'Husband fell down stairs - now my hair is falling out and I can't afford food'
A mum has revealed the emotional and financial toll of caring for her husband after he suffered a 'terrifying' brain injury, she's calling on the government to offer more support for carers
A mum has revealed the heartbreaking toll of her husband's 'terrifying brain injury as she calls for the government to offer more support for carers.
Children's services worker Sherene Snowdon, 42, lives in Gloucestershire with husband Lee, 46, a former gas engineer and plumber; son Jake, 19 ,and daughter Paige, seven. She cares for Lee, who sustained a brain injury five years ago, and for Paige, who has SEN.
She says: "I became a carer overnight on 16 March 2020, when Lee sustained a brain injury after falling down some stairs. Seeing Lee on life support was absolutely terrifying. I was told to say my goodbyes. I was told he wouldn't be able to walk or talk, but Lee has proved everyone wrong. Lee had been home for just three weeks when he had a stroke.
"It was very stressful. My hair was falling out, I was surviving on two hours' sleep, juggling a teething baby, a young son and my husband's needs. I was told nurses would come to our home, but we never saw them. I became the sole provider for my family. Things are very tough financially. I had to sell our two cars.
"There were times when I didn't eat because I needed to prioritise food for my husband and kids. I'd look for the cheapest options – such as pot noodles that cost £1. I work full time because I have no choice, so don't get carers' allowance. And I only see my friends once a year. Caring has had a huge impact on my mental and physical health. Carers need realistic, practical support and help."
Unpaid carers are 50% more likely to live in poverty than the rest of the population, according to shocking new figures.
The charity Carers UK says unpaid carers save the government a staggering £184 billion a year, yet 1.2 million are in poverty - 400,000 of them in deep poverty - while Carers' Allowance is the lowest benefit of its kind at £83.30 a week.
With approximately 12,000 people in the UK becoming unpaid carers every day, 43% of current or former unpaid carers have either developed a mental or physical health problem, or seen an existing condition worsen.
And 40% of our estimated 24.9 million current unpaid carers have cancelled their own medical appointment, because of their caring roles.
Speaking at the start of National Carers' Week, which runs until June 15, Helen Walker, Chief Executive at Carers UK, tells The Mirror: "Many carers feel unrecognised and at a disadvantage – facing a greater risk of poverty, social isolation, poor mental and physical health."
Highlighting the difficulties of working, while caring and urging the government to provide greater recognition and financial assistance for carers, she continues: 'An estimated 600 people a day give up work to care."
Andy McGowan, Policy and Practice Manager for Young Carers at the charity Carers Trust, says young carers, caring for 35 hours a week or more, are 86% less likely to obtain a degree and 46% less likely to enter employment than their peers.
He says: "It's so vital to ensure they get academic, pastoral and financial support at university, so caring is not a barrier to them achieving their huge potential".
Carers are being affected up and down the country by the lack of financial assistance. Kate Crockford , 40, lives in Swanley, Kent, with husband George, 39, an audit manager, and their children Xander, 13, and Rowan, 10, who has the genetic condition tublinopathy.
The condition causes profound learning disabilities and complex needs including epilepsy, cerebral palsy, autism and global development delay. A wheelchair user, he is visually impaired and has challenging behaviour, while Xander is deaf and has autism, ADHD and anxiety.
Kate says: "The physical issues George and I have experienced from caring include sciatica, pulled muscles, twisted ankles, black eyes and broken glasses - from being kicked in the face - bites, kicks, pinches, slaps.
"In 2017, due to overwhelming caring responsibilities, I ignored having the flu, which then was compounded by fungal pneumonia. By the time I got to A&E, I was barely breathing and was in intensive care by that night, very close to death.
"Then, in 2021, due to a biological heart quirk, bacteria from a bite Rowan gave me travelled to my brain and I developed a brain abscess. In A&E they thought I had a brain tumour and I was rushed to London for an emergency craniotomy.
"It resulted in a stroke, which paralysed me down the left side entirely. I was in hospital for seven weeks. I had to learn to walk again. My husband was left with the boys for the whole summer.
