The maternity ward standoff that exposes Taliban hypocrisy towards women
Restrictive laws imposed by the Taliban last year mean women cannot train to become doctors or midwives in Afghanistan.
But this does not stop members of the strict Islamist group from bringing their pregnant wives to clinics and hospitals and demanding that only female healthcare professionals treat them, workers in the country have told The Telegraph.
Members of the Taliban want to be seen quickly, and tell medics that they expect high standards of care for their spouses.
'Everything is by force here,' said Feroza Tahiri, a midwife working at a public hospital in Nangarhar province. Despite this, 'we tell them you'll be seen like everyone else', she said.
Since the Taliban seized control of Afghanistan in 2021, the fundamentalist group has banned education for women and girls post-primary school. Women cannot go to parks, and beauty salons and other women-only spaces have closed.
The Taliban's laws have isolated the country internationally. This month, the chief prosecutor of the International Criminal Court applied for arrest warrants of Haibatullah Akhundzada, the Taliban's supreme leader, and chief justice Abdul Hakim Haqqani on the grounds of gender persecution.
Meanwhile, Ms Tahiri said women – including those working as senior doctors at the public hospitals – have left the country for Iran or Pakistan to prioritise their daughters' education.
After universities shut to women in 2022, Ms Tahiri's friends, with almost completed medical degrees, sought her advice on studying midwifery and nursing as she had done.
Ms Tahiri recalls her time as a student fondly: she said she lived in dorms with ambitious women from Takhar, Laghman, Nuristan and Kunar, and split her time between studying and working.
Her friends enrolled as a last resort, hoping to work as midwives – one of the few professions open to women under the Taliban regime. But they were too late, the Taliban shut the colleges in 2024. 'Now they're home and frustrated,' said Tahiri.
Ms Tahiri and her male guardian (women are not permitted to go out unaccompanied) do not speak much during their thirty minute rickshaw ride to her work. Instead, Tahiri recalls a time when there were women visible in public. 'They looked so good,' she told The Telegraph.
The maternity department she works in is staffed by women. Pregnant patients arrive with two or three other women, with one going back and forth, relaying information. Their husbands wait outside, but they 'make decisions' on health procedures, Ms Tahiri explained.
At a private clinic in Kabul, the Talibs do not need to announce themselves.
'We know from their guns and everything,' Samar Zia, a nurse in Kabul, said.
Despite the Taliban implementing the ban, they want their female family to be treated by women doctors and nurses, asking any male doctor present to step outside.
Ms Zia said she thinks that for many of these women and their Talib husbands, it is their first time seeking medical treatment. But the men don't really trust the doctors, she said.
One woman needed an operation, but her husband, a Taliban fighter, refused. Despite seeking medical treatment at the clinic, he questioned the diagnosis. 'I won't give my thumb print (permission). You're trying to do something else,' Ms Zia recalls him saying.
After the woman died, the man asked police to investigate the clinic, said Ms Zia.
She said some Talibs don't trust the staff, whom they know are not supporters of the militants. They claim the staff did not want Taliban families to reproduce.
At the Kabul clinic she works in, the Talibs walk in and interact with the women working there. 'You're there trying to do an injection and they come right up telling you your hair is out,' Ms Zia said. 'Or they'll talk about our uniforms.'
The women they accompanied can have 'great chats with you if you're alone… but [the husbands] don't leave them alone'.
In Laghman, east of Kabul, the Taliban men can 'act like dictators'. But they 'wait outside' like the other husbands, said Nasima Hussaini, a midwife working at a public hospital.
'They're attentive,' Ms Hussaini said, 'toward their first wives… but especially when it's their second wife.'
'It's maternity care. Everyone's demand is that there's a woman doctor,' she adds.
The staff persuade patients to see male doctors when they can. 'We want it to be a woman doctor too, but we don't want your health to get worse,' Ms Hussaini tells them.
The country's economic collapse, a result of foreign aid cuts, sanctions and Taliban policies, is evident in the hospital.
The midwives The Telegraph spoke to described a perfect storm of under-resourced health facilities, desperately poor patients, and men making reproductive care choices for women.
The hospital Ms Hussaini works at is so under-resourced that staff sometimes ask patients to buy the blood, sold just outside the facility, that is needed for transfusions.
One pregnant woman's family could not afford to do so and she lost her pregnancy, Ms Zia said.
For at least two days staff and the patient's mother could not bear to tell the woman – telling her instead that the baby was alive and receiving oxygen, when in reality her baby had been stillborn.
This is a hospital for the poor. 'If someone has money they go private,' she said.
Shahla Karim, a midwife working at a public hospital in Kandahar said the same thing: 'Nobody with even a little money comes here.'
Working at a regional hospital, Ms Karim's patients are women from the districts of several southern provinces, in addition to Kandahar, the Taliban's heartland and where the group's emir lives.
Ms Karim described tense interactions between staff and patients. Some families felt they were stigmatised as Taliban supporters and that staff in the province's city, being more likely to disagree with the group, did not provide adequate care.
'The people from the districts have the wrong idea. They think we're against these people, that we don't want to save these women,' Ms Karim said.
Ms Hussaini, the midwife working in Laghman, said she goes to work to serve women and patients with no money who 'come and go with only the hope of god'.
'Every Afghan wants to know what's the endgame?' she said of the Taliban's policies.
She said nobody had any hope. 'Ask anyone and they'll tell you – Afghanistan's come to nothing.'
