sexual or romantic contact. Unlike polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy, it's not something the couple has explicitly discussed and agreed to. Savage introduced the word in a January episode of his podcast 'Savage Lovecast:' '[It's] someone willing to turn a blind eye to a lap dance or a brief affair after years of marriage. They're able to focus on all the ways their spouse demonstrates their commitment and shows their love. And all of those other ways compensate or make the cheating that might be happening tolerable. These people aren't fools or dupes. They're not to be pitied — they know what they signed up for and long ago made peace with what they got. They're willing to put up with it — a certain amount of it — reconciled to it, willing to tolerate it. They are, in a word, tolyamorous.' Marie Thouin, a relationship researcher, coach and author of the forthcoming book 'What Is Compersion?' summed up tolyamory this way: 'Tolyamory is a relationship style where one or both members of a socially monogamous couple turn a blind eye to the sex their partner is having — or has had — with someone else, in order to maintain the relationship,' she told HuffPost via email. 'One or both of them are tolerating, or putting up with, their partner's non-monogamous behavior, but not openly endorsing it.' And though we don't have any solid data on the prevalence of tolyamorous relationships, Thouin said she believes they are likely 'very common.' 'Think of famous couples like Hillary and Bill Clinton, where infidelity was exposed — yet they remained together as a 'socially monogamous couple,' rather than either breaking up or going 'full poly' and openly embracing other partners,' she said. 'I would hypothesize that these kinds of situations happen commonly.' A fictional example of a tolyamorous couple would be Cameron and Daphne from the second season of 'White Lotus,' as Savage pointed out on his podcast. Polyamory educator Leanne Yau told HuffPost that tolyamory is 'probably, unfortunately, the most common form of non-monogamy.' Still, the experts HuffPost spoke to believe it could be a useful word to add to today's lexicon. 'It conveys many people's reality and brings attention to the prevalence of these dynamics,' said Thouin. It's also useful in that it differentiates this relationship dynamic from other similar ones, including poly under duress (known as PUD) and don't ask, don't tell (known as DADT). Unlike tolyamory, both PUD and DADT are 'openly negotiated forms of non-monogamy,' Thouin said. With poly under duress, one partner voices their desire to be polyamorous and the other partner goes along with it to preserve the relationship, albeit begrudgingly. 'PUD folks might be struggling with their partner's non-monogamous behavior, but they usually have entered this arrangement with informed consent and transparency,' Thouin said. 'Tolyamorous folks often have entered it retroactively through the discovery of infidelity, or an ultimatum — e.g. 'I will have sex with others whether you agree to it or not.' Additionally, PUD folks are not typically trying to maintain the appearance of monogamy.' Don't ask, don't tell is a 'somewhat explicitly discussed non-monogamous dynamic' where both partners know the other is having sexual or romantic relations with others, 'but they just don't ask each other questions about it,' said Yau, noting that the ethics of this arrangement are 'also tenuous.' Don't ask, don't tell is closer to tolyamory than poly under duress — and Thouin says she expects many people will use DADT and tolyamory interchangeably. 'In my understanding, however, DADT is more likely to be an egalitarian dynamic where both members of a couple are allowing one another to have sex outside the couple, as long as they keep it away from sight,' she said. 'I suspect that tolyamory shows up more often in one-sided dynamics where one person remains monogamous while the other is sexually active with others.' With PUD and DADT, partners are engaging in non-monogamy in 'kind of ambiguously or dubiously consensual ways,' Yau said, but there's at least usually conversation about the desire to be non-monogamous. 'But tolyamory is specifically when none of those conversations even happen and people just are pretending and are in denial that something is happening,' Yau said. There are many reasons people might find themselves in a tolyamorous dynamic — even if it's not their preferred relationship structure. For one, some cultures recognize that lifelong monogamy isn't realistic and believe extramarital sex is likely to occur, 'but it needs to be kept discreet in order for people to save face, and maintain the public appearance of monogamy,' Thouin said, citing stereotypes about the French as one example. 