Tom Daley reveals the 'shame' of being advised to HIDE his relationship with husband Dustin Lance Black - as he opens up on his eating disorder

Daily Mail​

29-05-2025

Five-time Olympic medallist Tom Daley has revealed that he was advised to try and hide his sexuality by a former management team in the early years of his diving career.
Daley, who retired from the sport following the Paris Games last year, is the centre of Warner Bros. Discovery's new feature documentary, 'Tom Daley: 1.6 Seconds', which is set to be released on June 1.
The 90-minute movie takes you back to the start of the now 31-year-old's career, before navigating through the highs and lows of his powerful story inside and outside of the pool.
As the documentary tackles a tough period during Daley's life following the 2012 Olympics, it delves into when he first met his now husband, Dustin Lance Black, an Academy Award-winning screenwriter, back in 2013.
The four-time world champion had not revealed that he was gay to the public when he first met Black, and in the documentary, he tells of how professionals closest to him tried to dissuade him from presenting as who he really was.
Daley said: 'They [his management team] said to 'be careful being photographed with Lance, he is a big LGBT activist. You don't want people thinking you are gay.'
'I was suddenly filled with shame. We had all sorts of crisis meetings. Filling me with fear about what I should and shouldn't do.'
The documentary sheds light on many of the lowest points in Daley's life, when all seemed rosy from an outside perspective.
Leading up to the 2012 Olympics in London, Daley suffered mistreatment from senior members within British swimming – now known as Aquatics GB – which led to an eating disorder.
'At the end of 2011, I was told that I had to lose weight by the director of British Swimming,' continued Daley.
'I took some quite drastic measures to make sure the food didn't stay in my stomach. It was all that I could think about in the lead-up to the Olympic Games.
'I still feel ashamed talking about it now. Once you're on the other side, it feels so easy to stop and ask for help. But when you're in it, you feel like you can't be helped.
'In my head, guys didn't have eating orders, guys didn't have any problems with mental health. Guys were meant to be macho.
'I didn't have anyone I could talk to; I felt very alone in the things I was dealing with. I tortured myself through this whole experience because I wanted to do so badly.'
Daley's professional journey in the pool started while still in secondary school. In 2008, he became the second youngest male Olympian in British history when he was selected for the Beijing Games at just 14 years old.
It was the only Olympics that Daley would fail to medal in, but he still managed an impressive seventh-placed finish at the start of what was a special career in the sport.
However, upon returning to school to take on the first year of his GCSEs, Daley was tormented by his fellow classmates.
'I remember this being horrible at school,' Daley admitted. 'Me and my friend were given a key to lock ourselves in a classroom to get away at lunchtime.
'It affected home life, school life, diving life. I felt like my whole life was coming to an end.