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Her son's autism sparked a mission to help other parents feel less alone
Nurul Dhamirah Adam never wanted children. In fact, when she married her husband Muhammad Fazli in September 2017, she had even asked him if it was a dealbreaker. But he accepted her decision and the two started building a life together without the expectation of parenthood. Five months into their marriage, however, Dhamirah, 31, found herself staring at a positive pregnancy test. She was two months pregnant. It was not what she had planned, but her initial shock gave way to quiet excitement and she began to embrace the unexpected journey into motherhood. She gave birth to her son Adam Rizq in 2018. In 2020, when Adam was 18 months old, Dhamirah and Fazli had a second child, a daughter. During her confinement, Dhamirah noticed something different about Adam, and a creeping worry started to form. 'I saw other kids around Adam's age talking. And I thought, why are the other kids talking? He is already 18 months old and he is not even talking at all.' The quiet observation turned into late-night sessions on the internet, researching children's milestones and trawling through parenting forums. She discovered that, according to developmental guidelines, most toddlers should start speaking at least a few words by the age of 18 months. Dhamirah and Fazli then came across an online autism screening test and decided to try it with Adam. One of the questions was, 'Does your child respond to his name?'. Adam did not respond, Dhamirah said. 'It also asked if there was any joint attention and we noticed how he played. He did not even come to ask, Mummy, do you want to look at this or that. There was no eye contact and he was also unable to jump,' she added. Joint attention refers to a child's ability to coordinate his or her attention with others and share the same experience. Each checkbox they couldn't tick was another knot in her chest. Her mother's intuition kicked in: Adam might have autism. NAVIGATING THE WORLD OF AUTISM Dhamirah took Adam to the nearby polyclinic to clear her doubts in March 2020, and was referred to the KK Women's and Children's hospital (KKH) for a specialist evaluation. However, the wait for the appointment was five months. To the couple, every day felt like a missed opportunity for Adam to progress. During that time, they came across Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA) therapy, a form of early intervention that uses reinforcement strategies to help children with autism improve their communication and behavioural skills. Without hesitation, they enrolled Adam in a home-based ABA therapy session in June 2020, even though the cost was steep – fees can go up to S$1,200 a month for eight two-hour sessions. But to Dhamirah and Fazli, it was necessary. 'When he started therapy, my only question was, will he start talking, because that was my goal,' she said. 'That's when the therapist told me something very important that hit me: If he can't learn to listen to understand, he won't learn to talk.' Dhamirah came to understand that autism is not a disease to cure but a neurological difference to be supported through the right interventions. '[At first] I even changed his milk, thinking it would make a difference,' she told CNA Women. 'There's a lot of misconception where people might think when you send your child for therapy, you are changing your child. But it's not about changing, it's about improving their behaviour,' she added. Within the first month of therapy, Adam began making eye contact. The therapists also worked on his motor skills, teaching him how to hop, something that once seemed impossible. In August 2020, Adam had his specialist evaluation at KKH. There, doctors observed that he had signs of autism and asked the couple if they wanted to have him diagnosed. 'There are parents who diagnose their children as young as three years old but I didn't want to diagnose him just yet because I felt he was still young and I was still in denial,' said Dhamirah. Adam was referred to the Early Intervention Programme for Infants and Children (EIPIC), a government-funded programme that provides early intervention services for children under seven who have developmental delays and disabilities. But once again, the couple found themselves facing another long, agonising wait. They were told that securing a spot in the programme could take anywhere from six to 12 months. Adam eventually secured a place in Metta Preschool in March 2021, one of the centres offering EIPIC. He attended twice-weekly sessions there, in addition to his ABA therapy and mainstream kindergarten. Dhamirah explained that the speech and occupational therapists at Metta Preschool worked with Adam on areas such as his stimming – a form of self-regulatory behaviour that children with autism tend to do to help them regulate their emotions. 'For Adam his flapping and head shaking [his stimming] went away over time,' she added. Within two months, Adam said his first word, 'purple'. Soon after, Dhamirah noticed him calling her 'Mama' and initiating conversations. Dhamirah was then working at a bank, and Fazli was a police officer, and the mounting cost of Adam's therapy was taking a toll on them. To make ends meet, they started a home-based business, Ayam Warrior, selling halal homemade marinated chicken wings and pastes. ADAM'S DIAGNOSIS WHEN HE WAS FIVE Adam was assessed for autism in December 2023, when he was five years old – it was a moment Dhamirah had both anticipated and dreaded. 'We went for the diagnosis. I was in the room, but I was not allowed to say anything. I just had to watch,' she recalled. While Adam was able to complete tasks such as matching cards and building words, there were also areas where he struggled. 