How my father lived for another 20 years after being diagnosed with prostate cancer - this is the traumatic truth about cruel disease
I vividly remember waiting at the hospital as my dad had his first operation during his fight against prostate cancer.
I had been doing my GCSEs that day and had come straight from school. My steps slowed as I reached the ward on that sweltering hot summer afternoon, my heart full of dread.
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