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3 Signs You're An ‘Overgiver' In Your Relationship, By A Psychologist
When you give too much of yourself to the ones you love, it takes a toll on you, and on the ... More relationship. Here are three signs you might be an overgiver and how to stop. Being an 'overgiver' means your default setting is to give more than what's healthy, sustainable or reciprocated. And it's not just your time or help; you likely offer others emotional energy, presence, concern, forgiveness and endless second chances, often at the cost of your own boundaries. A 2014 study highlights just how central effort is to romantic fulfillment. Researchers drew on data from 795 married couples. They discovered that each partner's perceptions of their own effort and that of their partner correlated directly with their marital quality, and even with their susceptibility to divorce. Surprisingly, one partner's effort wasn't merely self-contained; it directly affected the other's satisfaction levels. This proves something that overgivers often sense but don't always voice: effort works both ways. And when you're the sole person investing in the relationship, it not only drains you but also throws off the balance necessary for a healthy relationship. So, how do you know if you're stuck in this cycle? Here are three subtle yet potent ways you might be giving more than is healthy, and what to do about it. 1. You Feel Resentful In Relationships A 2022 study concluded that individuals tend to sacrifice for their romantic partner even in the absence of anticipated reciprocity. In a laboratory study involving 72 participants, researchers employed a cold pressor task, in which participants immersed their hand in nearly freezing water, and discovered that individuals tolerated much greater pain for their partner than for a friend or under other circumstances. This indicates sacrifice in love does not have to be transactional. Many individuals make sacrifices even if nothing is offered in return. But when these efforts are consistently one-sided, or when they go unnoticed, the emotional expense can cumulatively escalate and later transform love into bitterness. When individuals view themselves as the givers in a relationship, they tend to act out of love, hoping that their effort will be returned. They might think, 'If I love you enough, perhaps you will love me just as much.' This belief pushes them to go out of their way to ensure their partner's happiness. But in the process, they end up sacrificing too much. When that effort goes unreturned or unacknowledged, it creates resentment and makes the relationship emotionally unsustainable. No matter how much they may give, if it never feels mutual, they end up emotionally drained and yet keep showing up. So ask yourself, 'Am I overgiving out of love, or out of a need to be loved back?' If the sincere response leans towards the latter, stop. That type of giving usually stems from a fear of being abandoned, of not being good enough or needing to prove your love. One of the best ways to end that cycle is to slow down and monitor your patterns of giving. Every time you feel compelled to help, soothe or fix something, ask: Observe yourself for a week and see how you feel before and after giving. Pay attention to whether you feel appreciated, drained or forgotten. This sort of self-reflection grounds you in your own values and needs, rather than their reactions. While reciprocity is essential in relationships, it places undue pressure on both partners when either sacrifices too much. 2. You Feel Guilty When You Express Your Needs Overgivers tend to minimize their own needs. They say yes when they need to say no, and put other people's feelings ahead of their own. They may struggle to believe they deserve love, thinking their value is based on how helpful, cooperative or selfless they can be. Many overgivers believe love is something they must earn and not something they can receive simply by being themselves. A 2016 study published in the Journal of Personality found that 'conditional positive regard,' meaning giving love only when people meet certain expectations, is associated with lower relationship satisfaction. The researchers found that when love was conditional and not given freely, it undermined people's basic need for autonomy, leading to worse relationship outcomes. Participants felt that they were not truly accepted for who they are, and to be worthy of love, they believed they had to earn it. For overgivers, this often manifests as feeling guilty for having needs. It might feel like you always have to carry the weight of the relationship on your shoulders. You may feel like expressing your needs — such as asking for space or feeling tired and needing rest — will make you seem selfish or unworthy of love. So, before you suppress such a need, pause and ask, 'Does this actually hurt anyone or go against my values?' If not, acknowledge the guilt but act anyway, expressing what you really need. This is called taking 'opposite action.' Each time you do this, you prove to yourself that your needs are valid and that you can choose yourself, no matter how challenging it feels initially. 3. You Find Yourself Overcompensating A 2025 study published in Behavioral Sciences investigated the typical fears people have concerning romantic relationships, based on information from over 1,000 young adults. The most prevalent fear, both by gender and culture, was the fear of ineptness, or failing to meet a partner's expectations. This was followed by fears of losing one's autonomy and getting hurt or being controlled. These insights reveal a deeper reality behind a lot of relationship conflicts: the fear of not being enough, or becoming lost in the process of trying to be enough. For overgivers, this fear doesn't always manifest as withdrawal. Instead, more frequently, it boils down to overcompensation. Overcompensation happens when you take on more than your fair share, constantly trying harder, picking up slack and doing things for others, even when it's not asked of you. This pattern is often driven by deep fears of being 'not enough,' 'too much,' or a burden. These often trace back to the belief that your worth depends on what you do for others, rather than who you are. When you catch yourself overcompensating, take a long breath and ask yourself: It's necessary to check your motives regularly. The shift into true relationship security starts with self-awareness, an honest examination of your feelings and the decision to trade self-sacrifice for balance. Curious if you're stuck in an overgiving cycle? Take this science-backed test to explore how your relationship patterns may reflect deeper fears or unmet emotional needs: Codependency Scale
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