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Daily Mail
5 days ago
- Health
- Daily Mail
Lacie, 15, was excited about starting a new school. Three weeks later she was dead. This is her heartbroken dad's message to all parents
The grieving father of a 15-year-old girl who took her own life has spoken out, claiming the school she attended for three weeks before she passed away failed to protect her from bullying. Lacie May Murphy died on March 18 after a struggle with mental illness and bullying at her new school on the Gold Coast after moving from New South Wales in search of a fresh start. Her father, Todd Murphy, 39, said that the school dismissed Lacie's pleas for help and made her feel as though her concerns were 'not important'. Originally from Muswellbrook, Lacie had recently moved to the Gold Coast to live with her father. At first, things seemed to be going well - she even texted her dad to say she loved the school. But by the end of her first week, things changed. Lacie began questioning her dad about the way she was being treated by other students. 'Why are they bullying me - why are they saying this?' she asked him at the time. Lacie reported the bullying to the school, but Mr Murphy said she felt ignored. Mr Murphy said staff asked Lacie whether she wished to change schools but she decided to fight on. 'To Lacie's credit, she came back to me after a week and said, "Dad, I want to... battle through and and finish Year 10 at least. And that was her decision. 'And I said, "That's good, that's what I want." I said," I'll look after the bullying. I'll do what I can. I just ask you go to school and try your hardest".' Mr Murphy also hoped Lacie, who identified as Aboriginal, would connect with the school's First Nations liaison officer - but he said it took weeks for anyone to reach out. Tragically, the phone call finally came on March 18 - the same day he came home to find Lacie had died. 'The liason officer was three weeks too late,' her dad said. 'It is the worst possible fear that any parent could have - that you have to bury your child like that.' Lacie had a history of mental health struggles, including ADHD. Her father said the school made an effort to assist her including by giving her a card she could flash to leave the class when she felt 'overwhelmed or anxious'. But Mr Murphy believes the school should have done more to protect his his daughter in the three weeks she spent there before she died. Now, he's urging schools to take bullying more seriously and for parents to better understand warning signs in their children. 'We did know Lacie was struggling, but ultimately, Lacie didn't have the tools in her toolbox to be able to explain well enough to us what she needed, or all the feelings she had,' Mr Murphy told Daily Mail Australia. 'And, you know, [she] bottled them up, and put on a brave face and a smile and didn't want to confront her own demons that she had. 'This mental health stigma and this bullying... it needs to stop. We need to do something.' Lacie has been remembered as a kind and loving soul with a passion for rugby league. 'She was the epitome of selflessness - she cared about others far more than she cared about herself,' Mr Murphy said. 'In the football team it's the same... she would run the ball to get as far as she could for her teammates, she would always stand up for them and always stand up for her friends but she carried so much of that weight herself. 'You know, she cared too much, she loved too much, she didn't know how to let go... she thought she had to do it all and carry it all.' A spokesperson for the Queensland Department of Education admitted it had do more to ensure safe and inclusive environments were created for all students. 'Our thoughts and sincere sympathies are with the student's family, friends and loved ones during this devastating time. It is a tragedy when a young person's life is cut short,' the spokesperson said. The Queensland Government recently announced a $33million investment to help tackle bullying in schools. The new program includes the establishment of 'Rapid Support Squads' designed to fly into schools in need of extra support, funding for wellbeing staff and the expansion of a hotline to provide guidance to carers. 'The Anti-bullying Stakeholder Reference Group, consisting of experts in the field will inform the department's anti-bullying actions and measures and guide future initiatives to prevent and respond to bullying,' they said. 'Furthermore, all students have access to wellbeing professionals at school, and access to a team of experts providing specialist assistance in student protection, mental health and wellbeing.'
