Allure of the Mean Friend
What is it about mean friends? They treat us badly. They don't call us back. They cancel plans at the last minute. Yet, we come back for more. Popular bullies exist in business, politics, everywhere. How do they stay so popular?
This is a rerun of an episode that first aired in September 2003.
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