People Are Calling Out The "Rudest" Things You Should Never, EVER Do At A Wedding, And I Hope You're Not Guilty Of These

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We recently asked the BuzzFeed Community to tell us the "normal" things wedding guests do that are actually rude, and you miiight want to take notes. Here are the eye-opening results:
1."Have the courtesy to RSVP. If people send paper invitations, they come with a SELF-ADDRESSED STAMPED RSVP. There is literally no excuse for you not to send it back. Also: 1) Don't say yes and then not show up (outside of the rare occasion when something outside of your control happens to prevent you from attending)."
"AND 2) Don't say no or not respond at all and then show up expecting to have a seat and eat for free."
—mishybp73
2."Bringing your kid to a child-free wedding, thinking that somehow your circumstances or your child's excellent behavior will make you an exception to that rule. This isn't your day; it's the couple's. Your little angel may be your universe, but the actual universe will not stop if your child doesn't go to a wedding they aren't wanted at to begin with."
"It's hugely disrespectful to the couple to disregard their wishes, hugely disrespectful to the other adults who may have wanted a peaceful getaway from their kids, and makes you look entitled to be the only one there with a kid running around when everyone else listened and left theirs at home."
—misaamaneyagami
3."Getting plastered at the reception. Just because it's an open bar doesn't mean you have to drink your weight in vodka. Have some cocktails and enjoy yourself, but have some self-control."
—mishybp73
4."Getting a gift that isn't on the registry. There are some exceptions, but unless you know the couple INCREDIBLY well, it's best to stick with what they requested. I'm speaking from personal experience here. Many people who attended my wedding/showers know that I love to cook and bake, so I was overwhelmed with kitchen gadgets I didn't ask for...because I already had them!"
—stephaniep461d11578
5."I HATE when everybody takes out their phone as the bride walks down the aisle. First of all, what will you do with that picture? Post it on socials before the bride gets to do it? Your arm/phone is probably in somebody else's face while you're trying to get a pic, and the bride gets to look at a sea of cellphones on what should be the most special walk she ever takes. Just be in the moment for once, damn."
—Anonymous, 35, Indiana
"I think having your phones out to take videos and pictures during the wedding ceremony is rude. There are usually designated photographers, and the couple usually doesn't want random guests taking crappy photos of them during the most important part of their wedding. And it just seems like those people aren't being present for the actual vows because their heads are stuck in their phones — and blocking other people's view."
—Anonymous
6."Asking the couple when they're having a baby. And not asking if they're having a baby. So instead of, 'Do you think you guys want kids?' It's, 'So, when are you guys going to have kids?' It's slight, but it always annoyed me. My wife and I have been getting that question for years, especially on our wedding day. We're very happily kid-free."
—flyerboy6
7."Leaving before the couple. I know it's late, and you're tired, but you agreed to share their special day with them. No couple wants to walk out and see half the party is gone!"
—Anonymous, 25, Texas
8."Not adhering to the dress code. If it says cocktail attire, don't wear shorts or sweats. Women should NEVER wear white, unless it's specified that it's OK. If the invite says pastels, wear them. If you are expected to wear something out of your comfort zone, and you're uncomfortable, don't go."
—Anonymous, 56, California
9."Dragging people onto the dance floor. What can be seen as encouraging by some can feel like a lot of pressure that can be very uncomfortable. If you have an injury, upset stomach, or aren't in the headspace to dance, having five people trying to cajole you onto the floor at the same time can seem intimidating. Some folks aren't interested in dancing, and making them get on the floor when they don't want to or can't is really rude. Let them enjoy watching the dancing from their seat!"
—Anonymous, 30, Washington
10."Trust me, nobody wants to hear your seven-minute speech about how drunk the groom got in college, or how you and the bride cried over ice cream after breakups in the past. The speech should be 45 seconds to a minute tops. Honestly, speeches are drawn out and almost always about the speech giver rather than toasting the couple."
"Also, you most definitely don't need to bring your emotional support dog to a wedding."
—Anonymous, 38
11."Sneaking their own alcohol into the venue. Not cool."
—Anonymous
12."Proposing at a wedding is the most selfish and tacky thing you can do. You are not only taking away the focus from the couple getting married, but you are using all the hard work they put into making their day special to make your own moment special. There are 364 other days of the year. Put in a little effort, and make one of those days special for you instead of stealing someone else's."
—catsarebetterthanpeople21
"It's also not okay to ask permission to do it. The bride and groom have enough going on without worrying about hurting feelings for saying no or saying it's okay when they really think it isn't."
—mishybp73
13."Wedding planner here. Moving floral/decor!!! Putting aside the creative aspect that we spend working on with clients, you risk breaking something. A guest won't care, but that expense will be passed onto the couple, not to mention the potential mess that could also be caused."
—Anonymous, 35, Washington, D.C.
14."Showing up several days early and expecting pre-wedding events specifically for them. My husband and I had out-of-town guests come five days before the actual wedding (they were notified of the dates for the wedding multiple times) who were upset to find out that we didn't have brunches and dinners and other events set up for them."
"I understand that sometimes travel can be tricky, but if you are planning to arrive early, understand that the burden is on you to entertain yourself before official wedding activities."
—Anonymous, 32, USA
15."[Making entitled requests.] Our church is very large, and we also have an even larger room for parties, so we rent the sanctuary and party room frequently for weddings. My daughter and I supervise during these rental events. We go out of our way to accommodate almost anything the couple and their families want. The guests are another problem altogether! During these rental events, we have had guests make strange requests."
"For example: 'Where is the church nursery so I can drop off my children?' Answer: 'Ma'am, the nursery has not been rented for this event.'
'Where are the rest of the bathrooms?' Answer: 'We have ten stalls altogether in the building. The line should shorten as we get closer to the ceremony.'
'We will be requiring a wheelchair for Uncle Bob.' Answer: 'I'm sorry, we don't have a wheelchair on the premises.' (We do have one now.).
'Where is the bar?' Answer: 'This is a church, sir, even the communion wine is Welch's grape juice.'
And finally, 'Where can I smoke my cigar?' Answer: 'Outside.'"
—Anonymous, Indiana
16."When pregnant guests make a huge fuss about the champagne toast. Please just take the glass, raise it high, toast the happy couple, get the group photo, and THEN PLACE IT on a table or gift it to your partner. You audibly fussing, fighting, resisting, opposing, or dramatically waving off the waitstaff while rubbing your belly in protest, is a whole lot of rude, selfish energy."
"You likely just had YOUR stagette, YOUR wedding, YOUR baby shower. This moment isn't about you, babe. Just take the damn glass!!!"
—Anonymous, 42, Canada
And finally...
17."Being late for any reason that isn't related to the function of the wedding. A handful of people always walk in so close to when the bride walks in. People usually expect to see her, but instead, some late people walk in, all bashful. If you're late, just skip the ceremony and catch the reception. Save yourself the awkward entrance and eye rolls."
—Anonymous
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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