Daily Mail
29-05-2025
- Business
- Daily Mail
Farmer, 78, killed himself because he feared Rachel Reeves' inheritance tax raid, coroner concludes, as his distraught children urge Labour to ditch hated policy before more deaths
A farmer killed himself the day before Rachel Reeves ' budget because he was 'worried' about Labour's inheritance tax raid, a coroner has found. John Philip Charlesworth, 78, 'wasn't going to let the government beat him' and wanted to pass on the farm 'on his terms', an inquest heard. Following the verdict of suicide, his family urged the government to rethink the hated policy, under which farms above £1m will be made subject to the tax from next year. Mr Charlesworth, a farmer all his life and keen church bellringer, was found dead at his farm in Silkstone, Barnsley, South Yorkshire, on October 29, the day before Ms Reeves' budget. Although struggling with the care of his dementia-stricken wife Carolyn, 73, who died four months later in a care home, son Jonathan and daughter Verity said they believe he would 'still be here' were it not for the 'financial worries over inheritance tax'. Concluding the inquest in Sheffield, Coroner Tanyika Rawden said: 'He had caring responsibilities and was worried about the implementation of the new form of inheritance tax which could see the family lose 50 per cent of their farm, ultimately causing him to take his life the day before the changes were due to be announced.' Speaking outside Sheffield Coroner's Court, Verity Charlesworth, 45, urged the government to rethink the inheritance tax raid. She said: 'It's not too late to change before someone else loses their life like my dad.' Jonathan Charlesworth, 47, who took over the running of the farm prior to his father's death so he could care for his wife, gave a message to the Chancellor, saying: 'If she'd have been here, I would have hoped she would have listened to the evidence. I'd tell her to go out and visit other farms, see them working for £3.50, £5 an hour. 'Government policy caused my dad's death and will no doubt cause more before the tax change comes in in 2026. 'I wish my dad hadn't done it, no land is worth that sacrifice, but it will happen again. 'The policy really wants abolishing or adjusting somehow. At the very least, they need to extend the implementation date. Eighteen months is not long-enough.' He added: 'It was good to hear the coroner agreed with what we already knew, that it was the inheritance tax that really ended my father's life. If it wasn't for that, he would still be here.' Mr Charlesworth jr had earlier told the inquest his father knew his wife's condition had worsened to the point she did not have long left. He said: 'He was certainly having thoughts he would be able to go back to doing stuff on the farm and go back to bell ringing'. But he added that 'for the six weeks before (his death) the only thing he would ever talk about was inheritance tax and how he was going to deal with it. 'He became very down about the financial burden which could be imposed.' But Mr Charlesworth added: 'He wasn't going to let the government beat him, he wanted (to leave the farm) on his terms and no one was going to take that away from him.' 'He thought he was doing it for the greater good of us.' The inquest heard Mr Charlesworth sr had last spoken to his son at 7pm the previous evening. Both lived in neighbouring houses on the farm. Mr Charlesworth jr found his father in a barn early the next morning after receiving a worried phone call from his uncle and he was pronounced dead at the scene. A post mortem examination found the cause of death was hanging. Mr Charlesworth sr's GP, Dr Matthew Teesdale, said he had 'minimal contact' with the surgery apart from treatment for hypertension and atrial fibrillation, a heart condition. 'There was no documented history of mental health issues or suicidal thoughts prior to his death, Dr Teesdale added. Mr Charlesworth had contact in the days before his death with a mental health team concerning support to help him care for his wife. They recorded he needed support to 'help him cope with his wife' and was feeling 'anxious' but had 'no suicidal thoughts'. A further visit was planned. But Ms Charlesworth said: 'It's not something he would say, that he was anxious'. Her brother added: 'It had got to the stage where he admitted he needed some help (but) he was talking about having a bit of freedom if my mum went'. Mr Charlesworth jr added: 'I believe my dad took his own life the day before the budget because he believed this would beat the government's inheritance tax proposals and save the farm for future generations. 'It's very sad he believed he would have to take his own life to save his farm.' After Mr Charlesworth sr's death, a note entitled 'till death do us part' was found at his home setting funeral plans including a poem, his ashes to be scattered in woodland, and for 'no sad songs' or church services. He had also left a separate note with instructions about the future of the farm and referring to inheritance tax. Paying tribute to her father, Ms Charlesworth told how farming was 'very much a defining part of his identity'. Mr Charlesworth sr, from a farming family and who went to agricultural college, had been with Carolyn since they met at teaching college 52 years earlier. The couple, accompanied by their daughter, were regular bellringers at Silkstone Church, with Mr Charlesworth being tower captain. 'He was a grandfather of six and loved to involve (his grandchildren) with jobs on the farm. He was loved by many and will be sadly missed.' Mr Charlesworth jr said he had 'taught me everything I know about farming' and would do 'anything for anyone'. Mr Charlesworth previously accused the Prime Minister of having 'blood on his hands' over the government's inheritance tax raid on farmers. His father ran a 70-acre farm on the outskirts of Barnsley, South Yorkshire, which had been in his family since the 1950s. But pre-budget news predicting the tax raid – ending the practice of allowing farmers to pass on estates without inheritance tax - had 'eaten away' at him and was the 'final straw', his son said. Speaking last October, Mr Charlesworth jr, told the Daily Mail: 'I'm not sure you could publish what I'd say to (Keir Starmer). He's got blood on his hands. 