‘Modern Love' Podcast: My Brother Has Schizophrenia. This Is How I Love Him.
'The very budding doctor part of me is thinking, OK, so when somebody has something that's wrong, we start thinking about why. What is it? What could it be?'
Growing up, Jamie Shandro was interested in science, while her younger brother, Tim, liked art. When they were in their twenties, they both landed in Seattle: Jamie for medical school and Tim for art school. They were closer than ever. But as Jamie was finishing up a rotation in psychiatry, Tim started behaving strangely.
In this episode of Modern Love, Jamie tells the story of the frightening onset of her little brother's mental illness and the parts of his personality and creativity that remain. Plus, she talks about how helping Tim has shaped her, as a person, and a doctor.
This episode is adapted from Jamie Shandro's 2025 essay My Brother Has Schizophrenia. This Is How I Love Him.
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