'Furthermore, societies where gender equality is less advanced tend to have dual standards when it comes to these expectations: Women are expected to tolerate their husbands' infidelity, while remaining monogamous,' she added. Socioeconomic status also plays a major role in tolyamory. If a woman is financially or socially dependent on her male partner, 'she will be more likely to 'tolerate' one-way infidelity, because the alternative — leaving and finding herself single — is worse,' Thouin said. 'However, in more socially progressive societies, women are quickly closing the 'infidelity gap' — which means that, ironically, everyone has a more equal chance at ending up in a tolyamorous dynamic.' Still, while non-monogamy has become more mainstream, it is still largely viewed as taboo in the U.S., a society that rewards monogamous coupledom and often stigmatizes singleness and non-monogamy. Yau said that some tolyamorous couples may be thinking to themselves: 'I don't want to create the impression that I'm promiscuous or that I'm going to spread STIs or that I'm destroying marriage and family or whatever, And so I'm going to pretend that we're actually monogamous and keep up appearances. And if my partner sees other people, I, at least, can preserve my innocence by pretending that it's not happening.' The existenceof tolyamory shows just how unwilling many people are to communicate openly in their relationships and how fearful they are of expressing their true desires to their partner, Yau said. And ending a relationship is often quite complicated — so it's no wonder many couples practice tolyamory rather than parting ways. 'People depend on one another for mutual care, financial security and emotional safety,' Thouin said. 'And even when power dynamics are on the healthy, egalitarian side, leaving relationships is often very costly — materially and personally.' 6 Signs A Non-Monogamous Relationship Might Be Right For You You Might Be Experiencing 'Compersion' In Your Relationship. Here's How To Know. I Was Unexpectedly Widowed at 29. Then I Found Out About My Husband's Affairs.
The Sun
23-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Awkward moment mum-of-six ‘makes a fool out of husband' on Channel 4's Open House in bid to SAVE their marriage
A MUM-OF-SIX has been slammed by viewers of Open House: The Great Sex Experiment for "making a fool" out of her husband. Amy came under fire by horrified fans of the show for passionately kissing a woman in front of her hubby Claude in a hot tub. 7 7 7 7 Amy had told the cameras how she previously enjoyed a polyamorous lifestyle and wanted to return to it despite hers and Claude's monogamous marriage. Claude admitted he had always stuck to one partner and was struggling with the idea of seeing his wife with someone else. But despite his obvious reservations, Amy wasted no time in snogging a woman called Georgie in front of him while sitting in a steamy hot tub. Viewers of the Channel 4 show, which sees monogamous couples move into a house alongside 'sexperts' and explore having an open relationship, were shocked. Writing on X, formerly known as Twitter, one raged: "Amy's mocking her husband." Another added: "Amy, if you end up on your own with 6 kids I'll have no sympathy." And a third said: "Amy just wants a way out of the relationship, making a fool of her partner." Someone else added: "I think it's unfair that Amy entered into a monogamous marriage and now wants to change the rules AND for her husband to be happy with that, when he's clearly not." Despite Claude's reluctance to get on board with the idea, Amy told the cameras that she believed he was only closed off to polygamy because it is "not what society dictates". But another viewer blasted: "No Amy he is not holding back cos society tells him it is not normal, he is holding back cos he doesn't want to do this!" The school run's so awkward now we're on a shocking TV experiment - maybe other parents just want to sleep with us too? Following his wife's kiss with Georgie, Claude admitted he had not found it easy to witness. "Seeing Amy with another woman is definitely out of my comfort zone," he admitted. Amy, meanwhile, all but said her marriage with Claude would be over if he didn't go along with her fantasies. "If he said this definitely isn't the lifestyle for me, it would definitely stop us moving forward," she said, bluntly. In a sneak peek of the next episode of Open House: The Great Sex Experiment, things step up gear. A trailer showed Amy and Georgie carrying out a sex act in the bedroom while Claude looked on. However, another clip showed Amy crying and admitting to the sexperts: "I feel I made a mistake last night...." 7 7 7