'He's totally destroying an industry we rely on.' Mr Charlesworth jr, who now looks after the 70-acre farm of sheep and cattle at Silkstone, in the Pennine foothills, himself, added: 'This government has absolutely zero understanding of agriculture let alone how it works. 'They think we're just jumped-up millionaires riding around in Land Rovers but that's not true. 'This government have killed ambition in this country – what's the point of doing well, building up a business, if it's all going to be taken away?' Mr Charlesworth's son revealed he had spent his final hours writing down his thoughts on how to protect the future of his business from the government's inheritance tax raid before taking his own life. He found a handwritten note where the Yorkshire farmer had jotted down his ideas for how best to leave the farm to his children. The musings, left on a clipboard immediately beneath a suicide note, included questions for the family's solicitor covering costs, capital gains tax, protected agricultural exemptions and what gifted assets could be sheltered from inheritance tax under the seven-year rule. On the budget, Mr Charlesworth had written: 'Is it possible to execute before law changes', and wondered 'how long' it would take for the policy to charge inheritance tax on farms worth over £1million to be implemented. Son Jonathan - who found his father hanged in a barn - said: 'The suicide note was on top of the clipboard and this was underneath it. 'That's what he was working on before he went and did it. It's fairly obvious what was on his mind. 'He was very methodical, my dad. The police have taken the suicide note and I tried to give the note about inheritance to them as well. It's got his workings out, how to save the farm from potential inheritance tax.' Mr Charlesworth Jr said his father wrote in the suicide note that he had 'left some beers in the fridge' for his son, adding: 'I appreciate all the help and support you've given me.' Further lines were written to his daughter, who is not involved in the farm, which has been in the family since 1957. Although Mr Charlesworth sr was sole carer for his dementia-stricken wife Carolyn, 73, who had to be placed in a home, his son said he was 'talking more about inheritance tax lately than about caring for his wife'. Mr Charlesworth Jr revealed he found his father after receiving a call from a family friend who had been unable to get hold of the pensioner on the phone. He said his 'first thoughts' were shielding his youngest children - a son aged seven and daughter, nine, who live with him - from the tragedy, so called their mother to take them to her house before emergency services arrived. Father-of-four Mr Charlesworth Jr, who keeps 40 cattle and 120 sheep, said he still hopes to be able to leave the 70-acre farm to his children one day, with his youngest son particularly interested. 'Even his teachers say all he ever talks about is farming and tractors. He's like I was at that age,' he said. Although the farm, which also includes a small camp site and shepherds' huts, is worth approximately £2million on paper, Mr Charlesworth Jr's income last year was under £15,000, equivalent to an hourly rate less than half the minimum wage. He added: 'I put in up to 60 hours a week, so that works out at less than £5 an hour and I only had four to five nights away with my partner. 'I haven't had a week's holiday for 13 years – yet the government is asking farmers to fund the pay rises of train drivers, nurses and doctors and everyone else.' 'The most I've ever made was £30,000 a year, when my dad was running the farm and I had another job.' Mr Charlesworth Jr told how he has been left 'numb' and 'exhausted' by the tragedy – which he first revealed in an anonymous post on the British Farming Forum website. In the post, he wrote: 'This morning I found my dad in the barn having taken his own life. 'So afraid of the IHT implications on farms he took his own life rather than see the government take half the farm in IHT. 'As a family, we are devastated and in shock! This is the human cost of government policy or potential government policy. 'They claim to be for the working man, no man worked harder than dad. He increased the acreage from my grandad's day and was proud of what he achieved.' In the post, Mr Charlesworth jr also told he believed his father aimed to 'beat the budget by ending his life' and that it is what happens when 'you have built something your entire life and see it robbed from beneath your kids' feet'. He said the family did not make enough money to pay a large inheritance tax bill, nor would they be able to borrow it. Mr Charlesworth jr has called on farmers to protest instead by withholding their produce. Calling on the government to rethink scrapping inheritance tax relief for farms worth over £1million – which campaigners say will lead to the break-up of family farms to pay death duties - he added: 'Rachel Reeves's husband Nicholas Joicey is Second Permanent Secretary at the Department of Food, Environment and Rural Affairs. 'She should have better knowledge of what will happen as a result of this policy.' The Government expects the new tax rules to raise an extra half a billion pounds by 2028/9. The Treasury says just 27 per cent of farms will be affected, but the NFU says the true figure, based on analysis of DEFRA figures, is 66 per cent. The new rules mean farmers can pass on £1 million of agricultural assets tax-free, in addition to exemptions for all inheritances - a £325,000 tax-free allowance, plus a further £175,000 for a main residence. The Treasury argues this means most farmers can use all three and pass on £1.5 million of assets without tax - and if the farm is owned by a married couple, both are eligible for the exemptions. This would enable them to jointly pass on £3 million of assets. However, critics have repeatedly warned that farming families who are asset-rich on paper will now not have enough money to cover the inheritance tax. For confidential support contact The Samaritans on 116123.