Ms Hussaini said every family had one son who left to find work in Pakistan or Iran. She wants to leave too. 'I always say if I were a boy I'd have taken the illegal route' out of the country.
She said she doesn't hold the Talibs who visit the hospital responsible for their group's governance. 'If you ask them they'll say it's their higher ups.'
'We regret this,' she said, 'that they look for women everywhere, but they've banned women from everything.'
The names in this story have been replaced with pseudonyms to protect the identities of the women.
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As Israel Eyes Regime Change, Iran's Opposition Is Divisive and Divided
Based on factual reporting, incorporates the expertise of the journalist and may offer interpretations and conclusions. Newsweek AI is in beta. Translations may contain inaccuracies—please refer to the original content. As Israel continues an unprecedented military operation against Iran, Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu has openly called on Iranians to overthrow their government, going so far as to indicate that his forces' operations "could certainly" lead to a regime change effort. Now, a number of opposition groups based in the country and abroad are calling for a mass uprising against the Islamic Republic. Yet the Iranian government's domestic foes are composed of a diverse and largely fractured array of factions, including secular dissidents, militias organized along ethnic lines, Islamist militants and those seeking to restore a monarchy with ancient roots. Most, if not all, are considered terrorist organizations in Iran, which has taken extensive efforts to suppress their activities in the 46 years since the establishment of the Islamic Republic. None have thus far been able to obtain a sufficient amount of popular support or material means to pose an existential challenge to the current system led by Supreme Leader Ayatollah Ali Khamenei. Each group also has its own aims and tactics, some of which directly conflict with others, complicating efforts to establish a united front amid the country's most devastating conflict since the 1980s Iran-Iraq War. Israeli officials have declined to comment on record regarding potential efforts to foster ties with opposition groups active in Iran, but reports have emerged of operations tied to Israel taking place within the country, in addition to the large-scale air war being conducted by Israeli warplanes and drones since late Thursday. With enthusiasm building among opponents of the Iranian government, analysts and former officials are treating with caution speculation of an insurrection capable of actually ousting the country's leadership. People raise flags of Iran and allied Axis of Resistance factions in Enghelab Square during a rally in Tehran amid Israeli strikes against Iran on June 14. People raise flags of Iran and allied Axis of Resistance factions in Enghelab Square during a rally in Tehran amid Israeli strikes against Iran on June 14. HOSSEIN BERIS/Middle East Images/AFP/Getty Images 'Three Levels' of Cooperation Giora Eiland, an Israel Defense Forces (IDF) reserve major general who previously served as head of Israel's National Security Council, told Newsweek that he believed "Israel is being assisted this way or that way by some Iranians," though the true degree of cooperation remained opaque. "We can assume that there are three levels of Iranians that, directly or indirectly, might help us," Eiland said. "First, when we located some of the Israeli groups that were inside Iran and launched drones from short distances against Iranian facilities, they might have been given some assistance from locals, I cannot verify it, but this makes sense." "Secondly," he continued, "Israel is probably encouraging some groups in Iran, and I cannot exclude even an approach to some of the military forces in Iran, not the Revolutionary Guard, but some of the conventional military or regular Iranian army, that maybe the time is now for them to do something. It might be done in a very, very tacit way, but I cannot exclude it." "And number three," he added, "in a way, Israel, even formally is calling the Iranian to try to rise against the government." Yet he remained somewhat skeptical that Iranians were prepared to mobilize in substantial numbers against the government at this time, both due to the powerful influence of the Basij paramilitary force tasked with maintaining internal security, as well as the potentially problematic nature of collaborating with an enemy during wartime. "Usually, people don't tend to resist or to rise against their own government during the war, because it is not patriotic enough," Eiland said. "They might respond later, after the war is over, and then they might decide the time has come to do something more than only, let's say, to complain. "But I cannot hide that this is the goal of the Israeli government that something similar to this will occur soon," he added. "As I said, personally, I don't think that might happen in the near future." Mojahedin-e-Khalq leader Maryam Rajavi, left, and former Crown Prince of Iran Reza Pahlavi, right, are pictured. Mojahedin-e-Khalq leader Maryam Rajavi, left, and former Crown Prince of Iran Reza Pahlavi, right, are pictured. ALBERTO PIZZOLI/PATRICK T. FALLON/AFP/Getty Images The Monarchy and the Mojahedin But even if the Iranian government is eventually threatened with collapse, deep uncertainties surround the projected alternatives. The two Iranian dissident leaders that most often garner international headlines are Reza Pahlavi, son of Iran's last shah who was deposed during the 1979 Islamic Revolution, and Maryam Rajavi, head of the Mojahedin-e-Khalq (MeK), also known as the People's Mujahedin Organization of Iran (PMOI), and the associated National Council of Resistance of Iran (NCRI). Pahlavi, based in Washington, D.C., has defended the Israeli attacks, dubbed "Operation Rising Lion," and, like Netanyahu, has issued calls for Iranians to rise up against the government. The MeK, whose leadership is based in France and Albania, has also sought to capitalize on the mayhem to claim new subversive measures within Iran, including the dissemination of anti-government messages. Just days before the Israeli operation, the group released information from its Washington office purporting to show how Iran was secretly pursuing nuclear weapons. Iranian officials have always denied seeking a nuclear bomb, but such claims served as the pretext for Israel's military