'For example, there was a ball that was rolling on the table, and it fell to the floor, and he did it over and over again,' Dhamirah said. The therapist flagged this as stimming behaviour. At the end of the session, Adam was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Level 2. 'The label didn't define him, but it helped me understand him better,' said Dhamirah. She explained that at Level 2, Adam showed strengths in areas like writing, spelling and remembering numbers. However, he needed guidance with his social skills, such as holding conversations, as well as everyday tasks such as gripping utensils and feeding himself. UNDERSTANDING HER SON – AND HERSELF For Dhamirah, the journey through autism wasn't just her son's – it became her own. She struggled with self-doubt, often breaking down in tears late at night, wondering if she was doing enough. Despite having a strong support system, she felt alone in her journey. 'I feel like if there was another parent who actually stepped out of their comfort zone to share what they go through with their child, it makes another parent feel less lonely in their journey,' said Dhamirah. She also noticed a lack of awareness and empathy from the public, with strangers giving judgemental stares when Adam had meltdowns, and having to repeatedly explain his condition to relatives who did not understand what autism is. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Dhamirah Adam (@adamautismawareness) 'People started to relate to my content and reached out to me,' said Dhamirah. 'There were so many people out there who were in the same boat or felt lonely in their journey.' Most of the parents were seeking comfort while others were looking for answers, from how to handle meltdowns to toilet training, and even advice on how to set a sleep routine for their children. She now has over 38,000 followers. Among the concerns, one recurring issue stood out: The lack of accessibility to, and the high cost of, therapy. 'Early intervention is important because if there is no therapy, they wouldn't be able to progress. These parents are missing out on years of early intervention, when that phase is so crucial for the children,' said Dhamirah. She said that even when therapy or a school was available, it was not enough, and parents had to be consistent by having the right tools to help their children at home. MY FIRST VISUAL CARDS: A TOOL TO HELP OTHER PARENTS In May this year, Dhamirah designed a set of visual communication cards for non-verbal children on the autism spectrum. My First Visual Cards offer parents a way to support their children at home, especially those who cannot afford therapy or whose child is falling behind due to the long waiting period for an intervention programme. She was first introduced to the concept during Adam's ABA sessions, where visual cards were a compulsory tool. "Visuals were a core process throughout Adam's journey and children with autism generally thrive on visuals,' she said. Dhamirah explained that children with autism struggle to express their needs, and this often leads to intense frustration, for both the child and cards help the child initiate conversations, which allow parents to better understand their needs. 'Maybe your child is having a meltdown and he doesn't want to wear shoes. It may be because he doesn't know where he is going. So you can actually do a visual board using the cards to break down what they should be doing and where they are going.' The ones she created are organised into practical segments including communication skills, learning, and behavioural support - a structure borne from her own experience with the original therapy cards she bought for Adam. Those had limitations, she said. For one, there was no logical breakdown or usage instructions. They were also costly. Dhamirah's My First Visual Cards comes in two formats: A digital printable set for S$24.90, or a physical version, for S$79.90. She knew that simply handing parents a tool was not enough. Thus, she went a step further: each set includes tips such as creating interactive games with the cards, follow-up emails and a full workflow that walks parents through how to use the cards. In her book, Dhamirah opens up about her experiences as a mother raising a child with autism. She also delves into personal aspects of her life – her previous miscarriage, the emotional toll of being a working mother and the identity struggles she faced along the way. 'I just wish for more mums to feel seen, understood and heard, that we are all on a journey together,' she said. She also hopes that through her book, other parents can navigate the grief that comes with raising a child with special needs. Dhamirah doesn't plan to stop here. She is now working on creating more tools to support parents, including resources on toilet training and emotional regulation. Today, she is inspired by Adam's remarkable progress. Once completely non-verbal, he began his primary education at a special education school in January. While he was assessed suitable for mainstream education, Dhamirah believes the focus on life skills in a special education school will empower Adam to thrive in the long run. 'I feel if you have life skills, you can be anything you want. I won't force him to go a certain route, he can decide that for himself. 'Some parents might think that autism is the end of the road. But that might be because you're still grieving and not in the acceptance phase. You've lost hope and given up believing in what your child is capable of achieving,' said Dhamirah. 'It's our mindset and perspective that needs to shift for us to learn how to adapt into their world and work towards their strengths. Every small milestone of theirs is our biggest win.'
