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Forbes
2 days ago
- General
- Forbes
5 Signs You're Falling Out Of Love — By A Psychologist
Falling out of love can be incredibly painful. It's not something either partner ever wants, yet ... More many couples go through without even realizing it. Here's how to spot the signs. Every once in a while, you might find your partner annoying, but if you suddenly start to hyperfixate on all the differences that you once acknowledged and embraced, it may indicate underlying issues. You start to believe that they might break your relationship, something you've never considered before. You might even start to act differently around your partner. If this is the case, it could be a sign that you're falling out of love with your partner. No matter how much you try, you cannot seem to want to put in effort. What once came easily now feels exhausting. What you once viewed as their quirky traits now seem like major character flaws. Falling out of love doesn't always happen overnight. It's not the same as being complacent in love or getting too comfortable with your partner. In those cases, you can still crave quality time with your partner. You still want to be with them, rather than with other people. But falling out of love is different. It's a point when you can barely stand to be around your partner anymore. Here are five signs that you are falling or have already fallen out of love with your significant other. You do not respond to their mistakes with kindness anymore. You refuse to forgive them for their missteps as easily as you did in the past. The small acts of kindness that you once did, like checking in, offering support and comforting them, begin to lessen from your end until they fade entirely. This pattern of behavior isn't limited to a day or two when you were tired or couldn't communicate with your partner as much and hear them out. This is about the lack of compassion that builds over days, weeks and months until one day, you stop caring entirely. You start treating them with contempt instead. The fondness and admiration that you once had for your partner disappears. Criticism is one of the 'Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,' which can signal the end of a relationship, according to marriage experts Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Being constantly critical of your partner is not the same as making valid complaints. Your tone shifts from light teasing or constructive feedback to nitpicking all the time. You may find yourself berating their personal qualities and attributes when you're bothered by something minor they may have done. You may even add obscenities when you talk to them, sometimes without meaning to. There are certain social actions, called 'social allergens,' which can make you feel more critical of your partner. This includes uncouth habits like bad hygiene, inconsiderate acts like being self-centered or a violation of social norms. However, if you don't address these behaviors with tact and respectful communication, it can damage your partner's self-esteem. You may notice them becoming more defensive or distant in return. They may even show signs of distress because of the hurt they feel. Ultimately, your partner may start to feel unloved or emotionally unsafe. When you're falling out of love, even small comments from your partner can feel like personal attacks. You might find yourself snapping back quickly, interpreting neutral feedback as criticism or getting irritated by things that never used to bother you. This defensiveness could be a subconscious sign that you're trying to protect yourself. You may argue more, resist compromise or reject feedback to shield your pride because the bond doesn't feel safe or meaningful anymore. This defensiveness can feel confusing and hurtful to your partner. They may start to feel like they're walking on eggshells, not knowing how to communicate without triggering a negative reaction. Over time, they start to feel unloved, misunderstood or even blamed for problems they don't fully understand. It can make them question whether the relationship is still a safe space for vulnerability and connection. You're no longer emotionally present for them when they need you. You struggle to engage with them when they talk about their day. You refuse to communicate and withdraw from conversations that they try to have. Your indifference towards your partner may indicate that you are falling out of love with them. You shut down intentionally during conversations or arguments to 'stonewall' them. You might be doing this because you feel uncomfortable discussing your feelings or because you want to reduce tension in emotionally charged situations. You may be scared to deal with your partner's feelings altogether. In a 2015 study, researchers Esther Liu and Michael Roloff suggested that stonewalling or silent treatment could be a response to feeling emotionally drained or burnt out from overthinking about a conflict. So, if you're stewing over a fight or upsetting event, you're more likely to punish your partner by ignoring them or shutting them out. Your indifference could be due to an undue buildup of resentment. Perhaps you felt hurt, unheard, disrespected or unappreciated earlier in the course of the relationship, but instead of resolving those feelings, you covered them up. You emotionally checked out. You don't feel connected to them anymore. Their quirks, their passion and their presence no longer excite you. You pull away from them and don't engage in any form of affection or physical intimacy anymore. You might even start wondering what it would be like to date other people, if only you weren't in a relationship. As a result of your emotional distance, your partner starts to feel anxious and distressed. Both you and your partner get stuck in a demand-withdraw cycle, where one demands love, affection or communication and the other pulls back. But staying together only adds to your mutual unhappiness. You might be wondering if it's possible to fall in love with the same person all over again, and the answer is yes, you can. However, it requires true compatibility and being willing to put the work in. Once you're aware of how you're feeling, open up to your partner and be prepared to deal with their feelings. Tell them that this is how you've felt for a while, avoid placing blame and focus on why you're willing to do what it takes to get back together. Your partner may struggle with your emotions, but if they love you as deeply as they did before, they might be open to reigniting the spark. However, you also have to let down your walls, be receptive and truly communicative, rather than avoidant. In case you're convinced that they do not make you happy anymore and that there's no going back, it may be time to walk away. Not being honest with them also takes away from their life, just as much as it does yours. Ultimately, you have to decide whether it's worth fighting for the relationship or make peace with letting go, once and for all. Is your relationship still thriving or are you slowly falling out of love? Take this science-backed test to find out: Relationship Flourishing Scale