intervention. While both Pahlavi and the MeK claim to seek establishment of a secular and democratic Iran, they often criticize one another. The MeK, spawned as a leftist rebel group in 1965, has a legacy of conducting attacks during the reign of Pahlavi's father before the Islamic Revolution, which the group initially supported. "The only reason for Reza Pahlavi's notoriety is that he is the son of the last dictator of Iran, Mohammad Reza Pahlavi, who ruled along with his father for 57 years, with repression and a dreaded secret police called SAVAK and the killing of freedom fighters, a one-party rule and plundering the people of Iran," MeK spokesperson Shahin Gobadi told Newsweek. "The Shah eventually was forced to flee Iran as a result of a popular revolution." "Reza Pahlavi has nothing of his own, and anyone who is serious about the future of Iran does not take him seriously at all," Gobadi added. "For the past four decades, he has been living comfortably with the money looted by his father. Even his former closest associates now acknowledge that his political efforts have not lasted more than a few weeks or at most a few months, due to his dictatorial approach. His meetings outside Iran, despite the publicity and hype in cyberspace, do not exceed to draw a few hundred people at best." Newsweek has reached out to Pahlavi's press office and the Iranian Mission to the United Nations for comment. Pahlavi has said he does not advocate for the restoration of the Iranian monarchy. The MeK has denied allegations that it collaborated with Israel. But a number of observers argue that neither Pahlavi nor the MeK hold the necessary influence in Iran to substantially affect the country's future. "The NCRI/MEK, which relocated Iraq and collaborated with the Iraqi Army throughout the war against Iran, has been reduced to a cult-like political sect lacking any significant domestic constituency," Ali Alfoneh, senior fellow at the Arab Gulf States Institute in Washington, told Newsweek. "As for Mr. Reza Pahlavi, for a time, he was perceived as a symbolic alternative by segments of the Iranian public nostalgic for a bygone era, when meat was affordable and taxi drivers polite," Alfoneh said. "However, his overt alignment with Israel is likely to delegitimize him in the eyes of broad constituencies, particularly amidst rising civilian casualties." Muhammad Sahimi, professor at the University of Southern California, also outlined a difficult situation for both MeK and monarchy supporters. "Reza Pahlavi and his monarchist supporters have firmly allied themselves with Israel, and are hoping that Israel's attacks on Iran will lead to toppling of the regime in Tehran and its replacement with them," Sahimi told Newsweek. "Pahlavi has not condemned Israel's attacks, and in fact has directly or indirectly supported them." "The MEK has had long-standing relations with Israel, and they too hope that they can come to power, although they are universally despised by Iranians from all walks of life, due to their siding with Saddam Hussein's regime in Iraq during its war with Iran," Sahimi said. "At the same time, their members are all in their 60s and 70s, and in exile. They are a spent force." Democratic Party of Iranian Kurdistan members pose as they celebrate Nowruz at the Jezhnikan Village around Baharka, Iraq, on March 18. Democratic Party of Iranian Kurdistan members pose as they celebrate Nowruz at the Jezhnikan Village around Baharka, Iraq, on March 18. Younes Mohammad/Middle East Images/AFP/Getty Images Threats From Within While both the MeK and Pahlavi claim to have a presence of supporters within Iran, a number of other dissident groups based within the country have waged their own anti-government campaigns, both civil and military. These include militias established among non-Persian ethnic groups such as Arabs, Azeris, Baloch and Kurds who seek greater decentralized rule or, in some cases, total independence. Kurdish groups, in particular, have a history of seeking closer coordination with the United States, which has helped backed Kurdish forces to establish autonomous regions in Iraq and Syria. Israel, too, has long courted Kurdish groups in the region. "Some of the Kurdish groups have been in contact with Israel over the past several decades, and some of their leaders, such as Mostafa Hejri, secretary-general of Kurdistan Democratic Party of Iran, have explicitly asked Israel for help," Sahimi said. "When NATO imposed no flight zone over Libya in 2011, Hejri asked for the same over Iran's province of Kurdistan." On the other hand, he said that "Arabs and Azeri people are overwhelmingly against any separatist movement, and a small Arab terrorist group was eliminated." As for the Baloch, he explained that "there is small Balochi terrorist group in Iran's province of Sistan and Baluchistan, which has been carrying out terrorist operations, but it does not have any significant military power to make any difference." "So, I would say, if the U.S. and/or Israel were to exploit this, the Kurds would be their target," Sahimi said. In addition to the Democratic Party of Iranian Kurdistan (PDKI), other Kurdish movements in Iran include the Kurdistan Free Life Party (PJAK), the Kurdistan Freedom Party (PAK) and the Komala Party of Iranian Kurdistan, which itself has splintered into several factions. Iranian Kurdish militias have at times fought against one another as well. In a recent interview with Newsweek, Komala Secretary-General Abdulla Mohtadi said his group has renounced the use of armed means to topple Iran's government, though he appealed for greater support from the U.S. and Israel to Iranian dissident groups. Mohtadi said at the time that he had forged an alliance with the PDKI amid the "Women, Life, Freedom" movement protests that erupted nationwide in response to the death of 22-year-old Iranian Kurdish Mahsa Amini in police custody in September 2022. But he remained critical of "extremist" opposition groups, including certain monarchist supporters, whom he accused of doing more harm than good to the anti-Iranian government cause. Since Israel's operation began, the PDKI has stated that "the first and most important prerequisite for saving Iran's citizens from this crisis, destruction, and darkness is to completely remove and end this regime," while PAK leader Hussein Yazdanpanah issued a statement urging "a nationwide uprising to end the regime or to reduce it in Tehran." However, Alfoneh noted that Iranians had a tendency to rally behind the government against perceived separatism