CNA
a day ago
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Brain fog troubling you? Here's how to battle mental cloudiness, and spot signs it may be more serious
The term "brain fog" has skyrocketed in use in the last few years. Once a phrase that few people knew about, it is now widely used, with Google searches for it soaring during the pandemic and peaking in January 2022. The phrase garnered more attention recently as an increasing number of people suffer from the lingering effects of long COVID. These symptoms include memory and concentration difficulties. Still, the experience of mental fuzziness long predates the pandemic, and can be a sign of nothing more than stress or tiredness, or something considerably more serious, experts told CNA TODAY. Dr Jared Ng, medical director at psychiatric clinic Connections MindHealth, said brain fog is not a formal medical diagnosis but a phrase people use to describe a state of mental cloudiness. Symptoms include poor concentration, forgetfulness, slow thinking and feeling tired even after resting. Some of them say it feels like they are moving through the day in a haze or cannot quite get their thoughts in order, the psychiatrist added. "It is a common complaint I hear in my clinic, and while it can be caused by different things, it often reflects the brain's way of signalling that something is not right," said Dr Ng. When our brains are overloaded with too much information and we are physically tired, forgetting simple things is not unusual, said psychiatrist Adrian Wang. Dr Wang highlighted that it's usually momentary and shouldn't bother us for more than a day. But if brain fog persists and you notice yourself losing track of things over weeks or months, dementia, depression or chronic anxiety may be the underlying reasons. So, for those worried about memory loss, how can we tell when the haze in our brains is just everyday forgetfulness, and when it may stem from something more insidious like dementia and depressive disorders? MEMORY IS NOT MONOLITHIC The brain health experts told CNA TODAY that "brain fog" tends to come and go, often worsening during times of stress and fatigue, and then improving with rest and recovery. Becoming more forgetful, such as misplacing keys or forgetting names, is normal as we age. In contrast, Dr Ng said that dementia is more serious and progressive. The memory problems are consistent and gradually worsen, starting with short-term memory loss such as forgetting recent conversations or repeating questions. "You might also notice changes in language, judgment and behaviour. In dementia, forgetfulness affects daily functioning. Often it is family members, friends or colleagues who notice it first, rather than the person themselves," he said. He advised anyone who is concerned to speak to a doctor because the professional can conduct simple cognitive assessments and further investigations if needed. To understand memory on a more nuanced level, we also need to understand its different subsets. Memory is not just one thing – we have different systems for handling information that serve different purposes. Dr Ng explained that our short-term memory holds small amounts of information briefly, such as remembering a phone number for a few seconds to key it in, following a conversation or keeping track of tasks during a meeting. Working memory is a similar concept but it involves the processing of information when it is briefly being stored. So it not only aids in remembering things for 30 seconds but also allows you to use that information within that timeframe, like solving a mathematical problem. On the other hand, long-term memory stores our skills and life events. It is what lets us build and draw on knowledge and experience, Dr Ng said. This is what allows us to do our jobs, recognise people and carry out routines without having to relearn them each day. Dr Jacob Rajesh, senior consultant psychiatrist at Promises Healthcare, said long-term memory can be classified into explicit and implicit memories. Explicit memories involve general knowledge, facts and events that happened to the person. "The other kind of long-term memory is implicit, or unconscious memory. These unconscious memories may be procedural, involving learned motor skills – learning how to ride a bike or how to type using a keyboard, for example." Overall, memory is tightly linked to attention and mood, Dr Ng said. Conditions like depression and anxiety often disrupt short-term memory first because the brain is overloaded or exhausted. He added that in those cases it becomes harder to focus and new information does not get stored well in the first place. "When short or long-term memory is affected, daily life and work become harder. This often causes stress or low mood, which worsens brain fog, creating a vicious circle." BASIC LIFESTYLE HABITS MATTER Given how important our memory is to functioning in our day-to-day lives, what are some strategies we can adopt to keep our minds in tip-top shape? The brain health experts stressed that it's all about caring for the basics of sleep, diet and exercise. Dr Ng said