09-05-2025
New Mom Asks Husband to Spend Mother's Day with Her, Rather Than His Own Mom
A woman who gave birth to her first child six months ago says she wants her husband to spend this Mother's Day with her, rather than with his own mom
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that instead, he's planning to make the two-hour trip to see his mom
Now, she's seeking advice from the internetA new mom says she wants her husband to spend this Mother's Day with her, rather than with his own mom.
In a post shared to Reddit, she writes that the two have a 6-month-old child and that this coming Mother's Day will be her first as a mom.
"Tonight while we were eating dinner he told me he would be going over to his mom's house for the day (2 hours away)," she writes. "I pointed out this would be my first Mother's Day ... and that I always make sure he gets treated well, time to relax, etc. on Father's Day."
She continues: "Even before we had our shared child, I always made sure he got things from his first child (previous marriage). He told me if it really 'bothered' me that much I could go with to his mom's house."
But she says there are "a few issues" with that scenario.
"I am still nursing and there's no private areas in her house for me to do so," she writes, reiterating that her mother-in-law also lives two hours away and, "there's no way our 6mo old is doing 4 hours in the car in a day with some major mental break downs."
She continues: "There's also no where for our baby to nap over there. The idea of me going with is just not practical in this phase of our lives."
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The woman adds that she wants her husband to see his mom, but also doesn't want to spend the weekend alone.
"He works 9-5 during the week and nights Friday/Saturday. I also work full time 9-5. Sunday are our only 'family' day of the week and the only day I have help with our baby so I can focus on getting the house cleaned and prepped for our busy week ahead," she adds.
Some commenters suggest a compromise might be in order, with one writing, "I don't blame you for wanting your husband to put you and his child first, have you considered inviting his mother to spend Mother's Day at your place?"
But the original poster says that might not be an option, responding, "I'd be open to it… they always act like coming out here is some major 'inconvenience.' Even Christmas when our baby was newborn I spent totally alone at home while he went out to visit at their house, bc they were too 'busy' to make the 2hr drive down to us."
Adds another commenter, "So on your first Mother's Day as a new mother, he runs off to mommy. What else do you need to know? Go ahead and waste a few more years but the reality is he does not place you first in his life. That's a bitter pill to swallow. I suggest you show him this post."
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