Woman Drops Out of Family Wedding and Instead Considers Giving $600, but Many Argue the Sum Is Too Much: 'That's Nuts'
A Mumsnet user has to back out of her relative's upcoming wedding because her child has a doctor's appointment
She and her husband are considering paying the couple over $600 as a wedding gift
Users felt the amount was far too much and suggested lower pricesA woman wants to give her relative a financial gift for a wedding she's no longer attending, but people fear that she is being overly generous.
In a post on the popular U.K. forum Mumsnet, the woman detailed how a relative of hers is getting married 200 miles away on a weekday in a couple of weeks. She and her family planned to attend, but those plans have now changed.
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'We had taken annual leave to be there and booked a hotel for the night before. Unfortunately we can no longer make it,' she explained, adding that her 2-year-old child now has a doctor's appointment on that date.
The woman learned from her mother that the plates for the wedding cost $169 per person; now she's concerned that she needs to pay for her child's absence as well.
She and her husband discussed giving over $600 and wanted feedback on whether this amount would be 'reasonable and would cover the cost of our absence and a good amount surplus as a gift?'
'We are not especially close to the relative and might see them once a year at a family event and I will usually send a a new year's/birthday message (and the relative will reply but never initiate),' the poster added. 'However we are very closely related (not parents or siblings but aunt/uncle/first cousin degree relations).'
Users on the forum felt the generosity of the gift was far too much.
'That is an insanely large amount,' a commentator said. 'Wedding gifts are not based on how much the couple are paying for their wedding. That's an incredibly crass and unpleasant way to decide how much you are giving as a gift. You don't have to change how much your gift is because you are no longer going.'
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Some offered that a gift of $60 or more would be more appropriate.
'That's nuts,' one person said. 'They've probably got someone else who can fill your place.'
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