
Young people are falling through the cracks when it comes to sexual abuse
Gaia was also just a teenager when she was raped, groomed, and assaulted. Then 16, she became a victim of a huge injustice herself after local authorities missed more than 50 opportunities to support her.
Instead, the young woman left her aunt's home in Swanage on November 7, 2017, and vanished without a trace after calling her twin sister.
She had been suffering from PTSD and anxiety at the time, having just learned that her alleged rapist was released from prison.
11 days later, Gaia's body was found in a quiet area on the Dorset coastline.
'The world is less without Gaia,' her cousin Marienna Pope-Weidemann tells Metro. 'She used to come up to London with me to join the Save the NHS marches back when we had big demonstrations.
'She marched for the public services that eventually let her down so badly it killed her.'
Gaia's story is not a one-off. Due to a deadly mix of underfunded services and a lack of education, thousands of young victims of sexual abuse in the UK are missing out on vital help.
'Support services for survivors have been decimated in the last 10 years during the course of the previous government,' Marienna explains.
'We talk about this issue as though it's some kind of super complicated technical saying that ordinary people can't understand, but it's not rocket science. We have a problem with funding essential public services in this country – that's what it comes down to.'
Statistics around child sex abuse in the UK are staggering.
Of an estimated 500,000 children abused each year, only 105,000 offences are recorded by police.
Less than 2% of these young victims are seen by sexual assault referral centres in England and Wales and receive the help they need.
Tony Kelly, a team manager for the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children based in Liverpool, tells Metro that there needs to be more funding for sexual abuse organisations to help counsel young victims.
Currently, the NSPCC is able to offer young survivors of sexual abuse up to 38 sessions – one of the highest numbers offered by a free service.
'But when you've got 500,000 children a year suffering sexual abuse, whether directly or online, and you've only got 450 centres across the UK to provide support – it really, really isn't enough,' admits Tony. 'And it's a number that's only gone up over the years.'
Susan Geoghegan, a therapeutic social worker with the NSPCC in Liverpool, tells Metro that a lot of young people 'slip through the net' and never disclose their abuse.
She explains: 'Even if they have, sometimes their disclosure hasn't gone anywhere because the adult that they tell might not know how to respond, or they may not believe what they've said.
'It can be so incomprehensible what a young child has said, and adults can have trouble managing that.
'I used to work in the substance misuse field. The number of people I worked with who have been addicted to drugs and alcohol and have been sexually abused… It's just something that's not dealt with.'
Tony adds: 'We need to be able to have those uncomfortable conversations, whether it's within schools, in families or in the wider community, it's about recognising that child sexual abuse happens. It's the only way we can prevent it and support young people.
'There's also a large number of children who suffered sexual abuse by another child, and that's still something that we're not ok with talking about – but we need to be, because we have to deal with it.'
Echoing Tony's comments, Simon Bailey, former National Police Chief for Child Protection and Chair of Embrace, tells Metro that child-on-child sexual violence has increased greatly over the last three years.
In 2022, it accounted for 52% of the total number of reported child sex abuse cases. A year on, that figure increased to 55%.
'We should be asking why we are starting to see this become so prevalent. I don't think we have come to terms with the scale of the trauma children are being exposed to through sexual abuse and abuse online,' Simon explains.
This is about challenging the logic of austerity.
Simon believes that 'not enough' is being done to help the youngest victims of sexual violence recover and says more money needs to be invested in therapeutic services, like the NSPCC, which helps children recover from exposure to these heinous crimes.
'How do we do early preventative work to stop it happening in the first place?' he asks.
The question of how to fund therapy to support the youngest victims of sexual abuse is a difficult one. The CSA (Centre of Expertise on Child Sexual Abuse) identified only 450 services across the country – the vast majority of them not for profit and most relying on funding from local authorities, government or donations.
Meanwhile, government services working to address this issue are overwhelmed. Tony and Susan both worked in local authorities and say the services were exhausted, underfunded and sometimes not properly trained.
Tony explains that the 'postcode lottery up and down the country when it comes to services' shows we need more investment in therapeutic services.
'We need to be able to make sure that every child who suffered abuse has access to the right service. But it can also be professionals themselves, not knowing who to turn to as well,' he says.
Meanwhile, Susan points out that funding for services to help victims of child sexual violence should not be considered as 'funding', but rather an investment.
The 'return' won't be seen right away, she adds, but if you don't invest money in helping young people, in 20 or 30 years time, you end up with an 'expensive addiction service'.
'You'll see the health implications, the social housing implications, crime implications… It all adds up,' Susan says.
'We have seen what investment can do. The five-year-old who couldn't leave her mum's side now can't wait to go to after-school clubs, saying 'Bye, mum!' and running off to join the other children.
'The 13-year-old who was at risk of losing their place in school and their foster placement is now joining the youth participation group, which feeds back directly to parliament. More Trending
'Then there's the 17-year-old who now has a really good relationship with their mum and her sister. At one point, they didn't – now they're making university applications,' Susan smiles. 'When the right service is provided and available, it makes a difference.'
For Marienna Pope-Weidemann, to address the true scale of this crisis, we need to 'challenge the logic of austerity'.
'The most frustrating thing is this widespread failure just to call a spade a spade and acknowledge how bad things are and how much really needs to change,' she says.
'If Gaia had lived, I think she would have gone on to be a really powerful advocate for other young people like her and fight to get those services back and get them working for the community.'
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