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The Sun
14 hours ago
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- The Sun
I went on a wild sex rampage with dozens of men decades younger than me after my hubby got his secretary pregnant
1 DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband of 22 years left me for a younger model and so I did what any other self respecting single woman in her late 40s would do - I hit the dating scene hard and what I discovered has truly shocked and thrilled me. I've learned more in the past 20 weeks about sex and fun than I did in two decades of marriage. And there are plenty of men, most of whom are A LOT younger than me, who like the fact I'm older and more self assured. I've learned to expect questions about my sexual preferences within the first message or two, understand that sending nudes is this generation's version of flirting and the biggest difference - that everyone expects you to keep your options open while dating. So far I've been out with ten men and I don't regret a single date. So while my ex made me feel washed up and undesirable these men have reignited something in me. After discovering our marriage had become a cliché - he was having an affair with his secretary - he moved out and set up home with her within one month. I was still unravelling when weeks later he told me he was going to be a dad to their unborn child. Our son and daughter are young adults now but it still hurt that he was moving on so quickly. Feeling low and rejected, I decided I needed to pick myself up and start having some fun myself. One night I asked a good girlfriend around and together we tentatively made a profile for me. Within ten minutes of uploading I was getting matches and a significant number of them were in their 20s. I'm 47 and thought it was a joke but my friend encouraged me to respond to a couple of them who looked fun. Dear Deidre: Spotting the signs your partner is cheating Since then I have been on the wildest ride and have discovered that dating has changed an awful lot since I was in my 20s. I've gone from, boring stay-at-home wife, to having a huge sexual re-awakening and the time of my life. The first time I went on a date was with a 28-year-old electrician. Suspicious, I asked if he was taking the mick. He convinced me he genuinely thought I was gorgeous and wanted to see an older woman 'because we aren't as needy'. And since then the young men keep on coming. I can't believe it and my married girlfriends are so jealous. The only time I felt out of my depth was when one man started squeezing my throat during sex. I was so shocked I demanded to know what he was doing. Surprised, he replied that he thought women liked it. He stopped straight away but that rattled me. I'm currently seeing three different men and they all bring different things to the party. But there is one guy in particular who I really like and he's started to make sounds that he'd like to settle with me. But how can I settle with a 29 year old? That's nearly two decades difference! DEIDRE SAYS: It is good that you have built your confidence back up and you're having fun. You are right to be wary of hurtling head first into a relationship with a much younger man. There is lots to consider - first and foremost how your children will react. And just as importantly; do you both want the same things from life? The biggie is the question of children of course. You've had your kids, do you realistically want the responsibility of a tiny newborn again? There is no two ways about it, two decades is significant but he is an adult, so you could of course both make it work. But you need to be realistic and society, your social network and family may not be so accepting. It sounds like the time has come to have an honest conversation about what you are both looking for. And as hard as it will be to end it with him, better to do that now before your lives become further entwined, if there is realistically no future. If you are ready to settle down (and the fact you have started to fall for this one man, suggests you are) but things don't work out with him, perhaps it's time to slow down and make sure you are seeing men with the same outlook as you. My support pack Age Gaps gives more advice. Dear Deidre's Age Gap Files Deidre's mailbag is stashed full with age gap relationship problems. One reader struggled to move on after her younger lover dropped her after sex, a different subscriber wrote in because he fell head over heels for the older woman who uses him as a booty call, while one woman couldn't move on after her toyboy dumped her for his ex. AGE GAPS – CAN THEY WORK? It's a question that gets asked a lot - often with a raised eyebrow: can relationships with a significant age difference actually work? In short: sometimes yes, sometimes no. The success of an age-gap relationship isn't always about the numbers, it's about how those numbers show up in our every day life. When both partners are at similar life stages - emotionally, socially and sexually - an gap of five, ten or even 20 years can feel irrelevant. But when one person is still figuring themselves out and the other is settled into long-term routines and commitments, those differences in lifestyles can quietly drive a wedge and cause problems in the relationship. Age gaps often bring hidden power dynamics. Who has more money, more life