‘I keep attracting women towards my men': Bhumi Pednekar on love triangles, emotional ease, and being whole without a partner

Indian Express

26-05-2025

Bhumi Pednekar has always been vocal about her views on relationships, and in a recent interview, she shared her stance on love, monogamy, and self-contentment.
While promoting her upcoming film Mere Husband Ki Biwi, she revealed to News18 Showsha that she is 'very possessive' in relationships and firmly believes in monogamy. She stated, 'I don't know what is it about me and the roles I do. I keep attracting the women towards my men. But in real life, I'm very possessive in a relationship. I completely believe in the institution of monogamy. So, there's no chance that I can tolerate a love triangle.'
However, she also emphasised that while she is open to falling in love, she is equally comfortable with the idea of not having a man in her life, finding happiness in her own space. 'If I fall in love, then great. Even if it doesn't happen, I'm okay with it. When you're so happy in life, you feel complete on your own. But what I look for in a relationship is comfort. I want a relationship where I can just be myself with the person. Ease is really important,' she said.
The actor added that more than any other relationship, she believes in the power of sisterhood, mentioning, 'As women, we all have shared experiences. We all, in a larger bracket, fall towards the same end. And those shared experiences automatically create a lot of empathy for each other. There's this unsaid sisterhood where we know that we've each other's back through thick and thin.'
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Gurleen Baruah, existential psychotherapist at That Culture Thing, tells indianexpress.com, 'Possessiveness in relationships is a natural human experience — even the most secure individuals can feel it at times. It often stems from a fear of loss, a need for certainty, or past wounds that make us crave control. But relationships, like emotions, are fluid; trying to 'hold on tightly' can create anxiety, resentment, and a sense of suffocation for both partners. Instead of suppressing these feelings, acknowledging them with self-awareness helps.'
Managing possessiveness in a healthy way means recognising that emotions come and go, she adds, reflecting on where the insecurity is rooted, and trusting both yourself and your partner. Love thrives in spaciousness — when it's about trust and freedom rather than control, it becomes more fulfilling and secure.
Baruah states, 'Being comfortable with being single isn't inherently good or bad — it depends on how one engages with it and what meaning they attach to solitude. From an existential lens, solitude is a fundamental part of human existence. At its best, it allows deep self-awareness, emotional independence, and a strong sense of identity. It teaches resilience, helps people understand their needs beyond societal expectations, and fosters the ability to be alone without feeling lonely — an essential skill for any meaningful relationship.'
However, she stresses that excessive comfort in solitude can also make it harder to share life with someone else. 'Relationships require adaptability, compromise, and openness to different perspectives—things that prolonged independence might make challenging. Some may struggle to let others in or find it difficult to embrace the uncertainty that comes with intimacy.'