I dumped my boyfriend on our second anniversary vacation when he didn't propose — does that make me a ‘walking red flag'?
But side-eyeing social media skeptics say her ex 'dodged a bullet' by not popping the big question.
'On our first date, I told him he had two years to purpose,' began Bela Marie, a self-worth influencer, in the closed-captions of a trending tell-all with over 10 million TikTok views. 'On our two-year anniversary, I broke up with him.'
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Yes you read that right. When we started dating, I told him he had 2 years to propose. On our 2-year anniversary—after he flew me out to Catalina, surprised me with a suite and a beautiful boat around the island to celebrate 'our love,' and planned a beautiful long weekend trip—he did not propose. So I broke up with him and ended our relationship. THANK GOD I did not marry that man. There were so many reasons I should have left prior, but I decided to stay—and this was the tipping point. I'm blessed every day that this man is no longer in my life, and I'm proud of myself for sticking by my gut and what I told him on our first date. Ladies, time is not a love language. If you have big dreams and goals that require a male counterpart—like marriage and a family—I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste more time than necessary on the WRONG PERSON. After two years of being together, he was still uncertain about marrying me … then I wasn't going to wait around to change his mind, beg for him to help me achieve my goals, or work harder out of this idea that I needed to 'prove my worth.' He didn't make a move. So I did—I left. Consistency without commitment is just convenience. And I'm around for a man that commits. Not a boy that wants to waste my time. ffypwwomenddatingadvicesselfrespectrrelatablebbelamariewwomanddatingsselfworthttoxicttoxicrelationshipssituationshiptoxicpeople ♬ what falling in love feels like x turning page – alex
5 Marie, a content creator, virally revealed that she dumped her boyfriend of two years during a romantic vacation after he failed to purpose.
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He missed her deadline. Now the relationship has flatlined.
However, rather than applauding the no-nonsense siren for sticking to her guns, cyber critics are labeling Marie 'ridiculous,' 'wild' and a walking 'red flag,' arguing that a two-year romance is too short to make a lifetime commitment.
And her haters aren't totally wrong.
5 Researcher have found that the majority of modern sweethearts get engaged after two to five years of dating.
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Only a mere 30% of couples date for two years or less before getting engaged, per a recent survey of 8,000 fiancés, via The Knot.
A whopping 53% of lovebirds agree to get hitched after two to five years together, according to the wedding experts, while a slim 17% wait six years or more.
It's a serious step that deserves serious consideration — especially right now, when divorce rates are skyrocketing.
And Marie seems to agree.
5 Marie explained that she did not was to 'waste time' hanging on to a relationship with a 'boy' who wasn't ready to make a lasting commitment after two years.
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'THANK GOD I did not marry that man,' she captioned her viral vid, in part.
'On our two-year anniversary, after he flew me out to Catalina, surprised me with a suite and a beautiful boat around the island to celebrate 'our love,' and planned a beautiful long weekend trip— he did not propose,' continued the brunette. 'So l broke up with him and ended our relationship.'
'There were so many reasons I should have left prior, but I decided to stay — and this was the tipping point,' Marie ranted. 'I'm blessed every day that this man is no longer in my life, and I'm proud of myself for sticking by my gut and what I told him on our first date.'
5 Marie refused to remain locked in a romance with a man who was 'uncertain' about her long-term value.
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With her virtual megaphone, she went on to encourage women not to 'waste time…on the WRONG PERSON.'
'After two years of being together, he was still uncertain about marrying me,' wrote Marie, 'then I wasn't going to wait around to change his mind, beg for him to help me achieve my goals, or work harder out of this idea that I needed to 'prove my worth.''
'He didn't make a move. So I did — I left,' she barked. 'Consistency without commitment is just convenience.'
'And I'm around for a man that commits. Not a boy that wants to waste my time.'
5 Women online lauded Marie for taking a stance and setting firm relationship boundaries.
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Gals in agreement with Marie's steadfastness saluted her with support.
'Don't move your boundaries for anyone, ever,' cheered a commenter, punctuating her approval of Marie's move with the clapping emoji.
'Planning a beautiful trip like that for your anniversary and not proposing is cruel,' another noted.
'I stayed… for 10 years & he still was unsure,' confessed a separate woman. 'We deserve better.'
'If someone doesn't know after 2 YEARS, run,' an equally caring ally advised. 'So proud of you.'
'I love this generation of woman leaving at the drop of a hat and not falling for sunken cost fallacy,' chimed another. 'It's amazing!.'
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