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44 Photos That Made People Go "Um...Are The Straights Okay?" This Pride Month
a straight person would name their child "SEXY." think this is funny and not at all creepy. fun getting stuff in your eyes! are we ascribing gender to household objects? drugs? about this is feminine? did it "get him through a lot"??? this woman dodged a bullet. they say it's queer people who are sexualizing children. again!!!! 12.I swear, straight people are obsessed with genitals. I were married and my husband bought us these, I'd file for divorce. is it gay to not want to ruin your shoes? Narcissus a man? Related: "That Sentence Sat In My Head For Months": Men Are Revealing The Most Hurtful Things A Woman Can Say To Them, And It's Actually Fascinating do you feel the need to broadcast this messed-up take to every person who sees your car? meat isn't for women! Their sensitive, girlish stomachs can only handle leaves! 18.I didn't realize you were supposed to throw out all your lingerie and get new sets after a breakup. this is horrifying. Why would you put this on your car??? thought this was a good idea??? tell this to all the male fiction authors. your sense of self being this fragile that you need to affirm it through going to a specific barber and also leaving this ridiculous review. Related: Here Are 50 Pictures That Make Me Grin Uncontrollably No Matter How Many Times I've Seen Them, In Case You Need Them heard it here first, folks: men aren't allowed to ride bikes, use a credit card, live in an apartment, or USE FORKS OR GLASSES. even have to sexual assault is so funny! is the correct response. you feel this way about your wife, why are you with her? get a divorce, not a kitschy object that says "I hate my wife." The only answer is divorce. one's forcing you to be with women. if you're a woman who sees men like don't have to date them! all little girls should aspire to marry a man as their biggest goal. no. 34.I feel terrible for every woman this man has ever been with. you have to do this to get household chores done, it's over. are so many things wrong with this, I don't even know where to start. with this. 38."Your line"??? What is this, Game of Thrones? 39.I'm not gonna enter the circumcision debate, but you gotta admit, this is a SUPER creepy way to think about it. women make no sense! makes me sad for men that some male-dominated industries (in this case, construction) are like this. you think drag queens are predators??? straights need better sex education. H/T: r/AreTheStraightsOK Also in Internet Finds: Holy Crap, I Can't Stop Laughing At These 28 Painfully Awkward And Embarrassing Conversations Also in Internet Finds: I Need To Call My Doc For A New Inhaler After Cackling So Hard At These 41 Funny Tweets From The Week Also in Internet Finds: People Are Sharing How What Happened In Vegas Did NOT Stay In Vegas, And This Should Be A Lesson To Never Go To A Bachelor/Bachelorette Party There
New York Times
19-05-2025
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- New York Times
The Enduring Fantasy of Porn's Harmlessness
These days, virality is difficult to achieve. But the British OnlyFans creator Lily Phillips managed it this winter, when she appeared in a documentary titled 'I Slept With 100 Men in One Day.' The film (available on YouTube in an edited form and unexpurgated on OnlyFans) followed Ms. Phillips as she planned for and executed the titular stunt, capturing everything from the shuffling feet of the men waiting outside her rented Airbnb to her shaken visage in the aftermath of the deed. ('It's not for the weak girls,' she tells the filmmaker Josh Pieters, with tears in her eyes. 'I don't know if I'd recommend it.') Excessive? Certainly. Off-putting? To some. But perhaps not unexpected, if one considers how inured American society has become to women's sexualization and objectification — so much so that extremism seems like one of the few ways for an ambitious young sex worker to stand out. Pornography floods the internet. A 2023 report from Brigham Young University estimated that pornography could be found on 12 percent of websites. Porn bots regularly surface on X, on Instagram, in comment sections and in unsolicited direct messages. Defenders of pornography tend to cite the existence of ethical porn, but that isn't what a majority of users are watching. 'The porn children view today makes Playboy look like an American Girl doll catalog,' one teenager wrote in 2023 in The Free Press, and it often has a focus on violence and dehumanization of women. And the sites that supply it aren't concerned with ethics, either. In a column last week, Nick Kristof exposed how Pornhub and its related sites profit off videos of child rape. There are consequences for members of Gen Z, in particular, the first to grow up alongside unlimited and always accessible porn and have their first experiences of sex shaped and mediated by it. It's hard not to see a connection between porn-trained behaviors — the choking, slapping and spitting that have become the norm even in early sexual encounters — and young women's distrust in young men. And in the future, porn will become only more addictive and effective as a teacher, as virtual reality makes it more immersive and artificial intelligence allows it to be customizable. (For