I got cosmetic surgery abroad – trolls say I should feel guilty for not splashing cash on my son, but they have no clue
A MUM has hit back at trolls who say she should feel guilty for spending money on cosmetic surgery instead of her son - insisting he never goes without.
Jasmine Murphy, from Glasgow, has forked out thousands of pounds on operations in Prague, Czech Republic, over the past decade.
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The 34-year-old - mum to Joshua, five - does not encourage other people to go under the knife, but is very transparent about any work she has had done on her TikTok page (@jasminemurphyhair).
Over the past 13 years, she has had four breast surgeries including three reductions and one set of implants.
She has also had liposuction on her face, hips, legs and stomach, plus botox, lip filler and procedures to "tighten" her mum tum and "blitz" cellulite.
She said: "I'm a hairdresser, I'm in that world, and I absolutely love beauty treatments. I love things that are aesthetically pleasing."
But she admitted she has always hated her breast implants, which she got after losing weight and then tried to hide in baggy T-shirts, so headed abroad earlier this month to have them removed.
Including her flights and hotel, the procedure - which got her back to a C cup with a reduction and lift - set Jasmine back around £4,000.
While she was on the operating table, she also opted to have upper blepharoplasty to get rid of "fat pockets" on her eyelids which cost a further £900.
Jasmine told Fabulous: "I think cosmetic surgery can be dangerous and definitely isn't something to be taken lightly.
"However most recently I had my implants removed and a breast reduction and it has substantially improved my confidence and I am so grateful I was able to do this.
"I like to be honest about what procedures I have had done, invasive and non-invasive as I feel these things have improved my appearance and I would always be honest about that and work towards keeping beauty standards more realistic."
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She added: "I'm not looking to promote cosmetic surgery to other women but I would always be transparent about what I have done and share my journey and recommendations if it was helpful to them."
But after sharing details of her latest procedures, she was hit with a hateful question which read: "Do you ever feel guilty spending money on surgeries etc. when you have a child?"
Remaining as transparent and honest as ever, Jasmine said the "short answer is no" before offering a deeper insight into her circumstances and strong work ethic that allow her such luxuries.
In her TikTok clip, she said: "I work very hard for everything that I have.
"I don't get into debt or sacrifice something in our household to accommodate me having a treatment done.
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"My son is neurodivergent which means he has lots of sensory issues and aversions which.
"A lot of the things that I buy for him - whether it's food, toys, playgroups, soft plays, clothes - sometimes like a good 80-90% of that goes in the bin because it triggers him, he doesn't want it, it's upsetting.
"I pick him up from playgroups early if he's having a bad time but I don't mind. I spend a lot of money and work really hard to try and make his quality of life as good as possible.
"So he doesn't have to sacrifice anything to accommodate me getting a beauty treatment done or a surgery."
She continued: "I would just work extra hard and save the money and earn it. I don't drink, I don't socialise, I haven't been on holiday in six years because I don't think he'll cope with the flight and I've always felt bad leaving him.
"And I think there is a lot of pressure on women to be a background product of a family.
"Like you're a whole human being too so you can do something nice for yourself, you know, why not?"
But she did admit: "Where mum guilt would kick in for me is travelling to go under anaesthetic because of course there's the health risk in that.
"This is why I'm making sure I am as healthy as possible and I've been to Ross Hall Hospital here [in Scotland] so that I can have check ups and make sure everything's okay before I travel."
Mass support
Social media users were quick to jump to Jasmine's defence, as one gasped: "What a brass neck of a question to ask!"
A second echoed: "What an odd question...I'm married with one son and I still swan off everywhere."
A third said: "I think it's plain to see how well looked after and provided for your little boy is and as a sole parent myself I think it is important to do things for yourself when ever possible!"
A fourth chimed in: "I've never understood the notion of feeling guilty for spending money on yourself when you have kids … as long as your kids are cared for why should you?!"
"Some people just see negative in everything, treat yourself girl", added someone else.
Meanwhile, a sixth fumed: "You shouldn't have to explain yourself, you are a good mum and clearly work hard."
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