during times of national strife, as occurred during the Iran-Iraq War and in the aftermath of World Wars I and II. "Each time, the urban middle class, prioritizing national cohesion, set aside grievances and aligned with the central state to suppress secessionist movements," Alfoneh said. "I am expecting Israeli-backed secessionist insurgencies in Kurdistan, Baluchestan, and potentially Khuzestan (Ahvaz), but as in the past, the middle class is likely to lend conditional support to an otherwise unpopular regime to prevent fragmentation of Iran." So, while he suspected that "regime change, and fragmentation of Iran through a civil war is the real strategic objective of Prime Minister Netanyahu, and that the nuclear dossier merely serves as a pretext to achieve those objectives," he felt "the risk of a civil war and fragmentation of the country is likely to mobilize the middle class" behind the government. Alireza Taghavinia, a Tehran-based security analyst, echoed the belief that Iranians were largely standing together in the face of Israeli attacks rather than siding with civil or armed opposition movements. "The Iranian people have an important characteristic: they unite when there is foreign aggression against their homeland," Taghavinia told Newsweek. "Even serious opponents of the Islamic Republic government are now standing by this government to repel Israel's aggression against their land." "Iranians have a very strong sense of nationalism," he added. At the same time, he acknowledged that "Kurdish terrorist groups could be a security threat to Iran, not a military threat," noting in particular alleged ties between Komala and the PDKI to Israel. Still, he argued that "Iran's intelligence agencies and military power on its western borders are high and can control the situation." "Iran has both an army, the Islamic Revolutionary Guard Corps, and the Popular Mobilization Forces, and it feels no shortage of ground forces for war," Taghavinia said. "So, there is no need to worry." Smoke billows from an explosion near the Azadi Tower, left, in Tehran on June 16 amid Israel's ongoing military campaign against Iran. Smoke billows from an explosion near the Azadi Tower, left, in Tehran on June 16 amid Israel's ongoing military campaign against Iran. ATTA KENARE/AFP/Getty Images Unintended Consequences In addition to potentially galvanizing Iran's government, Israel's operations and potential aid to internal actors within Iran may run other risks that contradict the interests of Netanyahu and U.S. President Donald Trump. These include fortifying calls for the country to develop a nuclear deterrent, a debate that has increasingly intensified within the Islamic Republic amid tensions with Israel that have mounted since the outbreak of the war in Gaza in October 2023. "Another point is that Netanyahu's big mistake and the attack on Iran, which was coordinated by Trump, has strengthened the position of those in Iran who wanted to build nuclear weapons, and I have told you this before," he added. "Now, most Iranians want to build nuclear weapons." Sina Toosi, senior fellow at the Center for International Policy, argued that propping up either Pahlavi or the MeK could ultimately harm more organic efforts for change within Iran. "While these groups will likely seek to use the current crisis to boost their visibility and present themselves as viable alternatives, empowering them would be a grave miscalculation," Toosi told Newsweek. "It would further discredit any externally backed initiative for political change and would undermine the broader Iranian pro-democracy movement, which overwhelmingly rejects foreign interference and sectarian or authoritarian alternatives." Even seeking to forge ties with individuals associated with the Iranian military, as Eiland had proposed, carries the threat of bringing to power new leaders whose interests do not align with those of Israel or the U.S., he explained. "There are certainly factions within the Iranian political and security apparatus—especially hardliners—who may seek to use the current crisis to consolidate power, suppress rivals, or justify more aggressive internal crackdowns," Toosi said. "Paradoxically, some of the strongest opposition to US or Israeli interference often comes from grassroots civil society actors and reformist or moderate political currents, not the security establishment," he added. "Undermining those internal voices—who support democratic change but oppose war and foreign manipulation—could inadvertently strengthen the very forces Israel and the U.S. claim to be opposing." Toosi also warned of the potential blowback associated with backing ethnic movements looking to seize on the chaos. "Promoting such forces risks inflaming ethnic tensions, encouraging violent backlash, and destabilizing not just Iran but the broader region," Toosi said. "A weakened central government in Iran could create power vacuums with unpredictable and highly dangerous outcomes. Attempts to leverage these groups may serve short-term tactical interests for Israel or others but would come at immense long-term strategic cost." The Iranian government's efforts to crack down on subversive elements does not only target groups claiming to seek a more democratic rule, but also those with explicitly fundamentalist outlooks, such as the Islamic State militant group, particularly its Khorasan faction that conducted the deadliest attack in Iran's history in January 2024, and Baloch Islamist movements like Jaish ul-Adl and Ansar al-Furqan. As was the case in neighboring Iraq, following the U.S.-led invasion that toppled Saddam in 2003, militant groups often seize on national insecurity to wreak further havoc, and Iran's porous borders with Afghanistan and Pakistan have already proven a persistent and deadly source of unrest in the region. For now, Toosi argued that these fears, along with a mounting death toll due to Israeli strikes, appear to be reinforcing rather than undermining nationwide support for the Islamic Republic. "The Iranian leadership is navigating an unprecedented moment of pressure," Toosi said. "The recent Israeli strikes—as they kill civilians or target infrastructure—are likely to strongly unify various factions within the Islamic Republic and shift public focus away from domestic grievances toward external threats." "While discontent with the government remains, many Iranians oppose war and see foreign attacks as the greatest threat," he added. "This dynamic could reinforce state cohesion, at least in the short term."
