Why a couple chose a vegan wedding despite not being vegan
Couple decided to change their wedding menu.
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Weddings are often a reflection of the couple's personality and values, but what happens when a guest takes control of the menu?
One Redditor shared her experience on the Wedding Shaming forum after attending a friend's wedding that unexpectedly went all-vegan.
The twist, however, was that neither the bride nor the groom was vegan.
'A good friend of mine from college was about to get married, which I was happy and excited for,' she wrote.
But things got strange a few weeks before the big day.
'She calls to tell me that the wedding would be vegan. She wanted me to not tell my partner because she was afraid he wouldn't go.'
She reassured the bride, noting that while her partner had the 'palate of a four-year-old,' he was still an adult and could handle one night of vegan food.
'Of course he would come,' she said.
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Curious about the sudden dietary change, she asked the bride why the wedding was vegan.
'Apparently one of her childhood friends told her she wouldn't come to the wedding unless the entire thing was vegan, and 'does she really want carcasses and death at her wedding?''
The bride had already committed to the decision by then, but her friend couldn't help but be concerned.
'I carefully told her that that's really manipulative, that it's her wedding and she should do what she wants,' she explained.
What made it even more surprising was that the groom, who didn't seem like someone who would cave easily, went along with it.
'I was actually surprised her fiancé went along with this since he didn't seem like a pushover, but I also knew she was super stressed about the wedding planning so I guess he was being supportive.'
In the end, the food was fine. 'The food was actually not bad,' she admitted, 'and I would have had 0 problem with this if either the bride or groom were vegan.'
'It pi***s me off to this day that her friend was so manipulative,' she wrote, even though the food didn't turn out to be that bad.
Reddit users were quick to step into the comments section to have their say about the situation eventhough many didn't see a problem with bridal couple's choice.
'I think non-vegans having a vegan wedding is fine as long as the food is good. The friend who insisted on it was being strange though,' said one user.
Another commented, 'I'm not sure what the issue is. The couple made their decision based on their own priorities and it didn't inconvenience anyone else.'
'Are you shaming the wedding or the friend? People can have vegan weddings without being vegan. I don't think that's shame worthy. The vegan friend is the one who deserves the shaming,' responded another.
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