'They steal people's money and their hearts': Romance scams targeting Mass. seniors on the rise

Boston Globe

14-02-2025

Police report of the romance scam targeting Nancy.
Omar Vega
Then there was Dr. Wesley Robeson, a 'diplomatic surgeon' who, according to police and neighbors, professed his love to Nancy — at least online. He promised to set her up in a New York penthouse if she helped fund his travel from overseas. She did her part, but he vanished. There were others, too, like the supposed military surgeon, who made off with her cash.
Time and again, Nancy's friends, neighbors — even police — warned her. But love supposedly knows no bounds, especially in the digital age, where deception is often just a direct message away. The Globe is withholding Nancy's last name because she was the victim of multiple crimes and has died.
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As more people go online to seek romantic relationships, and transferring money has gotten easier and less traceable, an increasing number across the country — particularly older people —
have fallen victim to fake romance schemes in which scammers convince their targets to sign over their fortunes under the guise of a romantic relationship. These online schemes have increasingly targeted older people, who are often socially isolated and more vulnerable, experts say.
Massachusetts is part of that trend. Yearly reports of romance scams for victims 60 and older jumped from just 66 in 2020 to 166 last year, according to data obtained exclusively by the Globe from the Federal Trade Commission. In 2024, the estimated damages of romance scams against seniors in the state totaled $7 million.
Nationally, romance scams were the third most costly crime committed against older Americans in 2023, behind only investment scams and business impersonation scams, according to the FTC. Older Americans reported losing $277 million to romance scams that year, up 330 percent since 2019.
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These figures are also likely but a small glimpse into the true total number of cases out there, as authorities say many victims forgo ever reporting the crimes — out of fear or shame.
This rising trend has gotten out of control since the pandemic, and has law enforcement on high alert.
'There were groups who understood, 'Hey there's money to be made here — it's quick and easy,'' said Stephen Kelleher, an assistant special agent who oversees white collar crime investigations at FBI Boston. In general, victims tend to skew older, he and others say, because 'they are alone and isolated, whether it's COVID or not.'
Scammers often first approach victims with seemingly nonromantic messages on apps like Facebook or Words with Friends, and only turn more flirty as things develop, said Amy Nofziger, the director of the American Association of Retired Persons' Fraud Watch Network.
'Often it starts out benign, but then it turns, and they utilize love bombing,' she said. That means conversations suddenly turn from casual to highly romantic at an unnatural pace.
When first luring in their victims, the most common lie that scammers use involved the claim that 'I or someone close to me is sick, hurt, or in jail,' which appeared in 24 percent of cases, according to an analysis by the FTC.
Scammers, exactly like in Nancy's case, also often claim to be from the military living in some far-flung county. The military backstory is useful for explaining why the scammers cannot meet their victims in person.
And during the COVID-19 pandemic, Nofziger said that many scammers pretended to be doctors living abroad fighting the virus, also much like Nancy's case.
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Revan Miles, Nancy's neighbor two doors down, said in an interview that she tried to convince Nancy that she had fallen victim to a scam after she borrowed $20 off her to buy what Miles suspects was a burner phone. But Nancy wouldn't hear it.
'She was not to be deterred in this,' the neighbor recalled.
Even the police had no luck.
'Usually a police officer or a family member can get through to the people,' said Eric Rosenbaum, an elder affairs officer with Newton Police who is familiar with her case. 'With this one, there was no getting through to her.'
Alice Diamond, a volunteer with the AARP fraud helpline who lives in Arlington, has heard from victims all over the country, like Nancy, who struggled to accept that their online romance wasn't real.
One woman told Diamond that she sent $150,000 to a man she met online after borrowing money from her friends and family. 'She thought she was paying for cancer treatment for his very close friend,' Diamond recalled — another common tactic by scammers.
Alice Diamond works for the AARP fraud line, where she has answered many calls from victims of romance scams.
Suzanne Kreiter/Globe Staff
Then there was the older man with a doctorate degree, who Diamond said refused to believe he was being duped by his online 'girlfriend' even after he had lost $800,000 and was in the process of being evicted from his home.
'They steal people's money and their hearts,' she said. 'There's just something really evil about that.'
Since Nancy's death in August 2022, none of the money she sent out to the various scammers has been recovered.
While the total financial damage done to Nancy is still unclear, at one point, she was unable to pay her home mortgage, was borrowing money from friends and neighbors, and was pawning silver flatware from her home.
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The last entry on her police case file before her death was in April 2022. In it, a police officer noted that Nancy had once again returned to the jewelry shop where she had pawned so much of her silver flatware, trying to sell yet more. The store, at the urging of the police, finally barred her.
So far, no arrests have been made in Nancy's case. Her scammers could very well still be out there, investigators say, looking for their next victim.
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