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The Sun
2 days ago
- The Sun
My girlfriend dumped me after she had several affairs – and is lying to friends and family that I'm the cheater
DEAR DEIDRE: MY lazy girlfriend spent all day on TikTok and social media, while I worked, cleaned the house and looked after the kids. Now I've learned she was constantly setting up new hook-ups and conducting several affairs. I'm not even sure if both my children are actually mine, or if I've been bringing up one of her lovers' kids. Talk about disrespect. Now she has thrown me out and told everyone I'm the one who has been cheating on her, so they think I'm the bad guy. I don't know what to do. I'm 42 and she's 40. We've been together for 12 years and have two children, aged ten and eight. If I'm honest, she treated me badly from the start. She often lied about where she was going, met up with exes who she pretended were just friends and secretly messaged other men. But she was always ready with a good excuse and she used her charms to reel me back in. We only had sex when she wanted it, the way she wanted it. She'd use it to control me. A couple of years after we had our first baby, a man turned up saying the boy was his. I was gutted as, by then, I loved the child. She denied it, of course. After that, we had patches where things were OK, but then she'd start being secretive again. If I said anything it would end up in a huge, nasty row. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships Last week, out of the blue, she told me to pack my stuff and leave. She accused me of having an affair — which is ridiculous, as there is no time, with a full-time job, housework and all the childcare. She has told her friends and family the same story, so they hate me. She said she'd just started seeing someone else. I think she has actually been seeing him for months. I feel like I've been used, chewed up and spat out. But if I tell people the truth they won't believe me. Please help. DEIDRE SAYS: You've been in an abusive relationship with a woman who sounds like a narcissist. She gaslit you – and everyone else – and now it sounds like she's moved on to her next prey. This is not your fault. You're a good man who has tried to do your best for your family. You need support for your emotional health, advice to make sure you continue to have a relationship with your children and that you get what you're legally entitled to. Don't worry about what others think. I'm sure they're aware of what she's really like. My support pack, Abusive Partner, will show you where to get help. For advice on your rights, contact Both Parents Matter ( 0300 0300 363). Thank you for advice when my guy faced a trial DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my partner faced imprisonment, leaving me and our three children to manage alone, I was petrified. He was charged with assault and due to stand trial. I believed he was innocent, but we were warned he could face several years in prison. I'm in my mid-40s and we have been together since we were teenagers. The long lead-up to the trial was making me so anxious, and I didn't know how I'd be able to cope if he was sent down. But I couldn't tell him how worried I was as I didn't want to upset him more. I knew I needed to stay strong for our kids and stop feeling so depressed and weepy, so I wrote to you for advice. You were so understanding, telling me I needed support and shouldn't keep my feelings inside. You recommended I contact a charity called Prisoners' Families ( 0808 808 2003) who could guide me through what to expect, and be there for me. I appreciated that you didn't patronise me, acknowledging that simply saying 'don't worry' wasn't going to help. You sent me your support pack on Coping With Stress, which showed me ways to relax. Although I am still very anxious, I now feel better able to cope. Thank you Deidre. DEIDRE SAYS: I'm glad that my advice helped – but you're stronger than you think. Remember, there is support out there if your partner does go to prison. HURT BY HIS SEX TALK WITH EX, BUT I WANT TO REUNITE DEAR DEIDRE: I BROKE up with my boyfriend because he told his ex intimate details about our relationship, but now I'm wondering if I made a big mistake. I'm not sure if I can trust him, but I miss and love him. We're both in our late 20s and were together for 11 months. As our relationship developed, he sent out strong signals that he was thinking about marriage and was going to propose. But then I found out he was still good friends with his ex. She has a new partner, so I wasn't jealous, but I did feel uncomfortable. One day, a message from her flashed up on his WhatsApp. It asked if he'd had any more luck getting me into bed. I was horrified and humiliated, and had a massive row with my boyfriend, which led to us breaking up. We got back together, but after that I found it hard to trust him. He admitted he didn't want to give up his friendship with his ex. He also said that he wasn't ready to get married, and didn't know if he ever would be. I decided to end the relationship again. Now I'm not sure I did the right thing. I can't stop thinking about him. DEIDRE SAYS: It sounds like your ex boyfriend wasn't as happy about waiting for sex as he'd first appeared. It was wrong of him to share intimate details with his ex, but perhaps he needed to talk to someone he trusted. In a way, it's good he's been honest now and made it clear he isn't ready for marriage. It also sounds like he's not completely over his ex. If marriage is what you want, then perhaps it's better for you to find someone who shares your values and is ready for that commitment. If you get back together, the same issues will inevitably crop up again. It would be helpful for you to talk this through with a counsellor. TEENAGE TROUBLES DEAR DEIDRE: ONE of my mates believes I'm her best friend, but I find her spoiled and annoying. Three of us hang out together, but it's the other girl who's really my best pal, and she just gets in the way. We're all 16 and at school together. Last weekend, she got upset because she didn't want to go to a particular shop, so my best friend and I just went together. She says we should have included her and gone somewhere else. It's causing stress. What should I do? DEIDRE SAYS: Friendship groups can be tricky, as someone is always going to feel excluded. She sounds insecure. Maybe she's aware you prefer your other friend. Try to explain, kindly. But if things don't get better, you might need to distance yourself from her. My support pack, Rows With Friends, should help.
