Man criticised after admitting he can't stop fantasising about his girlfriend's twin sister
A man has been criticised online after admitting that he has started to fantasise about his girlfriend's identical twin.
The anonymous man, who is believed to be US-based, took to social media to ask people for their opinions on his predicament.
In his post, he revealed that he has been dating his girlfriend for over a year, and is 'super happy'. He described their relationship as the best he has ever been in.
However, he admitted, he has found himself starting to fantasise about her identical twin. This happens at different times, he wrote, saying 'sometimes it happens during sex, sometimes when i'm alone by myself'.
The man wrote: 'Recently the twin was out of divorce and found herself a new boyfriend that me and my girlfriend dislike. We feel he's just not good enough for the sister and she deserves better. It almost instills a sense of jealousy in me, as she spends all her waking moments hanging out with this guy then spending time with us.
'At times I find myself with the thinking of her having sex with her new boyfriend and it makes me angry/sick to my stomach. Sometimes I can become obsessed with this scenario and it just keeps repeating in my head over and over; Making me feel sick and upset.
'I feel guilt about it but I can't seem to get the thought out of my head. We met them in person the other day and I saw the boyfriend with his hands all over the twin and it made me so mad. But of course I didn't show it.
'Any advice? Am I just crazy? I know these are just feelings and I would never act on them to ruin my current relationship. I love my girlfriend very deeply, but I also care very much about the twin and want her to be happy.
'I just find that these feelings of attraction/jealousy come out of nowhere and seem to be more frequent ever since she met this new boyfriend.'
The majority of respondents chided the poster, telling him that he needed to 'get over' the feelings he has for his girlfriend's sister.
One said: 'I feel sorry for your girlfriend. She deserves better, you sound like you don't really love her. Tell her and let her make her decision to stay or leave. And get away from the twin for good.'
They added: 'Distance is the only thing that will work. Remind yourself why you're with your girlfriend, why she's your girlfriend. That you need to get rid of these feelings, because if you don't you'll lose the most important woman in your life. The fear of losing someone you love will make anything else feel unimportant. Eventually.'
Meanwhile, another wrote: 'You need to take a break from spending time with the twin sister. If you marry your girlfriend the line could get blurry. Set boundaries now and get over your crush/sexual fantasy. Also there is bo world in which this would work out.'
In a similar vein, a further Reddit user said: 'Honestly it sounds like you need to try and spend less time with the twin because you're too involved to be able to make sense of everything. Your attraction does make sense considering she's identical to your partner and similar in personality, but she's also her own person and she is allowed to date whoever she likes and it's not your place to get involved other than to give your opinion on him if she asks.
They continued: 'I would find a way to tell your girlfriend about this in a way that won't make her uncomfortable. Maybe just say that you're feeling to involved in her sisters life and overprotective because of how similar she is to your girlfriend and it's making you uncomfortable. You don't need to mention the jealousy but you do need to tell your girlfriend about it in some way because you need her support to get some space.'
'Well I would work on having less of these feelings it's gonna damage the relationship if it gets worse whether you realize it or not,' said another Redditor. 'Girls can smell that stuff and also twin sisters r just on a different level almost psychic.'
However, another respondent was more sympathetic, and agreed that it must be an odd situation to be in.
They wrote: 'I'm not going to say it's okay or normal or try to justify it, but I could see how dating an identical twin would be even weirder? Harder? Idk the word I'm looking for, but a girl having an attractive sibling is one thing, an identical twin with almost the same personality? That's a whole different ball park than most situations.'
Responding to the comments telling him he needed to put some distance between him and the sister, the poster said: 'This makes the most sense to me. It's going to be hard, as I do very much enjoy hanging out with her and spending time. But I feel that when I do; the feelings come back, I sometimes tell her she looks pretty (sometimes unconsciously) and it just gets weird sometimes. I don't think she picks up on it. I'm gonna put some distance between us until these feelings die down.'
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