17-05-2025
21 Things That Are NOT As Romantic As People Think They Are
Look, I am a romantic at heart, but sometimes there's a disconnect between intent and the actual execution of a "romantic" gesture. Case in point, Reddit user unitedfan6191 posed the question on r/AskReddit, "What's not as romantic as people think it is?" Here are just a few of the responses:
1."Gifting a pet. That's a ton of responsibility to dump on someone, and even if they do want a pet, they miss the special moment of picking it for themselves."
-u/kyew
2."Proposing in front of a crowd. Even worse, at a sporting event on the Jumbotron."
-u/SaltConnection1109
"Or at somebody else's wedding/reception."
-u/TheUnblinkingEye1001
"Yeah. It's more of a hostage situation than a marriage proposal."
-u/Blinky_
"It's fine if it's planned in advance, I think. But surprise public proposals, hell no."
-u/CreeperSlimePig
3."Showing up without telling then you're coming."
4."Meeting and getting married shortly after. Even if you believe they are 'the one,' please get to know them in the dating phase."
-u/3cots-andahot-girl
"I did this, and deeply regret it and agree with you 100%. Just wait take your time"
-u/SecureVermicelli7893
"I did this and it's worked out very well. However, if my child tried it, I would strongly discourage it. We both agreed that it was silly as hell, and we're lucky that we don't hate each other."
-u/CornBredThuggin
5."Shower sex. Can't stand it. Looks hot in the movies, dangerous and unrealistic in reality."
-pleasantly-dumb
6."Making major purchases without discussing with your partner first."
-u/ForayIntoFillyloo
"Every Christmas, those commercials in which an absolute psychopath presents their spouse with a brand new $100,000 vehicle. Absolutely not."
-u/reillan
7."The song 'Every Breath You Take.' It gets played at weddings alllll the time. Even Sting came out and said WYF people."
-u/im-not-a-panda
8."Big weddings. You'll be exhausted and stressed out by the end of the night."
-u/Anonymoosehead123
"Eloping is a lot more romantic than people think it is."
-u/CheshireCat987
9."Pursuing someone after they say no or are already with someone else. Just creepy and wrong in real life."
-u/Bottlecollecter
10."Romeo and Juliet"
-u/OutrageousEvent
"What's wrong with a two-week relationship that has a body count?"
-u/Strangerin907
11."Sex on the beach. Or sex in water."
-u/123-Moondance
"Without a beach towel, yes. Terrible. With a beach towel, great. But yes, underwater is not great. Water pressure in enclosed spaces can be bad."
-u/reillan
12."The fighting/makeup sex cycle. Man, it's exhausting."
-u/givesyouhel
13."Serenading. I had a first date serenade me once. I left the date feeling like he was going to try to wear my skin."
-u/catinthexmastree
"I've had multiple romantic partners serenade me as a surprise (I used to work in music and therefore, dated a lot of other musicians). Every time it happened I wanted to jump off a fucking cliff. It's like when people are singing 'Happy Birthday,' but it's one person, and it's a love song, and if other people are present, they are staring for your reaction. I would be super grateful and touched in public and then make it abundantly clear in private to never, under any circumstances, do it again."
-u/ImActuallyTall
"I came here to say this. There is nothing less romantic than having to look right into someone's face while they sing directly at you."
-u/Ginnabean
14."Showering together. You're in my way. Move."
-u/toasterbathpanda
15."Proposing on any holiday! Hey babe, here's your Christmas gift. It's a ring I could have given you next week, but then I'd have had to buy you another gift!"
-u/Shine-N-Mallows
"My ex-husband did this BECAUSE he couldn't think of any other gifts."
-u/pandyroo22
"I think proposing on a holiday is tacky unless that person getting proposed to expressed wanting that. It takes ZERO planning to make sure the mood is right because your family will be in town, the house looks nice, etc. I also can't imagine if the relationship doesn't last how long it would take to stop associating X holiday with Y partner."
-u/ParanoidWalnut
16."Absence. It doesn't make the heart grow fonder. Long-distance relationships aren't great either."
-u/VixenTraffic
17."Sharing earbuds. Movies make it look cute, but in real life it's uncomfortable, awkward, and someone's always getting yanked when they move."
-u/softlyanna
"Oh, that's nasty. I don't need someone else's earwax being mixed with mine."
-u/im-not-a-panda
18."Standing in the rain, arguing. Like babe, I'm cold, wet, and emotionally unstable. This isn't The Notebook, it's a breakdown."
-u/YourNewPrincesss
"Standing in the rain. Looks cute in movies but in real life you're wet, cold, and lowkey annoyed."
-u/dustymusee
19."Valentine's Day"
-u/sarahballoon
"My husband is from a country where Valentine's Day isn't really a thing. He asked his coworkers what he's supposed to do. They told him, 'buy her something expensive she likes.' We got home around the same time; he presented me with a bottle of Johnny Walker aged whiskey. I didn't know he left work early to surprise me, so I'd gotten myself a bottle of Red Stag."
-u/MusicalPigeon
20."Anything Edward did for Bella in Twilight."
-u/goldandjade
finally, "Involving food with sex. Chocolate sauce and whipped cream in crevices you never knew you had are not a good time."
-u/Dense_Principle_2384
Do you any suggestions to add to this list? Leave a comment below.
Note: Responses have beed edited for length/clarity.