The viral ‘RushTok' trend blew up. Sororities are banning prospects from posting

Independent

6 hours ago

Kylan Darnell, a prominent figure in the viral TikTok phenomenon known as 'RushTok', is stepping back from documenting her sorority life online, citing mental health concerns. The 21-year-old, who became an overnight celebrity four years ago by meticulously chronicling the glitzy, ritualistic sorority recruitment process, had become the embodiment of the trend.
'RushTok' sees university students across the US meticulously documenting their efforts to secure a coveted spot in a sorority during the colourful and often enigmatic 'rush week'. However, Darnell, a member of the Zeta Tau Alpha sorority at the University of Alabama, revealed that the overwhelmingly negative reactions to her content had begun to significantly impact her mental well-being.
'This year it was just like a whole different level of hate," Darnell said.
Citing a need to protect prospects from harassment, many sororities have made similar moves, issuing a de facto ban against talking to the press or posting on social media during rush week at Alabama, where almost 13,000 students participate in the nation's largest on-campus Greek life. A centuries-old tradition
Across the country, rush is typically a 10-day event where 'prospective new members' try out sororities through rounds of activities prescribing a strict slate of outfits and etiquette. In the lead-up, girls often submit "social resumes" and letters of recommendation from sorority alums.
Participation often requires an eye-opening price tag.
Sorority recruits line the sidewalk of sorority row at the University of Alabama, Thursday, Aug. 14, 2025, in Tuscaloosa, Ala. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) of Alabama RushTok (Copyright 2025 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.)
After spending sometimes tens of thousands of dollars on outfits, makeup and plane tickets, each of this week's 2,600 recruits paid $550 to participate. It's non-refundable if they don't get picked. If accepted, they'll pay an average $8,400 a semester to live in the sorority house, or $4,100 if they live elsewhere, according to the Alabama Panhellenic Association.
The pressure can be so intense that an industry of consultants now helps girls navigate the often mysterious criteria for landing a desired sorority. Some charge up to $10,000 for months of services that can begin in high school.
Throughout rush, many events are invite-only. At any point, girls can get a dreaded call informing them they've been dropped — that a sorority is no longer interested in letting them join. Matches are finally made on bid day as prospects rank top choices and sororities make offers.
Words of affirmation are written on a mirror during rush week at the University of Alabama, Thursday, Aug. 14, 2025, in Tuscaloosa, Ala. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Copyright 2025 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.)
Morgan Cadenhead, now 20, gained such an audience on RushTok despite being dropped that she covered most of her tuition with income from social media. Then came the social cost as she was slammed online for criticizing Greek life. Now the marketing major — featured on Lifetime's 'Sorority Mom's Guide to Rush!' — said she's looking for offline work. A zealous TikTok following
A fixation with rush was renewed when sororities resumed in-person recruiting after the pandemic.
Social media became flooded with 'outfit of the day' and 'get ready with me' videos showing sorority members and recruits in well-lit rooms, sometimes flaunting exorbitantly priced designer wear or pieces purchased on Amazon, always precisely curated.
Alabama's Greek life got attention before, when its traditionally white sororities racially integrated, accepting their first Black members in 2013. Targeted by protests following allegations of racial discrimination, the university agreed with the Justice Department in 2016 to encourage diversity. Today, Black students outside of traditionally Black sororities and fraternities represent 2% of the total Greek membership, the university website says.
Meanwhile, online attention to rush has led to books, a polarizing documentary and the reality television series, widening the appeal of sororities in the South in particular, according to Lorie Stefaneli, a New York City-based consultant who flies to Tuscaloosa each year for rush.
Stefaneli coaches girls from around the country, and about a third of her clients enroll at Alabama. She says many are drawn by the vibrant depictions of sisterhood, showing female friendships that can ensure girls feel seen and supported.
Lorie Stefaneli, a New York City based consultant who flies to Tuscaloosa each year for sorority rush, poses for a photo near the University of Alabama, Thursday, Aug. 14, 2025, in Tuscaloosa, Ala. (AP Photo/Brynn Anderson) (Copyright 2025 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.)
'That's the reason why a lot of them want to go to Alabama, is because they see it on TikTok,' Stefaneli said. Recruits told to stop posting — or else
If they gain enough followers to become social influencers, RushTok participants can earn ad revenue and brand deals. Darnell's posts brought her financial independence, more than covering the $58,000 it costs her annually to attend Alabama from out-of-state.
Rush can be fun and help girls build confidence, but it's also an 'emotional rollercoaster,' especially for girls who feel they need to reveal themselves to a massive audience, Stefaneli said. She answers phone calls at all hours of the night during rush week.
'I'm literally a therapist, I'm talking these girls down from a ledge,' she said.
Numerous incoming freshmen told The Associated Press this week that they were expressly prohibited from speaking with the media or even posting about rush at Alabama. Darnell said the most selective 'Old Row' houses will automatically drop prospects who do.
'Now a lot of girls just come to the university to be influencers,' she said. 'It kind of gets in the way of sisterhood.'
Some incoming freshmen — including Darnell's 19-year-old sister Izzy, with a vast social media following of her own — have chosen to post anyway, satisfying a demand that can reach millions of views within days.
Izzy Darnell — who wouldn't share her choices for sorority ahead of Saturday's bid day — said her older sister's acumen has equipped her to navigate criticism and potentially predatory business deals. But she worries about how other girls might handle the fame and money.
'I just fear what some girls will do because they think they have to,' Izzy Darnell said.