Chinese dining etiquette dos and don'ts, from who eats first to chopstick manners and more

South China Morning Post

28-07-2025

In Confucian philosophy, li, or 'propriety', is an ethical principle that emphasises politeness and manners as a means to cultivate social harmony and moral virtue.
The importance of good behaviour also extends to the dinner table, as the ancient Chinese considered the communal act of breaking bread as an expression of social bonding.
Although eating customs have evolved over time and through cultural shifts, some aspects of
Chinese dining etiquette have remained the same. For many Chinese people around the world, who were scolded in their youth for bad table manners, these customs are embedded in their muscle memory.
Take note of the following pieces of dining etiquette before your next extended family gathering.
1. Easy kneeling
It is seen as an honour to have one's tea poured by an elder or senior person. Photo: Nora Tam
Tea and other drinks should be served to others before helping oneself and, when being served, instead of saying 'thank you', the receiver can tap two fingers on the table to signify deference.