"I now make a proper effort to keep my appointments. But my smear test is three years overdue and I haven't been to the hairdresser since 2019! Caring for Rowan and Xander is a full-time role. The Government needs to stop targeting the vulnerable. Carers' allowance is an insult."
Only child Rebecca Green, 23, from Liverpool, is a young carer for her mum Anne, 55, who has rheumatoid arthritis. Rebecca was in her second year at university when, in March 2023, Anne suddenly developed mobility problems. As her dad Phil died suddenly in 2017, she became Anne's sole carer. Rebecca says: 'It's almost the parent-child relationship in reverse.
"Getting Mum a diagnosis was a lengthy process. It took a year to get medication, which she had an adverse reaction to. I was back and forth between university and Mum, constantly worried.
'I deferred two essays and the stress impacted my third year too. I didn't graduate on time. It's still up in the air if I'll graduate this year.
'I think the Government needs to recognise the different forms caring can take and include more support and validation. As a carer, the freedom to choose gets taken away. I worry, will I have a job I want? Will I be able to move out and have kids? I don't know.'
Young carers needing support should visit www.carers.org to find support in your area.
Full-time carer Nikki Knight, 39, lives in the Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire, with husband Ollie, 41 a teacher, and their children Sophie, 12, and Toby, 7, who has ADHD and was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukaemia in 2022. He is currently recovering from a bone marrow transplant in January.
Former social worker Nikki, who quit work in September 2023 to care for him, says: 'I've been coming to terms with Toby's diagnosis while navigating all the appointments, paperwork and healthcare plans.
'I live in fight or flight mode. From the moment I get up to the moment I go to sleep I'm on the go. I often fall asleep on the sofa - too tired to get to bed.
'I've delayed my follow up clinic and physio appointments after a fall, to fit in around his needs. My dental and eye check ups are overdue. Toby is clinically vulnerable. Only my husband and I are trained in central line care for him. We get Disability Living Allowance, but going from a two-income family to just one was a shock.'
Author of 5 minute gratitude journal for oncology parents, Nikki blogs about her experiences https://www.unicornsdinosaursandme.com/
Author and blogger Sarah Ziegel, 64, lives in Richmond, south west London, with husband Jonathan, 62, a government lawyer, and their four autistic children – twins Benjamin and Thomas, 26; Hector, 23 and Marcus, 16.
Since she began caring, she has had a breakdown and developed adrenal fatigue, causing low energy, insomnia and digestive problems. As a carer, you are just surviving to care for your loved ones. she said "Adrenal fatigue results from years of living on adrenaline."
'I asked the GP for counselling but only got one session." she said "It isn't possible for me to work. The real issue for parent carers is that there is no one to take over and carers' allowance is so low it is an insult."
'My sons all live at home, but you can't claim housing or living costs for a child over 18. New Zealand pays family carers - why can't the UK?'
*Sarah is author of Marching to a Different Beat about her family's autism journey.
Self-employed ADHD coach Ana Bonasera, 33, from Oxford, is married to Jordan Hands, 31, and has five children. Four have SEN, or are awaiting diagnosis. Nathaniel, 12, is awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment; twins Jude and Luca, 11, have autism and learning disabilities; Spencer, 7, is awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment Daughter Mila, two, does not have special needs.
Ana says: 'Being a parent-carer has definitely impacted my mental and physical health. Once, I was so overwhelmed I ran out in the street in my nightdress with no shoes on, desperately calling my dad.
'It's difficult asking for help – it took me seven attempts to call my doctor's surgery, but they couldn't help if I didn't want medication. Soon afterwards, I had a breakdown. It was the worst state I'd ever been in.
'I realisedI needed to help myself before I could help my kids. I had some hypnotherapy, some coaching and did lots of research to work out what triggers me. It's very hard juggling work with caring responsibilities.
I can't work over the summer holidays, because of lack of provision for SEN children. Having a social life is almost impossible. My husband and I hardly ever go out. Now an ADHD coach, I want to make sure other carers don't feel unworthy of help.'
During carers week Ana is running a free annual event http://parentcarerconnect.com/rise dedicated to parent carers' wellbeing.