Yahoo
13 hours ago
- Yahoo
Sophie Grégoire Trudeau shares sweet Father's Day tribute to former PM Justin Trudeau: 'Taught me so much'
Sophie Grégoire Trudeau and former Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau may be separated, but the pair are still friendly co-parents. On Sunday, Grégoire Trudeau shared a video to Instagram that featured personal photos of Trudeau as well as her late father, Jean Grégoire, to celebrate Father's Day, with the message, "To my favourite dads in this world. You both taught me so much in different ways, Happy Father's Day!" The video included photos of the former couple's three children, 17-year-old Xavier, 16-year-old Ella-Grace and 11-year-old Hadrien, and a lengthy caption about the emotional legacy of fatherhood. "What does it mean to 'father'? To help others to adapt to the world, how to 'be' in the world. It means to love, to listen, to to care and protect," the 50-year-old author wrote. "But fathers were boys first and they learned how to know themselves, live their emotions and define who they are through the eyes of their fathers." View this post on Instagram A post shared by Sophie Grégoire Trudeau (@sophiegregoiretrudeau) Grégoire Trudeau, who released her first book Closer Together: Knowing Ourselves, Loving Each Other in 2024, added that there's still plenty of healing for men that needs to take place on a societal and personal level. "We are still living and experiencing the wounded generations of men who weren't loved fully and with consistency," she continued. "But we are breaking cycles and there are many conscious boys and men out there doing their 'work' so we can leave an unhealthy patriarchy behind and build on more evolved, emotionally literate and well-regulated beings who can be father figures to us all!" is getting candid about relationships, sharing more insight about how she learned to "cut ties" after her split with Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau. The 49-year-old author spoke to The Telegraph recently, noting mental health techniques helped with her break up last year. The former television host and Trudeau announced in August 2023 they "made the decision to separate," according to a post the Liberal Party leader made on Instagram. Since then, Grégoire Trudeau has been open about her relationship, speaking on everything from its post-split parenting mechanics to her struggles. Below, read everything she's said about relationships since becoming estranged from Canada's former leader. In August 2023, the couple made separate social media posts that included identical words, asking for people to respect the family's privacy amid the break up. While Trudeau's post is still viewable on Instagram, Grégoire Trudeau has since deleted hers. "As always, we remain a close family with deep love and respect for each other and for everything we have built and will continue to build," they both wrote in their messages, according to CBC News. "For the well-being of our children, we ask that you respect our and their privacy." Elle Canada published a feature on Grégoire Trudeau earlier in March, where she spoke candidly about the decision to publicly announce their separation. She noted making the decision to split up was "hard" and made her think a lot about relationships and being vulnerable. "I imagined the worst-case scenario, I'll tell you that," she said. "I had to. I didn't want to be naive. But I also had to protect myself. ... Let's just say that we [all] stayed away from our phones. We were together as a family, [and] we held each other." She further explained she's a "family woman" and didn't want to break the "mould" she had. "Even the words we use to describe relationships — it's either success [and you] stay together or failure [and you] go on different path. We really need to develop a new vocabulary for human beings as we transform on our own paths." The Montreal-native added navigating her public break-up has been confusing and filled with conflicting emotions: "Are there days when I ask myself, 'What have I done?' Yes. Deep inside, do I feel integrity and congruence? Yes. So I sit with all of it. And it's chaotic, and it's a mess, but it's also loving, compassionate and tender. "That doesn't mean it hurts less, but you take things less personally because you understand human functioning better," she said, adding that she and Justin Trudeau still share laughs together. "And we will for a very long time." Months after her split, Grégoire Trudeau made a comment that some media outlets saw as a "veiled swipe" at the Canadian prime minister. "Your needs, you shouldn't expect the minimum," she told the Know Your Value podcast in March. "You should expect a maximum of nourishment, presence and help in your life with the people around you. And we shouldn't have to hold it all together as women." During her appearance on the podcast, she also opened up about romance: "Human wounds, pain, suffering, is universal. The language of love is slow, and love not just in the romantic sense of the word." Later that same month speaking to Vogue, Grégoire Trudeau opened up about how she co-parents with her estranged husband. "We don't even have a parental sharing plan. We go along with the kids' schedules, and we keep each other posted." The interview painted Grégoire Trudeau as warm, fun-loving and emotional, and while she puts on a brave face publicly, she noted there are still struggles: "I think it hurts me for the kids," she said, adding she had worried about the "emotional heritage" she might be passing down to them. But moving forward, she noted her mission was to help the children transition to their new family structure: "You can heal without hatred, without division, without blame. I'm not perfect. It takes two to tango, and I think we both acknowledge that." Ahead of the April 23 release of her book, Closer Together: Knowing Ourselves, Loving Each Other, Grégoire Trudeau sat down with Yahoo Canada for an emotional conversation. She spoke about mental health, her upbringing and her hunger for perfection — and reflected on healing from her break up. "I have never been more attuned and caring of my mental health than through this whole process," she explained. "I have been pushed to dig into my authenticity and to put my attachment issues aside. But just because you restructure