I was at the airport and did the opposite of the Let Them theory – I have no regrets

Sydney Morning Herald

20-06-2025

Now the paint-by-numbers fever dream has left me and there may be no more Mission Impossible films to look forward to, I've been trying to find the next diversion to get me through winter. And I think I'm onto something.
Or rather, my friend Amy is. She lives in Boston, has great teeth a great sense of humour and, it turns, out, great life hacks. Watching her two sons' ice hockey practice, Amy complained to another mum about how her bust is so big that her bra straps cut divots in her shoulders.
The friend was bemused. Said she never wears a bra, especially in winter when you have on five layers. Asked why Amy would ever wear one unless meeting the bank manager.
The conversation spurred Amy to do two things. First, abandon a bra unless she's working out. Second, ask why it took her until she was 40 to question doing something every day which she hated.
Now, she asks, 'Who says?' when making decisions. Who says you have to wear a wretched undergarment just to create a pleasing silhouette? Who says you have to have porridge if you want pancakes?
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It's the opposite to Mel Robbins' popular Let Them theory about letting go of the need to control others. You're letting go of others controlling you!
So, I've been trying the Who Says game – starting small, but it's addictive. Who says heels are out? Who says you have to chop off your hair because Leslie Bibb did? Who says Steve Winwood is daggy?
Who says you can't be sexy AF staring down 60 or super happy wearing comfy elastic waist pants? Who says we need a 10-step skincare routine and to move out of the way of bigger people on the footpath?