Married Men Are Sharing The Wild Secrets They're Keeping From Their Partners, And Yiiiiikes
Recently, I asked the married men of the BuzzFeed Community to confess the wild or unhinged secrets they're keeping from their spouses, and it's...a lot. Here are some of the secrets that married men will never, ever tell their partners:
1."I know our kid isn't mine."
—Anonymous, 40, Pennsylvania
2."If I had the chance, I would've picked the one who got away."
—Anonymous
3."After a couple of months of being together, I went traveling alone (it was pre-planned). I met a girl on day one, and we spent the whole month together. After my trip, I flew back home to my then-girlfriend like nothing had happened. I've been married to her for 18 years now, and she will never know about what I did on that trip."
—Anonymous, 39, Scotland
4."I hate my wife's whole approach to life. She lies about the small stuff that doesn't matter, is impatient about everything, feigns ignorance, has double standards, and can't accept responsibility for her actions while playing the victim. She's horrible with money and is judgmental and controlling. I can't wait to get a divorce after the kids are older."
—Anonymous
5."If I could go back, I wouldn't marry her again. But she can never know that I actually feel that way."
—J, 33, Texas
6."My wife thinks we have the perfect relationship and can't wait to move to Tokyo, her dream city and home. However, she doesn't understand why I don't want to move there, despite having lived there for stretches at a time. The reason is that I've cheated on her with at least 12 different coworkers, and I'm afraid of getting caught. One of the women I cheated on her with was her best friend back in Osaka. Cheating is just so widely accepted there, so everyone does it. When a married couple cheats, it's just swept under the rug. Still, I'm afraid of getting caught somehow. Her best friend expects me to sleep with her and doesn't see it as an issue. If I tell her no, I fear she'll tell my wife."
—Anonymous, 29, New York
7."I scroll on Grindr sometimes. I never meet up with other men, but I do like talking to them. I'm too afraid to tell my wife; I don't even know how I feel about it most of the time."
—Anonymous
8."I like to wear her underwear."
—Anonymous
9."I'm subscribed to multiple OnlyFans creators."
—Anonymous
10."I hooked up with her sister. It was a one-time thing that we agreed would never happen again, but the guilt eats at me because I love my wife so much. I hate myself for it."
—Anonymous, 45
11."I like to lie on my back and penetrate myself (yes, it's possible). My wife CANNOT know."
—Anonymous, Oregon
12."I'm in a lot of debt due to gambling."
—Anonymous, 42
13."She doesn't know that I have an ex-wife with whom I share a daughter. I've been estranged from them for years now and don't plan on reaching out soon."
—Anonymous, Arizona
14."When I was dating the girl who'd become my wife, three other guys and I picked up an old girlfriend of mine, drove down to the river, and took turns having sex with her. It was consensual, and she never objected. That was over 50 years ago, and she was way more experienced than any of us guys."
—Anonymous
15."I like her fingers in and around my rear-end more than she does or I let on."
—Anonymous
16.Lastly: "I've been sleeping with my wife's mother for 10 years now, and I'm honestly not sure how to break it off — or that I even want to. I can't say I don't fear getting caught, but it's the perfect way to cheat. No one suspects anything when I'm at my in-laws' since we started dating when we were 18. We've been together for 15 years, and I first slept with my mother-in-law when I was 23. The first time was a mistake. The second time was to get it out of our system. Now? I sometimes sleep with my wife's mother more than with my wife. It's strictly sex, though. There is no love or attachment beyond that, and my marriage to my wife has never been stronger. We just closed on a home and are planning for kids soon. We don't fight; it's been perfect. However, if she ever found out about what I've been doing with her mom, I know she'd divorce me without question."
—Anonymous, 33, New York
Well, I need to lie down now. If you're a married man, what's a secret you'll never tell your spouse? Let us know in the comments, or you can anonymously share your story using this form!
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