'I had an unplanned C-section - my partner keeps saying I took the easy way out'
A first time mum has turned to the internet for advice after her boyfriend kept making snide comments about her emergency C-section, saying she "took the easy way out"
A first time mum has endured months of hurtful comments from her boyfriend, who repeatedly refers to her emergency caesarean section as 'the easy way out'.
In a heartfelt post on Reddit, the 25-year-old explained that her son's birth six months ago was unplanned and frightening. 'Things got complicated and it was scary, but we're both okay now,' she wrote. While the outcome brought relief, the emotional and physical recovery has been anything but easy.
Healing has been made even harder by the comments from her partner. 'Lately, my boyfriend has made multiple comments about how 'I didn't really give birth' or 'took the easy way out ',' she shared. Although he claims he's 'just joking", she says the words cut deeper with each repetition. 'The more he says it, the more it stings.'
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The situation escalated recently when he made the comment in front of his sister - who, to the new mum's relief, immediately shut him down. But even after she confronted him directly and explained how much it hurts, his response was dismissive. 'He just laughs and says I'm too sensitive,' she wrote, adding that he brushes it off with "'It's not a real insult, babe. I just mean you didn't have to push.''
But for her, there was nothing easy about it. 'It required surgery and I'm still recovering from it,' she emphasised. Despite opening up about how deeply the jokes affect her, her boyfriend continues to make them. 'He keeps making the same stupid comment,' she wrote. Eventually, she told him plainly that she wouldn't tolerate it anymore: 'I told him it really bothers me and if he can't stop, I'm not going to laugh it off anymore.'
His response left her feeling even more isolated. 'He got annoyed and said I'm making a big deal out of nothing. I'm feeling like I overreacted but I also feel so disrespected.'
Her post resonated with many in the Reddit community, who flooded the comments with messages of support and validation.
'C-sections are the literal opposite of an 'easy way out',' one commenter wrote. Another added 'You're not being over-emotional - there is nothing easy about lying awake during major abdominal surgery. The recovery, while caring for a newborn, is brutal.'
One user offered advice many echoed: 'If I were you, I'd have a serious conversation with him about respecting your feelings and appreciating what you went through to become a mother. If he can't be mature and take you seriously, you may want to reconsider how seriously you take him as a partner.'
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