a relationship, it doesn't mean you have to kill it. We are still bound by love." Still, she admitted during the interview — with tears welling in her eyes — that her break up with Trudeau "hurts" — but that she's OK with the uncertainty of a new decade of her life: "When you have love and respect for real, you learn that at some point, you have to set them free. But it's hard. It's hard. But still full of love." Speaking to CBC's The Current, Grégoire Trudeau noted family life after a split isn't, of course, always perfect. The mom-of-three also noted that although there are bound to be people trying to "sniff out the gossip" there's "not much to sniff out" about her split with the Canadian prime minister. "I'm in a family and I'm raising my kids, and I've had, you know, a partner where sincerity, open conversations, difficult conversations, are at the core of who we are as a family," she explained. "I feel that this space of calm inside me, most people sense it. And the ones who don't, well, it's OK. I can't control that." While the separation had proven to be a learning curve for the family, Grégoire Trudeau shared they were bound by "respect and love," and they still were there for one another: "Sometimes it gets messy, you know, in all family life. And it should be, because it kind of makes us appreciate the better times." In multiple interviews, Grégoire Trudeau noted people often dramatize the end of relationships — but that shouldn't always be the case. Speaking to outlets like Chatelaine and the Next Question with Katie Couric podcast, she said marriage and divorce aren't as black and white as success and failure. "We dramatize the ending of relationships instead of accepting that we can free the people we love if it becomes necessary," she told Chatelaine. "We can restructure relationships without losing the other, without being abandoned. ... But we were never taught this. We were taught the opposite! So it's time that we wake up and start sharing this knowledge, so we can continue to not be afraid of loving. I want to be part of the solution." She later said on the Next Question podcast people may dramatize the end of relationships because of insecurity: "We are afraid to be abandoned, we are afraid to be alone as human beings. It is not in our nature to be alone and just living alone." Speaking to the Toronto Star while promoting her then-upcoming book, Grégoire Trudeau opened up a bit about emotional attachment in relationships. She also shared how people in relationships can't always expect their significant other to be on the same as them throughout the entirety of their life. "We have to accept that people have growth curves on different paths," she said. "You cannot always expect the person that you're sharing your life with to be at the same point of experience that you are. Sometimes we have this concept of possession of the other when we are in a couple and we become jealous or we become controlling." She added she hopes people entering relationships can feel more secure and work on being more literate both emotionally and relationally. In turn that should help with feeling "much less threatened by the difference of the other." "Sometimes in relationships, when there is love and this spills outside of romantic love, we must set each other free sometimes. ... Compassion and empathy are very difficult when we are fearful and angry," she said. In May, Grégoire Trudeau opened up further about being partnered with a political figure, telling Newsweek she "never perceived her marriage as political." Still, she added it wasn't always easy being one-half of such a public relationship. "Of course, I wish I didn't have to share the state of my relationship with the world," she said. "It is my life, but it is a very small portion of my life. I don't live my life with the cameras on. I'm at home with the kids. We're running around, we're booking appointments. ... I now understand that being on a co-political path, and your partner does that, it implies a lot of changes in one's life that you don't expect. And you have to constantly adapt." View this post on Instagram A post shared by Lisa LaFlamme (@lisamlaflamme) Chatting with Lisa LaFlamme at a fundraiser for YW Kitchener-Waterloo in May, Grégoire Trudeau was able to skirt past most of the former CTV National News anchor's questions about her post-split personal life. Still, Grégoire Trudeau reiterated some of her past sentiments, saying that clinging to a belief that your relationship won't change is a "fairy tale." "We've been brought up wanting to attach, and to make everything eternal — our youth, our love, our desire. That is not how life is. It is not," she said, adding she was the one to instigate change in the marriage and that she chose "authenticity over attachments" in that moment. During a virtual wellness summit called "Bouncing Back From a Broken Heart" on Nov. 1, Grégoire Trudeau opened up about how her split from the Canadian prime minister still impacts her more than a year later. She also revealed she experienced chronic stress amid threats to Trudeau and her family. "There's still so much love and relationship and closeness in our family," she said during her panel, according to the National Post. "Even though our relationship is transforming, it doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. ... It hurts so much. Why? Because I had to choose my authenticity over my attachment, and that can be called 'heartbreak,' although the heart never breaks." After being asked how she dealt with the breakup, Grégoire Trudeau said her yoga mat has seen it all and the exercise helps her "clear the debris" from her mind: "That mat, let me tell you, has seen tears of sweat, of confusion, of alert, of sadness, of grief, of trying to let go, of not understanding what's going on and of navigating life through a thick fog." In November 2024, Grégoire Trudeau spoke to The Telegraph about the technique's she relied on to help her through her split. "I've trained my brain to deal with uncertainty," she told the British outlet. "I learned to cut ties and not cling too much to life, to others, to relationships." She added that yoga and self-regulation have helped her navigate the life change. "I have to say we are really lucky to be in a respectful open communication which is key," she said.