Fox News
3 days ago
- Entertainment
- Fox News
Woman goes viral on Reddit for calling out husband's last-minute party demands
A woman on Reddit is going viral for sharing with others the situation she feels her husband puts her in on a regular basis when he springs last-minute party plans on her — then criticizes her when she raises valid points about needing enough time for adequate preparation. "My husband will invite his family and friends over without telling me until that day," she wrote on the social media site. "He then expects me to clean, run to the store and prep/cook everything." She said she "finally just decided to leave the house the last time he told me because I only had four hours until their arrival. He canceled." She also wrote in her post, "The thing is, his family is constantly judging and talking about each other, so when he says, 'It doesn't matter, they don't care,' I know, and he knows, he's full of it." The woman said this was not "just tidying the house. We are not regularly stocked [with] food or drinks to have people over," she added. "When I got home, I asked what he was planning on having for dinner, and he responded, 'I don't know, I guess it's good that they aren't coming over anymore.'" She continued that her husband then began "sulking," calling her "the problem because I can't go with the flow." She wrote, "I have told him multiple times I just need a couple days' notice to get things in order. But he insists I am just difficult, uptight and uncooperative." She then asked others for thoughts about the dilemma, with many people weighing in on the couple's relationship. Over 1,000 people shared comments — with some 12,000 people reacting overall to the couple's situation. "The fact that he canceled instead of doing the prep work and hosting on his own proves that he knows how much work is involved in 'going with the flow,'" wrote one person. "If he doesn't want to do it, why should you?" Said another person, "Turn the tables. Tell him you're having an impromptu barbecue and he needs to clean up the garden, including mowing the lawn, getting out tables and chairs and the BBQ, going out and buying all the food and having it all set up before folks start arriving at 4 p.m. And it's his job because everyone knows barbecues and yard work are 'man jobs.'" "Turn the tables. Tell him you're having an impromptu barbecue." This same individual added, "And when he says no, sulk, and when he puts pressure on you to clean and prepare food, do whatever he does to you when he invites these people over without warning and you ask for help." Another commenter weighed in with a few other thoughts. "Unless he's doing the bulk of this last-minute cleaning, shopping and cooking for his guests (and it doesn't sound like he is), then he's treating you like staff and not like a partner." For more Lifestyle articles, visit Wrote another person to the woman, "I chuckled when I read that you left the house. That is just perfect, and I would do it every single time." The person added, "Why do you have to do all the cooking, shopping and cleaning for his family?" This same person said the woman is "definitely" not wrong for her actions or the way she feels. "I'm sorry your husband is a big baby," the individual wrote. "I hope you let him read all these comments."
Yahoo
11-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Woman Breaks Up with Picky Eater Boyfriend Who ‘Can Only Eat' 4 Things: ‘Never Seen Him Eat a Vegetable'
A Reddit user admitted that she broke up with her picky boyfriend because of his very selective eating habits 'He basically can only eat chicken fingers, grilled cheese, mac and cheese and pad Thai,' she explained Other Redditors described his restrictive diet as 'stuck up' and 'annoying,' especially for a 'fully grown man'A girlfriend is saying goodbye to her boyfriend thanks to his picky eating habits. The woman confessed on Reddit's 'Am I the A------?' forum that she broke up with her boyfriend due to his very restrictive, seemingly no-veggie diet. 'I realized I cannot do this and it will eventually wreck us,' she wrote of why she ended things. 'My boyfriend has tons of food restrictions and is picky in general. He basically can only eat chicken fingers, grilled cheese, mac and cheese and pad Thai. I've never seen him eat a vegetable.' She noted that they've been dating for only a few months, and although she loves him, she decided to break up before she went on a vacation, which she feared he might ruin with his incessant food complaints. 'I love him, but I eat everything and am very laid back,' she wrote of their eating incompatibilities. 'I know I will have to plan my entire day around finding food he can eat, on top of listening to him complain that things aren't the same. … I just don't want to hear about it while I'm on vacation.' 'The thought of taking him to an event or a dinner with friends/family and having him eat like a toddler makes me already experience second-hand embarrassment,' she added later in the comments section of her post. is now available in the Apple App Store! Download it now for the most binge-worthy celeb content, exclusive video clips, astrology updates and more! Feeling 'bad,' she asked the forum if she's being the a------ here. '[Not the a------],' replied someone who related. 'I told myself NEVER again with the picky eaters after dating a chicken finger man lol 🚩 somehow it will always be you who is expected to plan the meals too 😩 I understand not liking some things but unless this is medical/allergies there's a point where this is just stuck up and annoying as a fully grown man.' Most people agreed, even if they were sympathetic to any medical needs. 'At the end of the day, even if someone does have a perfectly valid reason to be picky, it's still their responsibility to handle it like an adult,' another Redditor commented. 'If he's sitting through meals complaining the whole time, particularly if it's an issue of his own making, how does that mirror his behavior in other areas of his life?' Read the original article on People