Former mental health trainer Emma Amoscato, 43, from Bedfordshire, who has a daughter Amalia, 9, and son James, 12, was a carer for her husband Carl, who was diagnosed with kidney cancer in 2017 and died in September. She now cares for James, who has AuDHD.
Emma says: ''Being a carer can be all consuming. My son is autistic. I home educate, as the school couldn't meet his needs. This impacts my ability to work. I feel the ongoing stress of caring in my muscles and gut. It has affected my periods and my sleep.
'Carl had cancer for seven years. For the last 18 months, it was too hard for me to work. Carers' allowance is minimal. The Government needs to respect carers and see us as contributing members of society.'
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A mum has revealed the emotional and financial toll of caring for her husband after he suffered a 'terrifying' brain injury, she's calling on the government to offer more support for carers A mum has revealed the heartbreaking toll of her husband's 'terrifying brain injury as she calls for the government to offer more support for carers. Children's services worker Sherene Snowdon, 42, lives in Gloucestershire with husband Lee, 46, a former gas engineer and plumber; son Jake, 19 ,and daughter Paige, seven. She cares for Lee, who sustained a brain injury five years ago, and for Paige, who has SEN. She says: "I became a carer overnight on 16 March 2020, when Lee sustained a brain injury after falling down some stairs. Seeing Lee on life support was absolutely terrifying. I was told to say my goodbyes. I was told he wouldn't be able to walk or talk, but Lee has proved everyone wrong. Lee had been home for just three weeks when he had a stroke. "It was very stressful. My hair was falling out, I was surviving on two hours' sleep, juggling a teething baby, a young son and my husband's needs. I was told nurses would come to our home, but we never saw them. I became the sole provider for my family. Things are very tough financially. I had to sell our two cars. "There were times when I didn't eat because I needed to prioritise food for my husband and kids. I'd look for the cheapest options – such as pot noodles that cost £1. I work full time because I have no choice, so don't get carers' allowance. And I only see my friends once a year. Caring has had a huge impact on my mental and physical health. Carers need realistic, practical support and help." Unpaid carers are 50% more likely to live in poverty than the rest of the population, according to shocking new figures. The charity Carers UK says unpaid carers save the government a staggering £184 billion a year, yet 1.2 million are in poverty - 400,000 of them in deep poverty - while Carers' Allowance is the lowest benefit of its kind at £83.30 a week. With approximately 12,000 people in the UK becoming unpaid carers every day, 43% of current or former unpaid carers have either developed a mental or physical health problem, or seen an existing condition worsen. And 40% of our estimated 24.9 million current unpaid carers have cancelled their own medical appointment, because of their caring roles. Speaking at the start of National Carers' Week, which runs until June 15, Helen Walker, Chief Executive at Carers UK, tells The Mirror: "Many carers feel unrecognised and at a disadvantage – facing a greater risk of poverty, social isolation, poor mental and physical health." Highlighting the difficulties of working, while caring and urging the government to provide greater recognition and financial assistance for carers, she continues: 'An estimated 600 people a day give up work to care." Andy McGowan, Policy and Practice Manager for Young Carers at the charity Carers Trust, says young carers, caring for 35 hours a week or more, are 86% less likely to obtain a degree and 46% less likely to enter employment than their peers. He says: "It's so vital to ensure they get academic, pastoral and financial support at university, so caring is not a barrier to them achieving their huge potential". Carers are being affected up and down the country by the lack of financial assistance. Kate Crockford , 40, lives in Swanley, Kent, with husband George, 39, an audit manager, and their children Xander, 13, and Rowan, 10, who has the genetic condition tublinopathy. The condition causes profound learning disabilities and complex needs including epilepsy, cerebral palsy, autism and global development delay. A wheelchair user, he is visually impaired and has challenging behaviour, while Xander is deaf and has autism, ADHD and anxiety. Kate says: "The physical issues George and I have experienced from caring include sciatica, pulled muscles, twisted ankles, black eyes and broken glasses - from being kicked in the face - bites, kicks, pinches, slaps. "In 2017, due to overwhelming caring responsibilities, I ignored having the flu, which then was compounded by fungal pneumonia. By the time I got to A&E, I was barely breathing and was in intensive care by that night, very close to death. "Then, in 2021, due to a biological heart quirk, bacteria from a bite Rowan gave me travelled to my brain and I developed a brain abscess. In A&E they thought I had a brain tumour and I was rushed to London for an emergency craniotomy. "It resulted in a stroke, which paralysed me down the left side entirely. I was in hospital for seven weeks. I had to learn to walk again. My husband was left with the boys for the whole summer. "I now