In a Word...Anticipation
Just ahead lie my two favourite months, May and June, when this country can be at its freshest and most spectacular, temperatures rise, the hawthorn comes into full, sweet bloom, and the evenings continue to lengthen.
Sometimes I think I prefer these end-of-April days, looking forward to all of that, than actually experiencing May and June. Because, when living through those two months, there is an accompanying sadness in knowing that they are also slipping away.
It is when I can sympathise with that line from Patrick Pearse's The Wayfarer, that 'the beauty of the world hath made me sad, this beauty that will pass.'
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It is why, as a child, my favourite day of the year over time became Christmas Eve, not Christmas Day. There was the excitement of all that fuss, preparation and expectation rather than having it all laid before you, as on Christmas Day, only to realise as the afternoon wore on that it would be an eternity of 364 days before you could experience any of it again.
It is why, generally, I prefer and enjoy the journey rather than the destination itself. The adventure is in getting there, wherever or whatever that might be. Like life itself, the living of which is always better than its end.
You might remember that Guinness advertisement from the 1990s where actor Joe McKinney dances around impatiently to the quirky tune Guaglione as he waits for his pint to settle, culminating in the blissful moment when he brings that perfect creation to his lips, leaving us to imagine the joy of the rest.
It set off a dance craze, the tune knocked Riverdance off the number one spot in Ireland and reached number two in the UK, Guinness sales soared, Joe McKinney had to go to the US as, so typecast had he become as 'the Dancing Man', he could not get any other acting work in Ireland, and the ad itself (created in Dublin by the Arks agency) won a succession of awards.
It was titled 'Anticipation'.
Anticipation
, from Latin
anticipationem
, for 'foreshadowing', 'looking forward to'.
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Otis got 10 A stars and has been selected to play for Ulster under 18s, Auerila is off to do Med in Durham and Hunter has been paddleboarding with me in Helen's Bay, and doing jolly super post-op. It was good to hear that the old golden retriever had rallied, his left side shaved and stitched after the sarcoma excision. Back on the water. He was such a sweet dog. But oh my days, those choreographed, perfect, boring, Hollister-model children, in their Lululemon and Birkenstocks, ordering oat flat whites and Buddha bowls in the claustrophobic confines of their postcode. Margo had tutored too many of them. She was sorry she didn't just nip down to Dunnes, but a ready meal meant it had to be Marks. [ 'I'm gone frail? Excuse me, but I'm as healthy as a goat' Opens in new window ] You look terrible Margo. I gave you the name of my acupuncturist didn't I? I don't know why you are so resistant to Chinese medicine. 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Ladies who got to lunch rather than launch still had to attend to their perineum pain or their vulval dermatitis when either or both came for them. Margo remembered Tara, in a rare moment of oversharing by the tills last January, saying that she found herself opening the little doors of her mostly adult children's Advent Calendars and gobbling the nativity characters that no longer mattered to them; gorging herself on the chocolate version of the Christmas miracle in a teary frenzy, in full view of the window cleaner. Four years on from the death of her mother, Margo still savoured the memory of having been in this place with her 'There must be some kind of way outta here' sang Dylan as Margo put her earbuds in and walked past what the papers were calling the best jeans in the High Street. Good for M&S. She had started listening to music or radio in supermarkets during Covid. It had made those dystopian shopping trips more bearable. 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Nests had emptied, husbands had died or left, or were left, lifestyles had changed. The emergence of hipster local shops on the edgy but somewhat gentrified Ormeau, a revamped Asian supermarket and an excellent Dunnes foodhall on the embankment (full of Neven Maguire goodies, great Irish ham on the bone, and yoghurts from west Cork), were all making Margo and others vote with their feet. She always bought her flowers from Marks. Lilies usually. You could take them to a wedding or a funeral. They celebrated and consoled. She mostly just took them home. Margo had been buying herself flowers for years, a decadent but necessary gesture (like the fire she lit most evenings). She liked the way they would bloom overnight or while she was out at work: enigmatic and majestic in the Judy Greene vase that held their elegant stems perfectly. She looked at the headlines, picked up The Irish Times and The Guardian and moved across to the checkout. The checkout girl, who was often working this late afternoon shift, looked so young. She always asked the same question in the same monotone voice: Are you doing anything nice today? No matter what answer you gave, the girl always said: Well that's nice, so it is. I'm going to look at intermittent self-catheterisation videos on YouTube, smiled Margo . Well that's nice, so it is. Sandra Kavanagh is a teacher and freelance writer based in Belfast
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