Some blokes drink tea. Why can't waiters understand that?
This story is part of the May 31 edition of Good Weekend. See all 14 stories.
I'm a man who drinks tea and my wife drinks coffee. Over the years, whenever we go out to a café, no matter which one, the waiter always – without fail – puts the coffee in front of me and the tea in front of my wife. Why, Guru, why?
S.C., Bondi, NSW
It could be a gender thing. Data from the Australian Bureau of Statistics shows that men drink more coffee than women, so maybe waiters are just making a gender-based assumption (and data from my own personal research shows that waiters are more likely to forget who ordered what at a table when it's a beverage-only order because they know they're not getting much of a tip). But there could be a non-gender reason why this is happening: maybe you and your wife look very similar and it's confusing the wait staff, in which case try dressing differently: wear your favourite T-shirt with the smiling teacup that's saying, 'I'm a Tea-shirt!' and pop a tea cosy on your head – cute!
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Or it could just be a crazy coincidence, in which case switch your seats at the last minute to fool the Divine Powers of the Cosmos (they'll totally fall for that, they're a pack of massive boof-heads).
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Some blokes drink tea. Why can't waiters understand that?
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