EXCLUSIVE I've helped over 50 people lose their virginity - here's what you DIDN'T see on Virgin Island

Daily Mail​

2 days ago

Unless you've been living under a rock, you've probably heard about Channel 4 's latest TV series, Virgin Island.
The controversial six-part show sees a team of 'sexologists' guide a group of 12 virgins on a unique course to overcome their intimacy anxiety.
Now, a sex expert has revealed what it's really like to help people lose their virginity.
Gigi Patsy, a 29-year-old escort from Hertfordshire, has worked with 'well over 2,000' people - including over 50 virgins.
Speaking to MailOnline on behalf of Vivastreet, she said: 'Some people don't even tell me they're virgins, but you can tell. Others have waited and told me afterwards. Everyone is different.'
While the virgins on Virgin Island range in age from 22 to 30, Ms Patsy has seen some virgins in their 50s.
'I think you would be surprised at the broad range of people that are virgins, people assume it's quite rare but it's not,' she said.
'There are many in their 30s, 40s and even 50s who have never been with anyone for a range of reasons, whether it's down to religion, confidence, or the opportunity just hasn't presented itself.'
Ms Patsy began escorting over four years ago, and charges clients £250 per session.
'The best part of my job is getting to meet new people and making them feel comfortable and bring some happiness to their lives,' she explained.
'I quickly noticed that a lot of the men I was meeting didn't actually want to have sex just for the thrill - they wanted guidance, a boost of confidence, someone to help them, and that is what I do.'
While most people associate escorting with sex, Ms Patsy says that this often isn't the main focus.
'Many people think my job is to simply have sex, but it couldn't be further from the truth,' she said.
'A lot of the time, I just speak with my clients and get to know them. For many people, they're looking for companionship and confidence, more so than a sexual thrill.'
If a client does tell her that they're a virgin, Ms Patsy says that she checks multiple times that they're sure they want to have sex.
'I ask them many times, "are you sure they want to go that far?",' she explained.
'They're never going to get this moment back.
'Some of them are just like "I just want to do it so I can get on with my life as I'm putting too much pressure on it".
'It's not for me to judge or say whether it's a good thing or a bad thing. Others it takes a few sessions before they're confident enough.
'A lot of people turn up as virgins and then still remain virgins.'
Asked about any stand-out clients, Ms Patsy recalled one man in his mid-30s who was not only a virgin, but had also never kissed anyone.
'He said he wanted help losing his virginity,' she remembered.
'We started slowly with kissing, and I could tell this was apprehensive and a bit unsure what he was doing. As he pulled away, he said "wow, my first kiss!".
'I've had a lot of people who have never had sex, but never having kissed anyone was rare, particularly someone who was slightly older.'
Since it hit our screens, Virgin Island has had a very mixed response.
Some viewers have applauded the brave virgins, while others have dubbed it 'cruel, exploitative, and horribly uncomfortable to watch.'
As for Ms Patsy, she believes Virgin Island is 'brilliant'.
'A lot of my virgin clients come to me feel embarrassed or ashamed because there is a stigma attached to it and they feel like the only one in the world their age to have never had sex,' she said.
'So anything that shows it's normal to struggle with intimacy and confidence is positive.
'It was great to see so many of them growing in confidence and take steps towards intimacy.'
VIRGIN ISLAND: MEET THE CAST!
NAME: EMMA
AGE: 23
OCCUPATION: FOOD WORKER
Emma said: 'I was the only virgin amongst my friendship group, I felt outnumbered.
'I believed I was the only human experiencing adult life without intimacy but I couldn't relax when there is the possibility of intimacy and I had to battle previous traumas.
'The fact that this concept was being brought to TV made me realise being over 21 and never having sex was not as rare as I thought it was.'
NAME: BEN
AGED: 30
Ben said: 'A friend sent me the casting call for Virgin Island on social media. I'm not sure if he knew I was a virgin, but he knew I'd struggled in this area.
'Funnily enough, my immediate response to his message was 'not a chance'.'
NAME: DAVE
AGE: 24
Dave said: 'An initial joke by some friends for some cheap laughs slowly became the opportunity of a lifetime.
'I have always struggled to open up to people but this led me to feel invisible - a feeling I couldn't take anymore.
'I felt like it couldn't continue and I wanted to do something drastic to get my life back on track.
NAME: JASON
AGE: 25
OCCUPATION: ADMIN WORKER
Jason said: 'I always felt like a failure in terms of intimacy and socialness.
'I know the island was primarily for intimacy, but it had
the amazing bonus of helping me improve my social skills – and for that, I will be forever grateful.'
NAME: LOUISE
AGE: 22
Louise said: 'I never really imagined applying for a show like Virgin Island but my friend sent me the application as a joke, and I thought, 'Why not?'
'I was at the point where I was willing to try anything.
'I had just accepted that there must've just been something wrong with me - I think the fact that my friends would see the word 'virgin' and think of me says enough to be honest.'
NAME: CHARLOTTE
AGE: 29
Charlotte said: 'Because I wanted to rid myself of my shame that I had surrounding my body, and my desire, and my ability to give myself pleasure.
'I wanted to be honest with myself so that I would not be hindered when having relationships in the future.'
NAME: HOLLY
AGE: 23
She said: 'I felt like I was at a point in my life where I was ready to experience being with someone, but I had a lot of anxiety and questions about myself that I felt I had to work through before taking that step.
'I was definitely nervous, not knowing what to expect, what the others were going to be like, whether I was actually going to get anything out of it.'
NAME: PIA
AGE: 23
Pia said: 'I applied for Virgin Island because of my struggles with vaginismus.
'I wanted to overcome the pain and anxiety I felt when exploring penetrative sex.
'Plus, I found intimacy incredibly overwhelming.'
NAME: TAYLOR
AGE: 29
Taylor said: 'I spent my whole adult life wondering why I found sexual things so difficult when others didn't.
'When I was a teenager, the risks of sex seemed to far outweigh the benefits, the only benefit anyone spoke of was babies, and I certainly wasn't ready for one of those.
NAME: TOM
AGE: 23
Tom said: 'I always found myself to be a freak because I struggled to lose my virginity whilst others around me continued to pop their cherries.
'It severely affected my mental health, filling me with self-loathing which in turn made me a worse person.'
NAME: VIRAJ
AGE: 25
Viraj said: 'I had a massive struggle to express myself in front of women.
'For me it wasn't about the intimacy stage but more with the confidence side of talking to women and making small talk.
'This whole idea was encouraged by my friends for me to get out of my comfort zone and go through with this.'
NAME: Zac
AGE: 23
Zac said: 'There was a man reporting that Channel 4 was looking for adult virgins to take part in an experimental TV show. This was of course describing me.
'At first I was like - no way, I'm not gonna do that, but I started to think about it more and more, and I realised that I wasn't really getting anywhere by myself, time was just passing me by with no real positive change.'