Why some women in the hills still marry two men
Team TOI Plus
Jul 24, 2025, 18:35 IST IST
In the hills where land is scarce and labour is shared, polyandry still finds quiet legitimacy — and this wedding, with its music, rituals, and pride, made it visible again
It's usually the groom who arrives in a baraat. But in this Himachal wedding, it was the bride who was brought in a procession.
But that is not why the wedding is being talked about around the country. Waiting at the family home where the bride-led baraat arrived were two grooms – brothers Pradeep and Kapil Negi.
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