Politico
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Khamenei in the crosshairs
With help from Daniel Lippman Subscribe here | Email Robbie | Email Eric President DONALD TRUMP may have vetoed a reported Israeli proposal over the weekend to assassinate Iranian Supreme Leader Ayatollah ALI KHAMENEI, but Israel and its boosters are still pushing for the U.S. to back regime change in Tehran. Israeli strikes against Iran are increasingly targeting political institutions along with high-ranking Iranian military officials. Israel targeted the offices of Iran's state broadcaster today; Israel also claimed it killed four top Iranian intelligence officials in a Sunday airstrike. Israeli Prime Minister BENJAMIN NETANYAHU said today that killing Khamenei 'would end the conflict' and didn't rule out targeting the cleric who sits atop Iran's Islamist government. That followed comments from Defense Minister ISRAEL KATZ describing the strike against Iran's state broadcaster as part of Israel's efforts to punish the 'Iranian dictator.' If Israel were to oust the regime in Tehran, what would replace it? Some pro-Israel critics of the regime have looked to former Crown Prince REZA PAHLAVI as a potential vehicle for political transformation in Iran if Khamenei and clerical leaders are ousted. Pahlavi's backers point to poll numbers that show he enjoys some of the highest name recognition with the Iranian public. Pahlavi has long advocated for Iran to have a secular democracy, while not ruling out the possibility that some version of the monarchy might be restored. His office said in a statement that 'the Iranian people will decide on the nature of their democracy.' The statement went on to blame the current Iranian leadership for the ongoing fighting. Only once in modern history has an autocratic regime given way to a modernizing potential monarch — Spain following the death of dictator FRANCISCO FRANCO. That succession also only occurred because Franco named King JUAN CARLOS I as his successor and Juan Carlos was expected to continue the regime's policies. Pahlavi has built ties with the Israeli government, and he has hesitated to condemn Israel's strikes against Iran. But despite his name recognition, it's far from clear whether he'd command the loyalty of enough Iranians to lead a political transformation in the country. Many analysts have long predicted that Iranian military leaders are in the best position to succeed the clerics — but Israel has been killing many of those uniformed leaders. Per the Quincy Institute's TRITA PARSI, regime change might even backfire for those who wish to prevent Iran from achieving a nuclear weapon. Khamenei, Parsi argues, is seen by some as a hurdle to Iran crossing the nuclear threshold because of a fatwa, or religious edict, he is said to have issued in the past. (This is a point which is hotly debated in Iran watcher circles, we should note.) Iranian elites could deem that fatwa is null and void if Khamenei dies, rushing for the bomb, Parsi warns. For now, the White House isn't publicly embracing any effort to dislodge the Iranian government. A White House official told Reuters over the weekend that unless Iran attacks Americans as part of its response to Israel, assassinations are off the table. Trump is still keeping the door open for diplomacy. At the G7 today, Trump confirmed Iran has been reaching out to the U.S. via intermediaries and didn't rule out a negotiated end to the fighting. 'Iran is not winning this war, and they should talk, and they should talk immediately, before it's too late,' Trump said. The Inbox MEANWHILE AT THE G7: While Iran and Israel trade missile volleys, Trump is at the G7 for the first major confab of his second presidency. And European leaders are keen to prove themselves as the next Trump whisperer waiting in the wings. As our colleagues Stefan Boscia and Hannah Roberts report, French President EMMANUEL MACRON, British Prime Minister KEIR STARMER and Italian Prime Minister GIORGIA MELONI all fancy the label and their interactions with Trump will be highly scrutinized as they try to court the president. The leaders see cultivating further warm ties with Trump as key to securing trade concessions and pushing for continued U.S. engagement with Europe. The summit, which was expected to focus on Ukraine and the trade tensions between the U.S. and many of its allies, is also now discussing the tensions in the Middle East. G7 leaders are debating a proposal to call for hostilities between Israel and Iran. RUSSIA PLAYS PEACEMAKER? Russia is reupping its effort to position itself as a potential peacemaker in the fighting between Iran and Israel. Earlier this month, Russia offered to house Iranian uranium as a way to secure a nuclear deal between Trump and Tehran. 'This proposal remains on the table, it remains relevant,' Kremlin spokesperson DMITRY PESKOV said today. 'But, of course, with the outbreak of hostilities, the situation has become seriously complicated.' Moscow's insistence shows that great powers are antsy about the tensions between Iran and Israel. The proposal could also prove propitious to Russia as it tries to boost goodwill with Washington, potentially allowing Moscow to get a lighter touch from Washington when it returns its attention to ending Russia's three-year invasion of Ukraine. ZELENSKYY'S CANADIAN CAMPAIGN: Ukrainian President VOLODYMYR ZELENSKYY is en route to Alberta to meet with G7 leaders and Trump and push for more support in the wake of the collapse of U.S.-led peace talks. The visit from Zelenskyy, who joins the summit at the invitation of Canadian Prime Minister MARK CARNEY, is expected to include the first meeting with Trump since the now-infamous Oval Office incident in February. And it comes as MAGA allies have signaled Trump is frustrated with Russian leader VLADIMIR PUTIN for derailing talks. IT'S MONDAY: Thanks for tuning in to NatSec Daily! This space is reserved for the top U.S. and foreign officials, the lawmakers, the lobbyists, the experts and the people like you who care about how the natsec sausage gets made. Aim your tips and comments at ebazail@ and follow Eric on X @ebazaileimil. While you're at it, follow the rest of POLITICO's global security team on X and Bluesky at: @dave_brown24, @HeidiVogt, @jessicameyers, @RosiePerper, @ @PhelimKine, @ak_mack, @felschwartz, @connorobrienNH, @paulmcleary, @reporterjoe, @JackDetsch, @samuelskove, @magmill95, @johnnysaks130 and @delizanickel Keystrokes IN THE ARMY NOW: A new Army effort to merge innovation in the military and tech sector that's seen several high-profile executives commissioned into the service originated with one of those leaders: Palantir Chief Technology Officer SHYAM SANKAR. 