make a proper effort to keep my appointments. But my smear test is three years overdue and I haven't been to the hairdresser since 2019! Caring for Rowan and Xander is a full-time role. The Government needs to stop targeting the vulnerable. Carers' allowance is an insult." Only child Rebecca Green, 23, from Liverpool, is a young carer for her mum Anne, 55, who has rheumatoid arthritis. Rebecca was in her second year at university when, in March 2023, Anne suddenly developed mobility problems. As her dad Phil died suddenly in 2017, she became Anne's sole carer. Rebecca says: 'It's almost the parent-child relationship in reverse. "Getting Mum a diagnosis was a lengthy process. It took a year to get medication, which she had an adverse reaction to. I was back and forth between university and Mum, constantly worried. 'I deferred two essays and the stress impacted my third year too. I didn't graduate on time. It's still up in the air if I'll graduate this year. 'I think the Government needs to recognise the different forms caring can take and include more support and validation. As a carer, the freedom to choose gets taken away. I worry, will I have a job I want? Will I be able to move out and have kids? I don't know.' Young carers needing support should visit to find support in your area. Full-time carer Nikki Knight, 39, lives in the Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire, with husband Ollie, 41 a teacher, and their children Sophie, 12, and Toby, 7, who has ADHD and was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukaemia in 2022. He is currently recovering from a bone marrow transplant in January. Former social worker Nikki, who quit work in September 2023 to care for him, says: 'I've been coming to terms with Toby's diagnosis while navigating all the appointments, paperwork and healthcare plans. 'I live in fight or flight mode. From the moment I get up to the moment I go to sleep I'm on the go. I often fall asleep on the sofa - too tired to get to bed. 'I've delayed my follow up clinic and physio appointments after a fall, to fit in around his needs. My dental and eye check ups are overdue. Toby is clinically vulnerable. Only my husband and I are trained in central line care for him. We get Disability Living Allowance, but going from a two-income family to just one was a shock.' Author of 5 minute gratitude journal for oncology parents, Nikki blogs about her experiences Author and blogger Sarah Ziegel, 64, lives in Richmond, south west London, with husband Jonathan, 62, a government lawyer, and their four autistic children – twins Benjamin and Thomas, 26; Hector, 23 and Marcus, 16. Since she began caring, she has had a breakdown and developed adrenal fatigue, causing low energy, insomnia and digestive problems. As a carer, you are just surviving to care for your loved ones. she said "Adrenal fatigue results from years of living on adrenaline." 'I asked the GP for counselling but only got one session." she said "It isn't possible for me to work. The real issue for parent carers is that there is no one to take over and carers' allowance is so low it is an insult." 'My sons all live at home, but you can't claim housing or living costs for a child over 18. New Zealand pays family carers - why can't the UK?' *Sarah is author of Marching to a Different Beat about her family's autism journey. Self-employed ADHD coach Ana Bonasera, 33, from Oxford, is married to Jordan Hands, 31, and has five children. Four have SEN, or are awaiting diagnosis. Nathaniel, 12, is awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment; twins Jude and Luca, 11, have autism and learning disabilities; Spencer, 7, is awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment Daughter Mila, two, does not have special needs. Ana says: 'Being a parent-carer has definitely impacted my mental and physical health. Once, I was so overwhelmed I ran out in the street in my nightdress with no shoes on, desperately calling my dad. 'It's difficult asking for help – it took me seven attempts to call my doctor's surgery, but they couldn't help if I didn't want medication. Soon afterwards, I had a breakdown. It was the worst state I'd ever been in. 'I realisedI needed to help myself before I could help my kids. I had some hypnotherapy, some coaching and did lots of research to work out what triggers me. It's very hard juggling work with caring responsibilities. I can't work over the summer holidays, because of lack of provision for SEN children. Having a social life is almost impossible. My husband and I hardly ever go out. Now an ADHD coach, I want to make sure other carers don't feel unworthy of help.' During carers week Ana is running a free annual event dedicated to parent carers' wellbeing. Former mental health trainer Emma Amoscato, 43, from Bedfordshire, who has a daughter Amalia, 9, and son James, 12, was a carer for her husband Carl, who was diagnosed with kidney cancer in 2017 and died in September. She now cares for James, who has AuDHD. Emma says: ''Being a carer can be all consuming. My son is autistic. I home educate, as the school couldn't meet his needs. This impacts my ability to work. I feel the ongoing stress of caring in my muscles and gut. It has affected my periods and my sleep. 'Carl had cancer for seven years. For the last 18 months, it was too hard for me to work. Carers' allowance is minimal. The Government needs to respect carers and see us as contributing members of society.'
