Don't feel guilty about letting your kids game during the summer break

The Guardian

30-07-2025

We're a week into the school summer holidays here in England, and I wonder how many parents who started out determined to keep their children completely away from screens are now beginning to feel the strain. When my sons were much younger, I often had these idyllic images in my head of day trips to the seaside, back garden treasure hunts, paddling in the river, visiting relatives … an endless series of character forming experiences which I imagined in grainy Kodachrome colours. Then I'd be faced with the reality of having a job, and also the, let's say, limited attention span of my sons. Those boys could rocket through a host of formative activities in a few hours leaving a trail of muddy boots, half-finished crafting projects and tired grandparents in their wake. Sheepishly, we'd end up allowing some Fortnite time to catch our breath.
There is so much pressure and guilt around children and gaming, especially during long school breaks, and I think we need to seriously redress our outlook as a society. I harbour many lovely memories of gaming with my sons during hot August days; drowsily loafing about building ridiculous mansions in Minecraft or laughing ourselves stupid in Goat Simulator. We would always take the Switch on holiday with us, so that in the evenings, when we went out for meals, there would be an hour or so where my wife and I could linger over a glass of wine, while the boys silently played Super Mario together. We still managed to build sand castles, go swimming and explore unfamiliar towns, but games provided a way to wind down and enjoy something familiar.
When they stayed with their grandparents during holidays, they took games along too. My mum had a Nintendo Wii, which she claimed was exclusively for entertaining her grandchildren when she got tired; it was nice to watch my sons sit and patiently explain Kirby's Epic Yarn to her. I expect it reminds her of when I was young, playing Commodore 64 games on our computer desk in the kitchen – trying to recruit my dad into sessions of footie game Kick Off or the golf sim Leaderboard while he was supposed to be cooking a chicken. It's good for children to be able to share their expertise and enthusiasm, whether that's about playing a guitar (which my kids did, after learning about the instrument via Rock Band and Guitar Hero) or capturing a Jigglypuff in Pokémon Go.
It's a cliche to say 'all things in moderation', but it also happens to be true. There is too much talk of screen time as some sort of all-pervading, homogeneous evil, when really we should be thinking about the quality of that screen time. When children grow up playing video games and they're comfortable in that world, over the summer is a good time to think about what they're playing, what they get out of it and who they're playing with. Is it bad that they spend an hour or two every night in Fortnite? Or are they meeting friends, having a laugh and even building stuff in the Creative mode? Games are also wonderfully adaptable to different situations. You might not want them playing video games on the beach, but in those interstitial moments – a long journey, a rainy afternoon – they can be invaluable – and parents shouldn't feel bad about that. For a lot of gen Z and gen alpha, games are a part of the texture of their lives now – they fit in, like reading a comic or listening to an album on a Walkman did when I was their age.
Earlier this week, I took one of my sons, now 17, to London. I met a friend while he went off and explored the city by himself. On the coach on the way home to Somerset, we were a bit too knackered to chat, but instead we played Mario Kart World together. We stood the console on the little seat tray in front of me, but it kept juddering and moving as the coach drove along, usually to my advantage. It was funny; we laughed and compared tactics and occasionally looked up as the evening sun made the fields outside glow. I think I will remember that hour and a half I spent with him on the bus longer than anything else I did that day. There may have been a screen between us, but we were together.
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