'Shyam, in his overwhelming patriotism, came to us, and said, 'I want to join the Army. I want to wear the cloth of the nation. Just doing what I can do to help from Palantir isn't enough,'' Col. DAVE BUTLER, a spokesperson for Army Chief Gen. RANDY GEORGE, told our colleagues at POLITICO Pro's California Decoded. 'Then he said, 'I've recruited three other guys to come with me.'' The move is a sign of deepening ties between Silicon Valley and the Pentagon. The service on Friday announced the formation of Detachment 201 with the goal of helping the U.S. military produce tech solutions quickly and at scale. The Complex U.S. BULKS UP IN MIDDLE EAST: The U.S. is poised to have two aircraft carriers in the water off the Middle East amid the Israel-Iran conflict. The USS Nimitz aircraft carrier rerouted from the South China Sea today, our colleague Paul McLeary reports. The beefed-up presence comes amid concerns of a wider war that could put U.S. military personnel in the region at risk. The Nimitz will join the USS Carl Vinson carrier strike group, which has sailed in the Arabian Sea since the spring amid stepped up operations against the Houthis in Yemen. Air Force refueling aircraft also deployed to Europe from bases in the U.S. this weekend in a preventative measure to support any operations in the Middle East. On the Hill IRAN WAR POWERS PUSH: Sen. TIM KAINE (D-Va.) has filed a war powers resolution aimed at forcing a Senate vote on the use of military force against Iran. The resolution would forbid the U.S. from acting militarily against Tehran without congressional authorization, though it wouldn't prohibit Trump from acting to defend the U.S. from Iran. Kaine, who has long pushed to rein in broad presidential war powers, said he's concerned about the possibility that the U.S. could be drawn into hostilities between Iran and Israel. 'I'm not a pacifist. I believe in strong defense. And I'm also somebody who I've never voted against an Israel aid package in the whole time I've been here,' Kaine told NatSec Daily. 'I'm not an isolationist, but I also believe in learning the lessons of history. I think the U.S. engagement in the war in Iraq was a grievous mistake. And the U.S. decision to stay in Afghanistan after the death of [OSAMA BIN LADEN] also ended up being very counterproductive. So let's learn the lessons from recent history and not repeat.' The war powers resolution is privileged, meaning Kaine can force a vote on the Senate floor and get senators on the record, though it won't advance without GOP support. Kaine told NatSec Daily that he doesn't believe this is a 'predictable' issue for senators. 'The most serious thing we do is have discussions about war and peace. But those strong feelings don't line up neatly with partisan politics,' Kaine said. Broadsides NUCLEAR WORRIES: The Stockholm International Peace Research Institute is decrying the risks of nuclear war in its yearbook released today, warning the era of disarmament is now over. 'The era of reductions in the number of nuclear weapons in the world, which had lasted since the end of the Cold War, is coming to an end,' said HANS KRISTENSEN, an analyst with SIPRI's Weapons of Mass Destruction program. All nuclear-armed countries, SIPRI says, are modernizing their nuclear weapons, a departure from recent policy consensus among nuclear powers. And the think tank is singling out China's rapid nuclear buildup as a major driver of nuclear anxiety. While the report acknowledges that the U.S. and Russia account for the lion's share of nuclear weapons around the world, the think tank highlighted that 'China's nuclear arsenal is growing faster than any other country's' and 'depending on how it decides to structure its forces, China could potentially have at least as many' intercontinental ballistic missiles as both the United States and Russia. Those claims prompted sharp pushback from Beijing. Foreign Ministry spokesperson GUO JIAKUN said at today's press briefing that China's nuclear program is solely defensive and insisted that China was not part of any arms race. Transitions — Britain named BLAISE METREWELI the new head of intelligence agency MI6. Metreweli, a career MI6 officer, was most recently director general of technology and innovation at the agency. She will be the first female chief of MI6. — JOHN BARSA is joining Continental Strategy as a partner. He previously was acting USAID administrator during Trump's first term. — GABE CAMARILLO has joined KBR as senior vice president of its Defense and Technology Solutions business. He is a former Army undersecretary. — Lockheed Martin named JALEN DRUMMOND as vice president of corporate affairs and international communications. Drummond was a White House spokesperson during Trump's first term and most recently oversaw both the public affairs and corporate communications divisions at GoFundMe. — The America First Policy Institute announced that JULIE KIRCHNER, TONY PHAM and EMILIO GONZÁLEZ will join its ranks. Kirchner was Executive Director at the Federation for American Immigration Reform. Pham was acting director of Immigration and Customs Enforcement, principal legal adviser for the Department of Homeland Security and assistant Secretary for border security and immigration policy at the Department of Homeland Security. And González, a retired U.S. Army Colonel and former director of U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services, served as director for western hemisphere affairs on the National Security Council. What to Read — Laura Kayali, POLITICO: Israel slams France's decision to hide Paris Air Show booths — Andrew Ryvkin, The Atlantic: Putin Isn't Actually Enjoying This — Elian Peltier, The New York Times: As U.S. Aid Dries Up, West Africa Fights Expanding Jihadist Threat — Elizabeth N. Saunders, Foreign Affairs: Imperial President at Home, Emperor Abroad Tomorrow Today — Center for Strategic and International Studies, 9 a.m.: 15th annual South China Sea Conference. — Center for Strategic and International Studies, 11 a.m.: Discussion on a new report, 'The Russian Wartime Economy: From Sugar High to Hangover.' — Carnegie Endowment for International Peace, 12 p.m.: The Future of Israeli-Palestinian Peace — Atlantic Council, 1 p.m.: "Drone, defense, and diplomacy: Negotiations and the battlefield in Ukraine.' Thanks to our editors, Heidi Vogt and Rachel Myers, who should not be considered as potential replacements for Khamenei.