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"In 2017, due to overwhelming caring responsibilities, I ignored having the flu, which then was compounded by fungal pneumonia. By the time I got to A&E, I was barely breathing and was in intensive care by that night, very close to death. "Then, in 2021, due to a biological heart quirk, bacteria from a bite Rowan gave me travelled to my brain and I developed a brain abscess. In A&E they thought I had a brain tumour and I was rushed to London for an emergency craniotomy. "It resulted in a stroke, which paralysed me down the left side entirely. I was in hospital for seven weeks. I had to learn to walk again. My husband was left with the boys for the whole summer. "I now make a proper effort to keep my appointments. But my smear test is three years overdue and I haven't been to the hairdresser since 2019! Caring for Rowan and Xander is a full-time role. The Government needs to stop targeting the vulnerable. Carers' allowance is an insult." Unpaid carers are 50% more likely to live in poverty than the rest of the population, according to shocking new figures. The charity Carers UK says unpaid carers save the government a staggering £184 billion a year, yet 1.2 million are in poverty - 400,000 of them in deep poverty - while Carers' Allowance is the lowest benefit of its kind at £83.30 a week. With approximately 12,000 people in the UK becoming unpaid carers every day, 43% of current or former unpaid carers have either developed a mental or physical health problem, or seen an existing condition worsen. And 40% of our estimated 24.9 million current unpaid carers have cancelled their own medical appointment, because of their caring roles. Speaking at the start of National Carers' Week, which runs until June 15, Helen Walker, Chief Executive at Carers UK, tells The Mirror: "Many carers feel unrecognised and at a disadvantage – facing a greater risk of poverty, social isolation, poor mental and physical health." Highlighting the difficulties of working, while caring and urging the government to provide greater recognition and financial assistance for carers, she continues: 'An estimated 600 people a day give up work to care." Andy McGowan, Policy and Practice Manager for Young Carers at the charity Carers Trust, says young carers, caring for 35 hours a week or more, are 86% less likely to obtain a degree and 46% less likely to enter employment than their peers. He says: "It's so vital to ensure they get academic, pastoral and financial support at university, so caring is not a barrier to them achieving their huge potential". Carers are being affected up and down the country by the lack of financial assistance. Children's services worker Sherene Snowdon, 42, lives in Gloucestershire with husband Lee, 46, a former gas engineer and plumber; son Jake, 19 ,and daughter Paige, seven. She cares for Lee, who sustained a brain injury five years ago, and for Paige, who has SEN. She says: "I became a carer overnight on 16 March 2020, when Lee sustained a brain injury after falling down some stairs. Seeing Lee on life support was absolutely terrifying. I was told to say my goodbyes. I was told he wouldn't be able to walk or talk, but Lee has proved everyone wrong. Lee had been home for just three weeks when he had a stroke. 'It was very stressful. My hair was falling out, I was surviving on two hours' sleep, juggling a teething baby, a young son and my husband's needs. I was told nurses would come to our home, but we never saw them. I became the sole provider for my family. Things are very tough financially. I had to sell our two cars. 'There were times when I didn't eat because I needed to prioritise food for my husband and kids. I'd look for the cheapest options – such as pot noodles that cost £1. I work full time because I have no choice, so don't get carers' allowance. And I only see my friends once a year. Caring has had a huge impact on my mental and physical health. Carers need realistic, practical support and help." Only child Rebecca Green , 23, from Liverpool, is a young carer for her mum Anne, 55, who has rheumatoid arthritis. Rebecca was in her second year at university when, in March 2023, Anne suddenly developed mobility problems. As her dad Phil died suddenly in 2017, she became Anne's sole carer. Rebecca says: 'It's almost the parent-child relationship in reverse. :Getting Mum a diagnosis was a lengthy process. It took a year to get medication, which she had an adverse reaction to. I was back and forth between university and Mum, constantly worried. 