that while these may sound like simple steps, they can make a big difference. He explained that the brain needs sleep to consolidate memories. That means it sorts, stores and strengthens new information we have taken in during the day. If sleep is poor, memory suffers. "This is why good sleep is not just rest. It is essential for clear thinking and learning," he emphasised. This is especially important since a 2024 survey published by market research firm YouGov revealed Singapore was found to be among the top sleep-deprived nations, with 54 per cent of Singaporeans sleeping less than seven hours a night. Dr Ng said: "Regular exercise helps increase blood flow to the brain. A balanced diet with sufficient nutrients supports healthy brain function, especially foods rich in omega-3, antioxidants and protein." Social connection and meaningful activities are just as important, he said, because loneliness, boredom and stress can all cloud the mind. On top of these, Dr Rajesh said that taking breaks as well as avoiding continuous use of gadgets such as phones and computers can help. "Stress management techniques such as muscle relaxation exercises, mindfulness and deep breathing are also useful," he added. TECHNIQUES TO KEEP THE MIND SHARP Beyond the obvious lifestyle changes, certain small habits can optimise the way we store and retrieve information in different contexts, the experts said. Dr Ng said using to-do lists, setting phone reminders and sticking to a routine reduces the mental effort needed to keep track of things. Focusing on one task at a time, rather than multitasking, can also help improve attention and reduce forgetfulness. Writing things down or repeating them aloud helps reinforce memory too. These strategies are especially useful when the brain is tired or distracted, according to Dr Ng. Another tip to make recall easier, Dr Rajesh said, is to create associations. When you learn something new, immediately relate it to something you already know in a process called "look, snap, connect". "It is about paying attention in the moment of learning something new and then using visualisation to solidify the memory. "'Look' refers to focusing on what you want to remember. 'Snap' means taking a mental snapshot related to the information. 'Connect' involves linking the image and the information," said Dr Rajesh. For example, when meeting someone, try connecting the name to something personal, like the individual's appearance, job, background, hobby or spouse, he explained. Dr Ng said this technique works especially well for names or new facts. If you meet someone named Raymond at the hawker centre, and he's known for making teh tarik, imagining him pulling tea behind the stall can help you remember both his name and where you meet him. Another technique is "chunking". This is helpful when you need to remember longer pieces of information by grouping them into smaller, meaningful parts, added Dr Ng. For instance, he said that if you are going to the supermarket and need to buy 10 items, it helps to group them by category such as fruits, household items, dairy and pantry items so you end up remembering four groups instead of 10 random items. Additionally, rhymes and stories are useful for remembering short lists, added Dr Ng. For instance, a rhyme like "eggs and kaya, kopi for Ah Ma, roti prata" makes it easier to recall your breakfast run while turning a list into a story helps it stick better, he said. Dr Rajesh said mnemonic devices are also helpful to make memorisation easier. It could be acrostic mnemonics, where the first letter of each word is combined to form a phrase or a sentence. How about brain training apps? Dr Ng said they can potentially improve attention or reaction time but research shows their effects are often limited to the game itself and do not necessarily carry over into better memory or daily function. In his view, real-world activities are often more meaningful and effective. He believes that learning a new skill, reading widely, having thoughtful conversations, or even playing music or doing puzzles can all stimulate the brain in more natural or social ways.
CNA
2 days ago
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SAF regular serviceman dies after being found unconscious at Hendon Camp swimming pool
SINGAPORE: A Singapore Armed Forces regular serviceman has died after he was found unconscious at Hendon Camp swimming pool, said the Ministry of Defence (Mindef) in a news release on Saturday (Aug 9). He was discovered at 7.15am on Saturday, and appeared to have been training on his own, added Mindef. "CPR and AED were administered immediately. The Singapore Police Force and Singapore Civil Defence Force were activated, and the serviceman was evacuated to Changi General Hospital via SCDF ambulance," the release read. "Resuscitation continued on route and upon arrival at Changi General Hospital. Despite resuscitation efforts, he was pronounced dead at 7.44am. "The Ministry of Defence and the SAF extend their deepest condolences to the family of the late serviceman." Mindef said it is providing assistance to the family.