Daily Mail
27-05-2025
- General
- Daily Mail
EXCLUSIVE The shocking two-word message Pheobe's housemate sent his ex after his new lover fled to live in their ramshackle BUS
The flatmates at the centre of Pheobe Bishop's mystery disappearance were having relationship problems weeks before the teen went missing, an ex has revealed. The 17-year-old had moved into the run down Gin Gin property with James Wood and his partner Tanika Bromley, 33, following a reported falling out with her mother. It's understood that Wood and Bromley had been in a relationship since the end of last year. But Daily Mail Australia can reveal that Wood was in contact with other women just last month, claiming he had split with Bromley. He even begged an ex to 'send nudes,' while Bromley was banished from the home and living in the ramshackle bus parked outside of the property. Pheobe, 17, was last seen on Thursday May 15, leaving the share house near Bundaberg. Queensland Police believe the pair drove her the 40 minutes to Bundaberg Airport, where she was supposed to board an 8.30am flight to Brisbane and then onto West Australia, where she planned to meet up with her boyfriend. Pheobe never checked in for the flight and has not been seen since. Bromley's 2011 silver Hyundai ix35 hatchback with registration 414-EW3 - the car Pheobe travelled to Airport Drive in - has been declared a crime scene along with the Gin Gin house. Neighbours claim the pair moved to the house in October last year, which is the same time they announced their relationship on Facebook. But an ex-girlfriend told Daily Mail Australia that she'd been intimate with Wood around February this year and that he reached out again a month ago. 'James and I were mates after we were last together but he was hitting me up again a few weeks ago,' the woman said. 'He was asking me to send nudes, and I said no because he is with her but James said he wasn't with Tanika, that he left her.' His ex recalled her shock of reading the news reports regarding the missing teen and the removal of 11 dead dogs from the property. She claims Wood was always a 'good guy,' during their relationship. 'He loved his dogs, that's what I can't understand how they all died. 11 of them. Like wow,' she said. 'I don't know what to think. He got kicked out of his place in Emerald because the landlord was selling it and that's when he moved with her around the end of 2024.' The ex admitted there was a period across some months that Wood was seeing both her and Bromley, but insisted she was unaware she was being two timed back then. 'I didn't know that or else I wouldn't have had anything to do with him,' she say She also recalled Wood driving the grey Hyundi iX35 at the centre of Phoebe's disappearance the last time she saw him. 'He packed up and came and said goodbye to me and was driving that car then,' she said. While it is not clear why Pheobe was living at the house, which is now a crime scene, it is believed that her mother, Kylie Johnson, was friends with the pair and a former workmate of Bromley. Final posts Pheobe made to social media before she disappeared suggested the troubled teen had fallen out with her mother and would not return home. Ms Johnson has faced online backlash online for allowing the unconventional living arrangements, with many holding her partly responsible for her daughter's disappearance. Ms Johnson took to social media to hit back at the accusations on Tuesday. 'Finding it hard to get out of bed today,' she wrote. 'To find the strength to put one foot in front of the other and know what to do., what to think or what to say. 'People have judgments, accusations and continue to say untruths. I'm not going to correct you or be investing what little strength I have to be correcting these statements or people. 'We as a family are just trying to go through the motions of waiting for Phee to come home.' He Facebook comments were flooded with words of support. 'We have your back Kylie, we know the truth,' one friend wrote. Another added: 'I love you Kylie, people need to remember they don't know you or the family. Police continue to search bushland in Good Night Scrub National Park, about an hour away from where she was last seen over the weekend and had cadaver dogs at the scene. Wood and Bromley were questioned by police and released without charge. Daily Mail Australia does not suggest either were involved in Pheobe's disappearance Wood was at Bundaberg Magistrates Court on Monday to support Bromley with separate firearms charges, Bromley was remanded in custody overnight before returning to court on Tuesday for another bail hearing. Bromley was charged with two counts of authority required to possess explosives and one count each of possessing/acquiring restricted items and unlawful possession of weapons. Wood did not attend court on Tuesday, where Bromley was granted bail. She must adhere to a strict 9pm-6am curfew at a Gin Gin address and must report to Gin Gin police station three days a week, starting from Wednesday. She is also restricted from having any contact with Wood.