'I deferred two essays and the stress impacted my third year too. I didn't graduate on time. It's still up in the air if I'll graduate this year. 'I think the Government needs to recognise the different forms caring can take and include more support and validation. As a carer, the freedom to choose gets taken away. I worry, will I have a job I want? Will I be able to move out and have kids? I don't know.' Young carers needing support should visit to find support in your area. Full-time carer Nikki Knight, 39, lives in the Forest of Dean, Gloucestershire, with husband Ollie, 41 a teacher, and their children Sophie, 12, and Toby, 7, who has ADHD and was diagnosed with acute lymphoblastic leukaemia in 2022. He is currently recovering from a bone marrow transplant in January. Former social worker Nikki, who quit work in September 2023 to care for him, says: 'I've been coming to terms with Toby's diagnosis while navigating all the appointments, paperwork and healthcare plans. 'I live in fight or flight mode. From the moment I get up to the moment I go to sleep I'm on the go. I often fall asleep on the sofa - too tired to get to bed. 'I've delayed my follow up clinic and physio appointments after a fall, to fit in around his needs. My dental and eye check ups are overdue. Toby is clinically vulnerable. Only my husband and I are trained in central line care for him. We get Disability Living Allowance, but going from a two-income family to just one was a shock.' Author of 5 minute gratitude journal for oncology parents, Nikki blogs about her experiences Author and blogger Sarah Ziegel, 64, lives in Richmond, south west London, with husband Jonathan, 62, a government lawyer, and their four autistic children – twins Benjamin and Thomas, 26; Hector, 23 and Marcus, 16. Since she began caring, she has had a breakdown and developed adrenal fatigue, causing low energy, insomnia and digestive problems. As a carer, you are just surviving to care for your loved ones. she said "Adrenal fatigue results from years of living on adrenaline." 'I asked the GP for counselling but only got one session." she said "It isn't possible for me to work. The real issue for parent carers is that there is no one to take over and carers' allowance is so low it is an insult." 'My sons all live at home, but you can't claim housing or living costs for a child over 18. New Zealand pays family carers - why can't the UK?' *Sarah is author of Marching to a Different Beat about her family's autism journey. Self-employed ADHD coach Ana Bonasera, 33, from Oxford, is married to Jordan Hands, 31, and has five children. Four have SEN, or are awaiting diagnosis. Nathaniel, 12, is awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment; twins Jude and Luca, 11, have autism and learning disabilities; Spencer, 7, is awaiting an autism and ADHD assessment Daughter Mila, two, does not have special needs. Ana says: 'Being a parent-carer has definitely impacted my mental and physical health. Once, I was so overwhelmed I ran out in the street in my nightdress with no shoes on, desperately calling my dad. 'It's difficult asking for help – it took me seven attempts to call my doctor's surgery, but they couldn't help if I didn't want medication. Soon afterwards, I had a breakdown. It was the worst state I'd ever been in. 'I realisedI needed to help myself before I could help my kids. I had some hypnotherapy, some coaching and did lots of research to work out what triggers me. It's very hard juggling work with caring responsibilities. I can't work over the summer holidays, because of lack of provision for SEN children. Having a social life is almost impossible. My husband and I hardly ever go out. Now an ADHD coach, I want to make sure other carers don't feel unworthy of help.' During carers week Ana is running a free annual event dedicated to parent carers' wellbeing. Former mental health trainer Emma Amoscato, 43, from Bedfordshire, who has a daughter Amalia, 9, and son James, 12, was a carer for her husband Carl, who was diagnosed with kidney cancer in 2017 and died in September. She now cares for James, who has AuDHD. Emma says: ''Being a carer can be all consuming. My son is autistic. I home educate, as the school couldn't meet his needs. This impacts my ability to work. I feel the ongoing stress of caring in my muscles and gut. It has affected my periods and my sleep. 'Carl had cancer for seven years. For the last 18 months, it was too hard for me to work. Carers' allowance is minimal. The Government needs to respect carers and see us as contributing members of society.'
