Carolyn Hax: Trying to relax, a retiree ends up ‘paralyzed by options' instead
Hello, Carolyn: Early 60s, retired from my job two months ago. Was glad to do so. Though I did enjoy the teamwork, I have never been really career driven as some of my friends are. Work to live, not the reverse.
Paid off my mortgage, don't feel depressed as such — but seem to be paralyzed by options, and frightened. With the recent death of a much-loved uncle, I am very aware of how quickly time can pass. I want to enjoy leisure and down time but not vegetate. Today I had booked a swimming session, but I did not feel like going out, so I ended up staying in bed for hours. Now I feel stupid and guilty.
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