a foretaste of where this might end up, you can read a recent essay by Aella, a researcher and sex worker, on Substack defending A.I. child porn.) In her new book 'Girl on Girl: How Pop Culture Turned a Generation of Women Against Themselves,' Sophie Gilbert critiques the mass culture of the 1990s and 2000s, noting how it was built on female objectification and hyperexposure. A generation of women, she explains, were persuaded by the ideas that bodies were commodities to be molded, surveilled, fetishized or made the butt of the joke, that sexual power, which might give some fleeting leverage, was the only power worth having. This lie curdled the emerging promise of 20th-century feminism, and as our ambitions shrank, the potential for exploitation grew. Ms. Gilbert has a talent for pinpointing moments that, in hindsight, signal a change: when the 'ferocious activist energy' of the Riot Grrrl movement was supplanted by the Spice Girls' sexy, consumerist pop; when grown-up, self-assured supermodels are pushed off magazine covers in favor of easily manipulated waifs; when reality television and paparazzi hounds made self-exposure (willing or unwilling) the norm. And she's clear about the thread that runs through it all: the rise of easy-to-access hard-core pornography, which 'trained a good amount of our popular culture,' she writes, 'to see women as objects — as things to silence, restrain, fetishize or brutalize. And it's helped train women, too.' But while Ms. Gilbert is unsparing in her descriptions of pornography's warping effect on culture and its consumers, she's curiously reluctant to acknowledge what seems obvious: Porn hasn't been good for us. While her descriptions of the cultural landscape imply that the mainstreaming of hard-core porn has been a bad thing, she pulls her punches. 'I'm not interested in kink-shaming,' she writes, 'and I'm not remotely opposed to porn' — immediately after describing a 2019 study that found that 38 percent of British women under 40 reported having experienced unwanted slapping, choking, gagging or spitting during sex. That data point comes at the tail end of a chapter that draws a disturbing and convincing line from the emergence and popularization of violent, extreme pornography in the late 1990s to the photos that emerged from Abu Ghraib in 2004 of prisoners being sexually humiliated. But in its reluctance to acknowledge what the evidence suggests, 'Girl on Girl' is not unusual. Despite significant evidence that a deluge of pornography has had a negative impact on modern society, there is a curious refusal, especially in progressive circles, to publicly admit disapproval of porn. Criticizing porn goes against the norm of nonjudgmentalism for people who like to consider themselves forward-thinking, thoughtful and open-minded. There's a dread of seeming prudish, boring, uncool — perhaps a hangover from the cultural takeover that Ms. Gilbert so thoroughly details. More generously, there's a desire not to indict the choices of individuals (women or men) who create sexual content out of need or personal desire or allow legislation to harm those who depend on it to survive. But a lack of judgment sometimes comes at the expense of discernment. As a society, we are allowing our desires to continue to be molded in experimental ways, for profit, by an industry that does not have our best interests at heart. We want to prove that we're chill and modern, skip the inevitable haggling over boundaries and regulation and avoid potentially placing limits on our behavior. But we aren't paying attention to how we're making things worse for ourselves. Ms. Phillips's case is one example of how normalization of pornographic extremes has made even lurid acts de rigueur; it's not hard to imagine a future that asks (and offers) more than we can imagine today. Most recently, the only people who seem willing to openly criticize the widespread availability of pornography tend to be right-leaning or religious and so are instantly discounted — often by being disparaged as such. But cracks are beginning to appear in the wall, as shown by sources as varied as the recent, if quiet, revival of the anti-porn feminist Andrea Dworkin (Picador books rereleased a trio of her most famous works this winter) and the heartfelt podcasts of Theo Von, who frequently discusses his decision to stop watching porn. And members of Gen Z seem more willing to openly criticize it than their careful elders. The Oxford philosopher Amia Srinivasan, whom Ms. Gilbert quotes in the introduction to 'Girl on Girl,' notes this in her 2021 essay 'Talking to My Students About Porn': 'Does porn bear responsibility for the objectification of women, for the marginalization of women, for sexual violence against women? Yes, they said, yes to all of it.' In my own experience speaking to college students and young adults, they're dismayed and discouraged by the role pornography has played in their sexual formation. In their eyes, it colors everything. 'I wanted to understand how a generation of young women came to believe that sex was our currency, our objectification was empowering,' Ms. Gilbert writes. 'Why were we so easily persuaded of our own inadequacy? Who was setting the agenda?' The thing is, we all know. Perhaps we should be so gauche — or brave — as to simply admit it.