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Author inspired by 'most amazing story' on Mirror front page wins top award
Dr Rachel Clarke wrote 'The Story of a Heart' after our story about Max Johnson and Keira Ball showed 'humanity at its finest' - she has now been awarded a top literary prize The best seller inspired by our 'Change the Law for Life' campaign has won a top literary prize after showing 'humanity at its finest'. Dr Rachel Clarke wrote 'The Story of a Heart' after reading The Mirror 's front page about Max Johnson and Keira Ball. Max, now 17, of Winsford, Cheshire, and his heart donor Keira Ball, who died aged nine, had the new organ donor law in England named after them. Five years after its introduction in May, 2020, it is credited with helping to save and transform hundreds of lives every year. Dr Clarke won the Women's Prize for Non-Fiction after her book "left a deep and long-lasting impression" on the judging panel. Today she recalled how she was inspired by our front page story which told how the siblings of Keira listened to their sister's heart beating in the chest of Max after his transplant in 2017. She said: "It was the most amazing story I had read in my life and I thought: 'I would love to tell it in a book." It has won plaudits and critical acclaim around the world. Dr Clarke recalled: "It was on the front page of the Mirror as they changed the law on organ donation. Keira's mum read the story and she sent a message to Max's mum. It simply read: 'I think your son has my daughter's heart and it is the most beautiful heart in the world'. "That started a chain of events which culminated in Keira's family meeting Max and with a stethoscope listening to her heart beating in his chest. And when I read that story I thought 'that is the most amazing story I have ever read in my life." She urged people to think about their organ donor wishes, adding: "The statistics are stark. We have 8,000 people in Britain waiting for an organ, 250 children in peril. It is through Max's story that you can make vivid the desperate need for organs. The fact that if only we talked about our organ donor decisions, we could save the lives of children. "Keira was an incredibly caring little girl. Her dad Joe said she gave her last sweets to her sisters, she loved animals and if she saw a snail in the road she moved it so no one stood on it. "Incredibly, she was in intensive care when her little sister Katelyn, then 11, turned to her doctor and said: 'Can we donate Keira's organs? I know it is what she would have wanted'. I interviewed the doctor who said that had never happened before. "Her dad Joe said yes. It was something that Keira would have loved, to save four lives. There is endless bad news about the NHS struggling with waiting lists. But behind each successful heart transplant there is an army of surgeons, doctors, nurses and specialists. "I found the absolute best of human nature, they would work through the night, they tucked a teddy under Keira's arm. This was not just exemplary medical care, it was humanity at its finest." Dr Clarke will receive £30,000 in prize money. Kavita Puri, chair of judges, said: "Humanity just shines out. It is a really remarkable book and will be read for years to come." Max was nine when he received the heart of Keira, who tragically lost her life in a car accident near her home in Barnstaple, Devon. Despite his tender years, he asked that she be included in the name for the new legislation, and it was named Max and Keira's Law. Opt out means people no longer have to carry an organ donor card. All adults in England are considered as having agreed to donate their own organs when they die unless they opt out. Last year, deemed consent was applied in 1109 cases. Max 'never forgets' his debt to Keira and is still in touch with her parents Joe and Loanna, and her siblings Bradley, 15, Katelyn, 19, and 20-year-old Keely. Loanna, 40, said that her daughter's name 'will live on forever' in the new law. She added: "So much good has come from that devastating loss for us, she has benefited so many people by donating her organs. "When I hear of Max and Keira's Law, I know that it took the two of them to make that happen." Max's dad Paul, 51, a civil servant, added: "Max has grown into a young man, with a weekend job, GCSEs to sit and a driving licence. Our thoughts never stray far from Keira and the Ball family, because none of this would have happened without them."