experience, more social capital? Who's compromising more to bridge that gap? These imbalances don't automatically mean a relationship is unhealthy, but it's important that they're acknowledged. Society tends to judge these pairings differently depending on who is older. Older man, younger woman? Often framed as classic or aspirational. Older woman, younger man? Cue the jokes, suspicion or backhanded compliments. However, for some women, dating younger is about energy, openness and sexual chemistry. For others, it's about finally being able to pursue what they want without being tethered to patriarchal expectations of settling down, caregiving or shrinking themselves. However, the power dynamic isn't always as one-sided as people assume. Many younger men are drawn to older women because of their confidence, emotional intelligence, and clarity about life. These are not naive boys and predatory women - they're adults navigating attraction that often feels more genuine than conventionally 'suitable' pairings. The reality is, all relationships come with challenges. Age-gap dynamics are just one version of that. If you share values, communicate well, and genuinely want the same things, an age difference doesn't have to be a red flag. But if you find yourself constantly adjusting your behaviour to fit into someone else's life - or if the age gap is being used to control, impress or mould you - it's worth asking why that person was attracted to the dynamic in the first place. Ask me and my counsellors anything Every problem get a personal and private reply from one of my trained counsellors within one working day. Sally Land is the Dear Deidre Agony Aunt. She achieved a distinction in the Certificate in Humanistic Integrative Counselling, has specialised in relationships and parenting. She has over 20 years of writing and editing women's issues and general features. Passionate about helping people find a way through their challenges, Sally is also a trustee for the charity Family Lives. Her team helps up to 90 people every week. Sally took over as The Sun's Agony Aunt when Deidre Sanders retired from the The Dear Deidre column four years ago. The Dear Deidre Team Of Therapists Also Includes: Kate Taylor: a sex and dating writer who is also training to be a counsellor. Kate is an advisor for dating website OurTime and is the author of five self-help books. Jane Allton: a stalwart of the Dear Deidre for over 20 years. Jane is a trained therapist, who specialises in family issues. She has completed the Basic Counselling Skills Level 1, 2, and 3. She also achieved the Counselling and Psychotherapy (CPCAB) Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Studies. Catherine Thomas: with over two decades worth of experience Catherine has also trained as a therapist, with the same credentials as Jane. She specialises in consumer and relationship issues. Fill out and submit our easy-to-use and confidential form and the Dear Deidre team will get back to you. You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page or email us at: deardeidre@
Daily Mail
09-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Cougars rejoice! Women with younger boyfriends have more fulfilling sex lives than ladies with older partners, study finds
There are many things that can influence satisfaction in the bedroom. But one factor in particular could be what's putting a smile on the faces of Cher, Joan Collins and Priyanka Chopra. A new study has found that women with younger partners have more fulfilling sex lives than ladies who are dating older men. And it could go some way to explaining why women are increasingly drawn to 'toyboys'. For the study, researchers from London Metropolitan University recruited 126 individuals who were currently in age-gap relationships. This was defined by a difference of at least seven years between partners. Participants completed a range of questionnaires to measure various aspects of their relationships, including sexual functioning and satisfaction. Analysis revealed women in relationships with significantly younger men reported better sexual arousal, lubrication, orgasm, and overall sexual satisfaction. That's good news for Cher, 79, whose boyfriend Alexander Edwards is 40 years younger than her, and 92-year-old Joan Collins, whose husband Percy Gibson is 32 years her junior. Priyanka Chopra, 42, also has reason to smile, as her husband Nick Jonas is 32. In bad news for Donald Trump, 78, and his wife Melania, 55, the study revealed that younger women dating older men reported lower levels of sexual functioning. Across all age-gap groups, men who were more satisfied in their relationship reported better sexual functioning. This included greater desire, fewer problems with erection and ejaculation, and higher sexual satisfaction. These effects were particularly pronounced among older men dating younger women, the researchers found. They also discovered that women in relationships that lasted between six months and a year reported the highest levels of lubrication and orgasm. But after this time frame these measures appeared to level-off or even decline – suggesting a potential 'honeymoon' phase. Analysis went on to reveal that women who dated older men reported greater financial gain from their relationship compared to those who dated younger partners. 