Radio star Ben Fordham airs a WILD theory about what Wayne Carey was doing just before viral 'toilet tryst' video of him in a trendy Melbourne wine bar

Daily Mail​

23-07-2025

Radio presenter Ben Fordham has aired a wild theory about Wayne Carey's now viral alleged 'toilet tryst' video, claiming he was trying to save a woman's life.
The North Melbourne great found himself at the centre of a media storm last week after a video went viral online, allegedly appearing to show a woman leaving a bathroom at a trendy Melbourne bar, with another man following her out of the bathroom around 20 seconds later.
A voice behind the camera can be heard saying: 'She looks embarrassed.' Another adds: 'What's he doing in there?'
Carey, 54, has found himself at the centre of a media storm over the viral video, having confessed he was the man in the clip, before blasting the actions of the two women who appear to have taken the video.
He branded it 's*** shaming' and 'cyberbullying', while both parties have insisted that there was no 'tryst' in the toilets. They have both contacted the police and are seeking legal advice on the matter.
However, 2GB presenter Fordham issued a hypothesis, claiming that the Melbourne woman in the video, who has since been identified as Kate Aston, had been choking on some food, with Carey entering the bathroom to help her.
The woman at the centre of a viral video with AFL star Wayne Carey has hit out at those who filmed her and revealed that she's suffered 'immense distress'. Kate Aston, 38, (pictured) a Melbourne marketing and communications executive, has described the dissemination of the clip as 'a deliberate act of bullying'
'He could have been down there in the latrines and he could have heard someone in a state of distress... she might have been choking on a prawn or an oyster or some piece of food,' Fordham told ex-Geelong player Sam Newman on his podcast You Cannot Be Serious.
'The Duck [Carey] might have rushed in there and given her the Heimlich manoeuvre.
'And he might have been pumping and thrusting to remove the prawn or the obstruction or whatever it might have been. He might have saved a life.
'That's the way I view the Duck. I view him as the good guy, not the bad guy.'
Carey, who had been enjoying an evening out at the Toorak Cellars bar in Armadale, in Melbourne's south east, fumed about the viral video on the You Cannot Be Serious podcast last week, claiming: ''I've gone through disbelief, sadness, I've gone through anger.
'This woman has been thrown into this just because I could kick a footy.'
Newman had asked Carey prior to recording the podcast whether there was truth to the allegations that were being levelled against him.
'I said: 'I'd like to ask you, did you know the girl before you went down to the latrines, and were you in the same, not the same cubicle, were you in the same enclosure and speak to her there?' Newman said.
'He said: 'No.' I said: 'Good, well, that's good'.
'She was there, she walked out. He said: 'When I walked out, I was on the phone, I was on the phone to my partner, Jess'.
'And I said: 'Good.' It looked as though. He said there was absolutely nothing in it. The girl has said there was nothing in it, so he's taking umbrage at being accused of being a home breaker.'
Carey took a brief trip to Sydney last week, jetting to New South Wales on Thursday before flying back on Saturday. He cut a relaxed and unbothered figure as he was pictured walking through the airport.
Fordham, meanwhile, replied to Newman's revelation, revealing he sympathised with Carey's frustrations over the matter.
'If that's the case, I can understand why he's filthy, but I just couldn't, I was waiting for you to ask him the question on the podcast, and I don't know whether you just didn't want to become roadkill because he was on a bit of a mission at the time... but that's what I wanted to know.
'Only because he spoke about it for so long and he was going into so much detail. I just couldn't help but wonder, did you happen to step into the same cubicle or not? Obviously, he didn't. Two people can walk out of the [toilet] in the same direction a few minutes apart, having spent no time together at that location.
Fordham added: 'It's a gross invasion of someone's privacy and it affects a lot of people.'
The AFL great (pictured with Jessica Paulke) revealed he has contacted police about the footag and is now going to 'let the law take care of it'
Carey, meanwhile, hit out at the two people who had filmed him leaving the toilets.
He added that he knew who the people were but was reluctant to reveal their names, adding that he would be leaving the matter to his lawyers and the police.
'You've got two vile, disturbing, probably p**sed women who want to do this to another woman,' Carey said last week on the podcast.
'That's all they were doing, they were s**t-shaming another woman.
'If two men had done that, they would be raked over hot coals; it would be the biggest story going around.'
Carey added that his partner, Jessica Paulke had spoken to the woman in the video to offer her support to Aston over the matter.
'But because it's two women doing it to another woman … you don't know what's going on, this other woman has had all sorts of stuff going on in her life, I've since found out.
'You talk about vile and disgusting, what they've done and who they have affected by a few sh**s and giggles drinking their chardonnay, sitting up there, doing whatever.
Aston posted a lengthy statement to Instagram Stories on Thursday, revealing that she had initially chosen to remain silent to protect her professional reputation and her mental health, but has come forward to hold those who released the video to account
'Once again, I'm not going to name them because that would be as pathetic as what they are. I'll let the law take care of it.'
The woman who was seen leaving the bathroom before Carey has also blasted the 'malicious actions' of the two women who took the video clip.
Kate Aston, 38, is a marketing and communications executive from Melbourne. She described the clip as 'a deliberate act of bullying' in a lengthy statement on Instagram. She revealed that she had chosen to stay silent to protect her reputation and mental health. But over the weekend, she spoke out to hold those who had published the video to account.
'Overnight, from footage of me simply exiting a toilet at a bar, I've had my life turned upside down,' she wrote.
'What has happened to me could happen to anyone, and no one should have to go through what I have been put through – the damage, the speculation, the impact on my livelihood, all from the malicious actions of a small few.'
'At a time when I am navigating my next career move and visibility matters, the personal and professional toll has been immense,' she said.
'Who would want to employ me, date me, be associated with me? What's left now that this has all happened to me?'
Carey, who made 244 appearances for North Melbourne between 1989 and 2001 before moving to play for Adelaide for a season, added that he would be following through 'to the tenth degree' to ensure that a penalty is handed down.
Carey, meanwhile, has explained that he will be seeking legal advice on the matter
'I could sit there and film people going in and out of toilets. Who does she think she is, Morgan Freeman narrating a wild life (documentary)? (She said) "I heard people grunting like pigs". Completely made-up crap.
'These two women think it's OK to film her and slut shame her online and post it online. What sort of penalty should these two women get?
'We are speaking and we will follow this through to the tenth degree. I'm blown away that women in their 40s could think this was a good idea. How would they explain this to their children?
'This is women being cruel to another woman. They have shamed another woman and it is so wrong. It happens far too often and it doesn't get called out. Men do it and it gets called out as it should. Let's see where this goes to from here.'