Proud to Serve: Marine veteran and First Responder receives $500 for years of service
Michael was nominated by his sister who tells us
After graduating from high school Michael joined the Marines, was deployed many times over his career and proudly served as a combat engineer before he retired as a MSgt. After his distinguished 27-year Marine Corps career he put himself through college, the Fire Academy and the Paramedic's Academy. In 2017 he started as a first responder for Monarch Fire Department. Following a near-fatal 30-foot fall in 2020, Michael's recovery was fueled by his daughter and professional passions, revealing a larger life purpose. His expertise and perspective are invaluable, having trained the Chesterfield Police Department in hemorrhage control, assisted in training defensive tactics for first responders, and active shooter/intruder protocols for schools. Michael loves giving back, partnering with Wings of Hope to honor Folds of Honor and coordinating annual Toys for Tots programs. He actively engages in community events and fire safety initiatives such as the City of Chesterfield's Senior Sampler, Back to School events, Backstoppalooza, Chesterfield Parks and Recreation Camps, and Heat up St Louis. Michael embodies the spirit of the Proud to Serve award because he is just an average man with dreams to make the world a better place, and is proof that you can do anything when you put your mind and heart to it! His extraordinary journey showcases the potential for growth, perseverance, and transformative community impact.
Michael Wagner receives $500 from Brown & Brown Law Firm and FOX 2's Proud to Serve Award. If you would like to nominate a 1st responder, military or veteran, click here.
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