'I had previously conducted a small-scale study, examining 24 older women who dated younger men and subsequently scored higher in levels of emotional intelligence, sexual confidence, and sexual functioning compared to similarly aged women who dated men of their age,' Dr Samantha Banbury, one of the study's authors, told PsyPost. 'I find societal attitudes towards age-gap relationships more surprising than the outcomes of our research and the stigma associated with them, which is often judgmental, regardless of gender.' She added: 'People often become overly concerned with others' opinions, which perpetuates the stigma associated with perceived normality and conventions that do not suit everyone. 'Nor should they. We should focus on establishing our own sense of normality based on what works for us.' One of the most well-known depictions of a 'cougar' - an older woman who likes a younger man - is the fictional character Samantha Jones from Sex and the City. In the series, Samantha is portrayed as a confident, sexually liberated woman in her forties who is willing to engage in relationships with men significantly younger than her. Kim Cattrall, who plays Samantha, has previously said she 'loved' the fact that there was 'never a desperation' about her character. The team said their findings, published in the journal Sexual and Relationship Therapy, reinforce earlier research that found younger women partnered with older men reported lower levels of sexual satisfaction, including less frequency of sex and orgasms. Previously, researchers from the University of California, Davis, have confirmed that women are drawn to younger partners - whether they realise it or not. 'This preference for youth among women will be shocking to many people,' said Professor Paul Eastwick, lead author of the study. 'Because in mixed-gender couples, men tend to be older than women. 'Plus, women generally say they prefer older partners. 'But women's preferences on the dates themselves revealed something else entirely.' Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas' past loves: From Miley Cyrus to Bollywood legends By LIZZIE SMITH FOR Two years on from their first date, and Nick Jonas and Priyanka Chopra are married. But before the two fell for one another, they had both enjoyed their fair share of romance, and indeed the occasional broken heart. Here we look at the newlyweds romantic history, and examine how love for Nick, 26, has changed the formerly private Priyanka, 36 - who is now happy to share her big day with the world. Interestingly in an interview with Vogue to mark her upcoming marriage, she admitted Nick was the first lover who she had ever been willingly photographed with. 'I've had that rule my whole life,' she told Vogue. 'Never publicly acknowledge a relationship. Ever. What is happening? I've not known myself like this. This guy turned me into such a girl! If I could blush, I'd be tomato red right now.' Despite the lack of photos, plenty of column inches have been devoted to Priyanka's love life over the years, particularly in India, where speculation has always been rife about the huge Bollywood star. With few pictures of her with romantic interests, fans naturally speculated about her links to her male co-stars. Her first famous lover is rumored to have been Asseem Merchant, the actor known for his appearances in films such as Wanted, Aseema: Beyond Boundaries and Singh Saab the Great, but it is not known when exactly they dated and for how long. She then was thought to be in a relationship with Harman Baweja, 38, of Love Story 2050 fame in 2008 before being seen with fellow actor Shahid Kapoor, 37, from 2009. They were linked for two years. There has also been speculation about her relationship with Akshay Kumar, 51, after they appeared in many films together. According to a report on Trend Unplugged, fans wondered if Priyanka had the hots for Shahrukh Khan, 53, when the pair were filming the 2006 film Don, after she repeatedly professed her love for the actor in multiple interviews. His wife, Gauri Khan, is even said by some to have banned her husband from talking to Priyanka. Before her relationship with Nick Jonas was revealed, rumors were rife she was dating British actor Tom Hiddleston, 37, after the pair were spotted at a few awards ceremonies together in 2016 - the year she enjoyed her first date with Nick. Meanwhile former teenage heartthrob Nick Jonas's first high profile girlfriend was Miley Cyrus, 26, and their relationship was revealed in her 2009 book Miles To Go. She even wrote the song 7 Things about him. After his split with Miley, Nick made his feelings about Selena Gomez clear in 2008 and she appeared in his music video for Burning Up. Rumors also circulated about his Jonas L.A. co-star Nicole Anderson, 28, before he dated Samantha Barks, 28, in 2010 and later, Delta Goodrem, 34. Nick was also spotted on a few dates with Gigi Hadid, 23, but she went on to date his older brother Joe Jonas. Nick and Rita Ora, 28, managed to keep their relationship under wraps until he released the song What Do I Mean To You, which included her name in the lyrics. He was then linked to Olivia Culpo after meeting her when hosting Miss USA in 2013. After being spotted with Kendall Jenner, he was also rumored to be spending time with Tinashe, especially after she was featured on his track, Jealous. Nick was also linked at various times to Kate Hudson, Barbara Palvin, Lily Collins, Cherry D and Georgia Fowler.
